[Puplove]

I get that the idea of soulmate would put pressure on someone or you...but what I found (and what also was one of the many things that made me so sure this is a true soulmate) is that we connect so naturally and easily - there never was any pressure. We both just knew, and we have a connection that goes down to our cores without the pressure or question of thrusting hopes and dreams etc -- we just ARE. And that is perfect. And that we are together makes it very peaceful and giddily joyful at the same time as it is so EASY and grounded.

I think feeling responsibility and pressure is an indication that one or both of you are hoping/wishing you'd be soulmates and want so much to make it so...but it ain't happenin. That is how my first "wish you were my soulmate" relationship went, and is a wonderful contrast to my "know you are my soulmate" treasure!

Originally Posted by Gemme

While I've had people in my life that I did/do feel connected to, it's not been romantic. Sisterly love.

Romantically, I've not had that experience and I don't know if I want it. It's such a huge amount of pressure to put on someone I think. You are my ONE and ONLY and all my hopes and dreams are going to be thrust onto you and you be assigned responsibility for them and me and my happiness FOREVER. The cosmos have declared it! Maybe I am jaded....okay, I know I am...but that spells doom from the beginning.

I tend to think along the lines of, gee, this is great. Let's try to keep this good vibe. Sometimes it works for a while and sometimes the end is short and sweet. But I don't utter those words...soul mate...even if I feel it might be appropriate. Why? It's too much damn pressure for another human being. I don't want it put on me and I won't put it on another person.