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SelfMadeMan · 06-10-2015, 10:49 PM

My wife and I are licensed providers, and have had the same woman with us in our home, for 9 years. Her diagnosis is frontal temporal dementia. In the time we have had her, she has gone from walking independently, and helping feed herself to being in a hospital bed full time requiring full care, and no longer "tuned in". She has been non communicative since she came to live with us, but she used to smile and make eye contact and interact a little. It's been sad to watch her withdraw further and further over the years, and the work has gotten more and more stressful as well. It's also been rewarding, and I know we've taken wonderful care of her. We have also gotten close to her husband and now grown children. We're retiring from this work as of August 1, and she will be moved to her next home or facility, and I've struggled with the very different emotions of relief and guilt. I didn't expect the guilty feelings I guess, but the family loves her being with us. Now that our kids are all grown and out of the nest - we want to have an easier, simpler life. So in August we're moving into our beloved motor home full time, and will be living on the Gulf of Mexico! It's a dream we've had for over 10 years and it's so crazy that it's actually happening. I'm not sure I'll know what to do with myself after all of these years being responsible for another human being 24/7!

06-10-2015, 10:49 PM	#142
SelfMadeMan Member How Do You Identify?: Transsexual Man Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: Married to The Woman of My Dreams <3 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 796 Thanked 2,668 Times in 527 Posts Rep Power: 18972345	Adult Foster Care Provider My wife and I are licensed providers, and have had the same woman with us in our home, for 9 years. Her diagnosis is frontal temporal dementia. In the time we have had her, she has gone from walking independently, and helping feed herself to being in a hospital bed full time requiring full care, and no longer "tuned in". She has been non communicative since she came to live with us, but she used to smile and make eye contact and interact a little. It's been sad to watch her withdraw further and further over the years, and the work has gotten more and more stressful as well. It's also been rewarding, and I know we've taken wonderful care of her. We have also gotten close to her husband and now grown children. We're retiring from this work as of August 1, and she will be moved to her next home or facility, and I've struggled with the very different emotions of relief and guilt. I didn't expect the guilty feelings I guess, but the family loves her being with us. Now that our kids are all grown and out of the nest - we want to have an easier, simpler life. So in August we're moving into our beloved motor home full time, and will be living on the Gulf of Mexico! It's a dream we've had for over 10 years and it's so crazy that it's actually happening. I'm not sure I'll know what to do with myself after all of these years being responsible for another human being 24/7!