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Infamous Member
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Lesbian non-stone femme
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She, her
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Committed to being good to myself
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: West Coast
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I do not think that I have ever thrown anything back at a person in anger that is something that they shared with me about their vulnerable self.
No attacks on their person, their hopes and dreams or something personal about themselves that they struggle with.
In short: no hits below the belt.
I have had it happen to me and they are the kind of things that I can never get out of my mind or my head.
I shut down if it is really hurtful.
It is a long-term behavior for me that I learned in childhood.
I can almost feel myself turning inward like a shell clamping down over my heart.
My recent ex did it so often, I wound up not being able to open my shell to her anymore.
I don't know if I have learned any lessons. I am working hard to understand what very early red flags are so I don't get sucked into something not good again.
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~Anya~
Democracy Dies in Darkness
~Washington Post
"...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable."
UN Human Rights commissioner
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