Wow, Tommi, I had no idea you were going through all of that.  I made the assumption when you didn't come back to the thread that things were clear.  I should have asked.  I tend to "hide out"/slink away/whatever fits here, too when I get bad news, so I should have thought about that and asked!  Sorry, brother.  
I didn't tell hardly anyone I had cancer prior to my colon resection.  I had a whole week and only told my best friend and the people who 
had to know at my work.
I am very, very glad that you shared with us now.  It is fantastic that you had a new love by your side through all of this.  I know it would have been much harder for me if I didn't have my partner.
It sounds like you went through a lot.  I am so glad you are on the other side.
Please take good care of you!