SassyLeo posted a thread on unconditional love
http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=1053
This thread I returned to many times. I threw my back out and spent a great deal of time thinking about the topic and all the replies. I wanted to share some very important thoughts. At least to me.
Relationships are the experience of learning. A journey we engage to know and love ourselves. For whatever reason we are drawn to people. Sometimes romantically, family connections and even adversity. It seems that each relationship we are in teaches us "something" that is if we are conscious to it.
I have lived a very full and interesting life. Many experiences and relationships. When I look back, even on the most painful times, I see the value of that experience. I see the transition of relationships.... beginnings and endings. Everything meets its time. I use to make excuses and pass the blame when my heart was broken or a relationship didn't turn out quite the way I expected. I am guilty as most in walking away too soon, allowing fear to rule and sabotage.
I have learned that sometimes a romantic connection was really meant to be an awesome friendship or a friendship brews unconditional love. Sometimes our perception tricks us or is fueled by insecurity and fears. Or what if we feel lied to or deceived? Certainly we all have our limits but do we weigh the3 good against the bad or do we cling to the negative and make it much larger than it really is.
I spent 4 years entangled in a relationship I probably never should have been in. I can blame the insanity on hym and even though hy was emotionally and spiritually immature hy was simply being who hy is. It was my choice to invest and even though I loved hym with all my heart, thought hy was my soulmate, I always wanted to change hym and fit hym into a relationship mold I designed. I look back, long after the heartache and see the valuable lessons I learned. I am far more a woman after that journey.
I take risk with love and relationships because now I know that its a journey meant to be. The degree of investment depends on the reciprocation.
At this point in my life I'm not walking away. This includes my friendships. I might not like you sometimes or agree with what you but I will weigh the good and the bad to see the true value of the relationship. If I shift my sails at time its ok. I'm just going to stop closing doors and throwing up walls and learn to embrace all of my experiences.