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And to me there is an element of choice in "ID" that is different from the lack of choice involved in experience.
Am I a femme because I don't have a choice or am I a femme because I claim femme? I choose to claim the term femme because it fits me, but to me it's still a choice to have "femme" as my ID.
It is my experience that I feel both male and female. It is a choice whether I make that part of my ID. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. My choice as to whether to make it part of my ID is informed by my experience but also by other factors - social, political, personal.
I meet people *I* would think are butch, but it's not my call. I think it's the choice to claim an ID that gives you ownership of that ID. I don't know how a person IDs without making a choice.
I am innately queer, but I don't think my ID is queer until I make the choice to own my queerness.
Then again, that's what this thread is about - our different definitions.
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