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Old 10-14-2012, 11:01 AM   #25
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Originally Posted by AlixKnight4All View Post
Okay since it is a Singles mingle thread and I am single and want to mingle I thought I would I ask a couple of questions. What is your idea first date? Do you believe in LDR?
Now this is for both femmes and those that id as Bravehearts or Queer whatever you know those that would date us lol....not real good with the words tonight.
Did you see the date ideas thread someone started a couple of weeks ago? Lots of good ideas there.

To combine your date question and your LDR question which to me also includes an implication of having met online.... To a degree I think that LDRs can work but to ME, they can't work or even truly exist without regular in-person contact - and there is no real relationship without that contact. To ME, there is just too much that you can't possibly know about someone until you spend a lot of time together.

So for me, the first time or two (or even more) that I meet someone from online, it's not really a date, or at least not the same kind of date. We are instead just getting to know each other and check each other out, no matter how many times we've emailed or talked in the phone. I honestly for myself like to keep these first meetings very casual, not dressy or romantic, because there's just nothing that can be as awkward as doing a big romantic date then realizing that there really isnt the chemisty to sustain or justify that kind of date. Then if we discover that the chemistry is there, we can plan something much more romantic, pull out the femme finery, etc.
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