[TruTexan]

Originally Posted by Words

I haven't read every post so I'm not sure if this has been mentioned yet but one red flag would be (for me) when someone resorts to blaming every bad word/action/whatever on physical or mental health issues (either real or imagined). I haven't experienced this personally but someone very dear to me has done and it really did a number of them. (I know from my own experience with my daughter (special needs) that it's definitely a slippery slope when you start excusing negative behaviour that can be controlled but isn't.) I'm not saying (of course) that I wouldn't be supportive of a partner who had genuine health issues, but what I wouldn't do is allow them to use those issues as an excuse for treating me poorly.

Words

Words, thank you for mentioning this in your post. This is a form of abuse I forgot about and that's not been mentioned here before. Sometimes this type person with those issues uses it as an excuse to blame the victim instead of owning up to their own issues and seeking help for themselves. It's just another form of abuse In my own opinion. I know of a couple people that it's happened to. I felt bad for them because it was a nightmare to endure, the emotional and mental anguish they went through was horrible and they finally ended their relationships. I'm glad they did.Thanks for your input, keep coming back.