[iamkeri1]

I think you did very well with this approach to gender issues with your child. Letting her choose her own style and expression seems just right to me.
Smooches,
Keri

Originally Posted by greeneyedgrrl

i think it's silly there's so much hoopla over this. when my daughter was a baby/toddler i dressed her in "boys" or "girls" clothes and when she was old enough she got to decide what she wore how i did her hair, i didn't keep her gender a secret (wish i'd a thought of it). i didn't tell strangers, but those close to me knew and when she went to daycare/school it was disclosed on her paperwork. people had a really hard time when she was walking around in her little hiking boots and spiderman tee (her fave character even tho she wasn't exposed to tv), and they treated us completely different when she was wearing dresses. when she went to a school in a conservative area she chose to wear "girls" clothes for the first few years and was super girly everything had to be pink, ruffly, and sparkly, but now at 10 she goes back and forth and sometimes people think she's my son. i'm really curious to see how it goes for these children. it sounds like they thought it through way better than i did!