I don't understand it either, but I myself have personally RSVP'd no to several weddings and gotten phone calls afterward begging me to reconsider. People expressed their disbelief that I didn't pull out all the stops and make it to their wedding.
I have had a number of friends who have had this experience too. It's no small thing saying no to a wedding. And I guess it shouldn't be. A wedding is a big deal. If you can make it, you should.
I am just saying that if you have a wedding in Hawaii, don't expect your poor Aunt Mathilda to spend every dime of her savings getting there. But I have seen that over and again.
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