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Originally Posted by Mel C.
I'm not sure I understand, perhaps because I drool over male, female, tg, butch, femme, etc. I don't mean I want a relationship with anyone from certain gender identities, but I do find examples of "hot" in each group. There are some damn fine people out there, including George and Denzel.
Medusa - Since the thread is about what is on your mind, no explanation is necessary, but I would love to hear more about what you are thinking if you want to share.
Added: Is the issue calling straight men (like george and denzel) "butch"as if they are examples of what butch "should" be? If so, I totally understand why that would piss people off.
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Mel-
Thank you for getting it. Sincerely. Yes, my issue is with using a random celeb straight woman as an example of "Femme", not with following your desires to whatever gender they happen to inhabit.
That is one of the things I have always appreciated about you, that you willingly and openly talk about your desires without a caveat or an ounce of shame. And I think finding examples of "hot" in each group is a good way to put it!!
I think the thing for me as a Femme is that our invisibility is really specific. Maybe not as much as it was 10 or 20 or 30 years ago in some cases (because the world seems to be "getting it" on some tiny level about how gender isn't always about sex) but even today, I am asked what my "husband" does for a living when encountering strangers.
It's the "assumed accessory" thing.
So as a Femme when I rub up against "Lady Gaga is a Femme" or "Beyonce is a Femme" or "Damn, I wish the Femmes I know were as fine as ... insert a celeb who is not Queer, Lesbian, Gay, or for that matter who IS STRAIGHT, THIN, WHITE, or RICH" it makes me want to scream, "NO. NO. NOOOOOO."
Most days I just dance over it but yanno, sometimes you just wish people would evolve already.
I appreciate you, Mel. Thank you for the respectful dialog.
~M