1) Communication; talk to me, discuss, debate, let me know what you think and why. Make some of the choices and don't wait for me to do everything.
2) Something to get up for in the morning; whether that's a job, a vocation, education, anything. Just something that gives you a life away from 'us'.
3) Honesty; don't lie, i'll know. Without honesty there can be no trust.
and a cheeky fourth
4) Cuddles and 'Us' time is essential; Sex is a two way street but let me take charge