[Kobi]

Originally Posted by Jess

One of the beautiful and sometimes painfully eye opening aspects of this website that I have found and personally experienced, is the encouragement from its members and ownership to help point out when a member is using language or makes statements that can be read or felt as "othering" or demeaning or creates a sense of lesser than.

Originally Posted by Jess

I knew you meant no harm Thank you for jumping back in here! And seriously, check out the threads in The Lesbian Zone... there are lots of butches around who dance the same way you do lady!

Jess, as a lesbian butch, I found your responses to this new persons post to be very "othering".

She is coming from her "me" space just as you are coming from yours. This community is about embracing diversity. A different "me" space is diversity in action. People should not feel compelled to apologize for their "me" space.

To repeatedly direct her to the lesbian threads is othering. Lesbian butches post in this thread as well. That is just not cool.

Originally Posted by NitroChrys_Butch

I am here. I am proud of the history. I ain't goin' anywhere and neither are My brothers.

Originally Posted by NitroChrys_Butch

WELCOME! I read your opening statements twice and I was not offended. It takes time to feel your way around and know that some terms upset folks. They are triggers. Don't let it throw you. Stick around. You will get the hang of it. *W

Chris, not all butches are your "brothers". Some of the female butches who embrace their femaleness feel both othered and negated by the band of brothers mentality.

Moral of the story, before we go looking for fault in how others post, we should look at what we ourselves post and the messages they send - intentionally or unintentionally.