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I have found that I have to come to a place of forgiveness- towards self, and others, way before I come to the space of making amends.
If I dont, then I am too attached to outcomes I want- how I want others to respond and as a control freak that is really an easy trap to make.
I have found that some stuff happens, and Im just not ready to rehash it. I leave it be, really, until I see that there is something in my way of being happy. I work through things on an as needed basis because if I push it on MY timeline it doesnt work, and I end up doing the work all over again anyway.
There is a time to let go. And a time to pick things up again. And sometimes I need a little perspective outside of my little bubble to find out when those times are.
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