I now understand how it is to be read from your point of view, I appreciate you taking the time to answer.
I find one part of your underlying premise to be untenable,
"and women use "she". However, it is not part of my original question which was a simple curiosity based linguistics question about your chosen phraseology. In light of that, I will respectfully agree to disagree on that point.
I know neither one of us wants to reopen a decade old debate. So again, thank you for your answer.