I have this issue myself. If I become stressed out, depressed or my mind just won't turn off, I don't like someone touching me. It stems from a childhood issue and if I feel like, I am not being supported by my partner, I pull back emotionally.
I was with my ex for just under three years and when it ended, I felt horrible. I blamed myself for eight months afterwards and fell into a state of depression. In hindsight, I will have this kind of conversation with my next partner. I feel that would be an important issue to discuss.
Sit down and talk to your partner and let hym/her know your feelings. Don't allow yourself to get hurt, because the pain isn't worth it.
Zimmeh
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Originally Posted by catlady
I do not have much experience in dating, so thank you everyone for the advice.
Will I be happier if my relationship was more sexual? Yes. I still love my partner, and I understand she's asexual. If I can find a way to deal with sexual desires, then I can be happier too with lack of sex. We are very compatible but our sex drives aren't. I considered finding natural ways to decrease my libido, but I am not sure if it would be a good solution.
I've been together with her for 5 years, and she is my first relationship. We have discussed about breaking up before if I'm not happier enough, but I really just don't want sex to ruin our relationship.
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