[Jess]

When I saw the video discussed here , I forgot it had been posted on a different thread. "Tough Guise" is the thread title.

Fellow butches ( and femme allies participating) ... while this is a interesting discussion, it feels altogether too much like a debate going on on b-f.com regarding racism and white privilege. Do we each need to become responsible and "aware" of how our actions effect those around us? YES. Do we need to pointedly make others feel at fault for a phenomenon that may or may not specifically be their fault? I don't see the gain in that line of thinking.

The Golden rule, as simple as it may be, seems to work best in all of these situations. Sometimes the simplest answer is the best. Mind you, this is not to "silence" the very thoughtful discourse that is transpiring, simply one butches thought. Guess we don't "all understand" a great deal.