You're all right, I know it. Normally, I'm not like this but I was already feeling a bit batted around by life and just sort of despaired.
So, I thought "What can I do for myself?" I went to the health club and hit the pool! I swam lap after lap in the sunset, with the pool lights coming on, and it was so beautiful. I love the tingly feeling of release after good exercise. Then I sat in the hot tub as a "reward", came home and fixed a good dinner, and then a friend came over and much laughter ensued. I feel much better.
As for falling in love or even dating, I know in my gut it's not the right time. Yeah, I know someone could show up at any time, but I'm not seeking it out. I know it was the right time, place and person for my friend and perhaps that sort of triggered the lonelies. I want it to be right for me, too. I think it will be, and it won't take forever. This year has been way beyond my hopes so far, so maybe!
I do agree that we all have strengths. I'm the person friends come to when they need advice and clear thinking in a situation. Other friends have the gift of hugs and nurturing. Both kinds are good
. I just realized that my entire post was my way of saying "Help, I'm sad!"
Thanks so much. I do think it's an interesting topic in its own right
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