[MasterfulButch]

I agree with your friend in that she being who she is would have been a contributing factor in bringing her partner to her. Equally, I think that you being who you are will be a contributing factor in you attracting a partner who is fulfilling to you. There is no right or wrong here and society needs all our different types and combinations to flourish.

If intimacy is something you want, in whatever form, then it’s my belief that you can have that. More importantly though, what do you believe? As Henry Ford said; “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't - you're right.”

The only other thought I have is to speak of the value of you, just as you are right now. You may not have been in love yet but that doesn’t mean it’s an impossibility. You’re not in a situation where you have to choose between being yourself and experiencing something you want. You can have both and when you do it will be that much more rewarding because of its authenticity.