[Parker]

Originally Posted by Dude

Let's not shame people for doing what feels completely natural (for them.)

I totally agree with this. That is why I spoke up in the first place - bc I have been shamed in the past for not packing, for not caring about strap-on cock BJs. People make a lot of generalizations about what butches should and shouldnt do and that is when I speak up - to show people that not all butches are the same, we are all different. I always say: there are as many ways to be butch as there are butches.

And when I do speak up, I use *I* statements to make it clear that I am speaking for and about me and me only so I dont shame others or make them feel judged.