I was married for 25 years to an FTM, whom I adored to his death. I consider myself somewhat of a Tfemme (thanks for the shortened version, I LIKE it!) However I despise the SOFFA acronym. Partly, I guess because it has a certain amount of accuracy. When your darling is transitioning,... well let me change that to when MY darling was transitioning, I did get my feelings "sat on" a lot. Not so much by him, but particularly by his doctor who kept asking him if he had always dated "straight chicks" like me. (I found this to be inaccurate, demeaning, presumptive, and offensive.) I also had to worry that if the doc found out I wasn't a "straight chick" that maybe he would judge hubby not "man" enough to have the surgery he so desired. So no thanks, I am not a SOFFA... not even an arm chair, LOL. But y'all can be if that is your desire. Great idea for a thread by the way, RC. Thanks for starting it.
Smooches,
Keri
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