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Gráinne · 05-02-2014, 05:53 PM

Hi all:

Recently my 15 year old daughter has gotten into watching Japanese anime. That's a broad topic :P, I know.

She's watching these "soap operas"-stories in about 10 or so parts in which you are a female character. The most common theme to these stories is that your character is thrown together with a male character (or characters), unwillingly at first. These male characters tend to be domineering jackasses, at least on the outside. Over the course of the story, your character is both repulsed and attracted by this bad boy and you strive to understand him and change him by the power of your kindness and love. Your character gets into scrapes and encounters where the man (or men) has to come and save you, often with a scolding. Of course, by the end of the story, you're in love.

Bleurg.

They aren't overly sexual, more like flirting and double entendres.

My questions:

1) Is this a common thing in Japanese anime culture, or the culture of Japan itself? I had a feeling that Japanese culture is much more male-oriented than the U.S.

2) I've told her that I don't find the stories realistic, affirming, or romantic. Should I be concerned about her watching these, or is it a phase that will pass? Should I say anything, and if so, how? Or let it go and let it die off naturally?

I realize this has nothing to do with b-f, or even gayness. I just thought I'd ask

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05-02-2014, 05:53 PM	#1
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,818 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,011 Thanked 7,246 Times in 1,416 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	My daughter and Japanese anime-should I be concerned? Hi all: Recently my 15 year old daughter has gotten into watching Japanese anime. That's a broad topic :P, I know. She's watching these "soap operas"-stories in about 10 or so parts in which you are a female character. The most common theme to these stories is that your character is thrown together with a male character (or characters), unwillingly at first. These male characters tend to be domineering jackasses, at least on the outside. Over the course of the story, your character is both repulsed and attracted by this bad boy and you strive to understand him and change him by the power of your kindness and love. Your character gets into scrapes and encounters where the man (or men) has to come and save you, often with a scolding. Of course, by the end of the story, you're in love. Bleurg. They aren't overly sexual, more like flirting and double entendres. My questions: 1) Is this a common thing in Japanese anime culture, or the culture of Japan itself? I had a feeling that Japanese culture is much more male-oriented than the U.S. 2) I've told her that I don't find the stories realistic, affirming, or romantic. Should I be concerned about her watching these, or is it a phase that will pass? Should I say anything, and if so, how? Or let it go and let it die off naturally? I realize this has nothing to do with b-f, or even gayness. I just thought I'd ask . __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck