[~baby~doll~]

This is my feeling and my view. i do not judge what others want or do. The idea of marriage and name changes are based on the individual and the nature of the relationship.
If W/we really want to take a feminist stand why do W/we wish to marry at all? The nature of the marital relationship has always been about property. The woman is given as property. The man receives this property and the woman takes her role as wife and care giver. In the past she tended the home and children and only later did women join the workforce. This was to help in WWII. After the war women went back to the roles they had in many cases, before the war. Marriage has always been demeaning to the woman, as it was based on the needs of the man.
The question is not about a name it is about the entire institution of marriage itself. The law sets the rules. Why is marriage limited to two individuals? Why does it exclude poly relationships? Once the marriage is made the law enforces the boundaries. The name change pales in the light and weight of the institution.
The decision was made in our household to marry in support of equality.
H and i are together because W/we want to be. There is no need of a contract in law. The contract comes from the heart and is already set in stone.
The decision for me to take H's name is easy it is a Mistress/slave relationship and i am already owned. i think it is a privilege to be allowed to take H's name.
If we really want to take a stand for feminism the entire institution should be frowned on. Marriage is an ownership relationship in every respect. Why do we want to do this at all, except to make a statement that we are now equal to the heterosexuals and can be just like them. Hmmm so if this is about taking a feminist stand W/we should dig our heels in against marriage. Just my humble opinions.