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Redsunflower · 12-14-2013, 04:49 AM

Hi there Girl_On_Fire

Thanks for this thread, it's really interesting, just thought I'd share a few thoughts of my own.

Arguments - Do you aplogize when you know you're not wrong?

No, not ever, but I will always apologise for inadvertently hurting my partner when trying to talk about something that might be sensitive. An apology goes a long way in helping to resolve things, but only if you really are sorry.
Attraction - Do you deny that someone or something else caught your eye for a just moment when asked?

I've not had much bother with this, when I'm with someone I genuinely only have eyes for them, I don't tend to notice anyone else. And if my partner feels that for someone else, I don't want to hear about it.
Sexual Satisfaction - Do you fake it or are you honest?

Faking it seems a bit pointless so I don't bother. But looking back on relationships when I was much younger, I think there was probably a lot of faking it going on, on both sides, without realising it, probably because it can take a while to figure out exactly what you want, and also learn to then ask for it.
Breath/Body Odor - Do you say something or live with it?

This one's brilliant, I love a partner who smells strongly of sweat, mud, socks, whatever, it's a total turn-on for me, and I also enjoy being with that partner in a bed that hasn't had the sheets changed in weeks and weeks and weeks. The stinkier the better, I know it's odd, but god how I love it.

I, on the other hand, prefer to smell like Armani She.
Friends - Would you tell your partner if you didn't like one their friends or just grin and bear it?

I don't believe I need to like my partner's friends but life is certainly much easier if I do. I only once had a partner whose friends were really awful, but it was mostly around not respecting our relationship, treating her as if she was still single, so yes I told my partner I didn't like it and she felt the same, so we dealt with it together and that was fine. Otherwise, I'm happy to respect my partner's friendships even if I don't care much for those people, as long as it doesn't impact on my relationship.

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Redsunflower Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: UK Posts: 459 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 548 Thanked 566 Times in 138 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	Hi there Girl_On_Fire Thanks for this thread, it's really interesting, just thought I'd share a few thoughts of my own. Arguments - Do you aplogize when you know you're not wrong? No, not ever, but I will always apologise for inadvertently hurting my partner when trying to talk about something that might be sensitive. An apology goes a long way in helping to resolve things, but only if you really are sorry. Attraction - Do you deny that someone or something else caught your eye for a just moment when asked? I've not had much bother with this, when I'm with someone I genuinely only have eyes for them, I don't tend to notice anyone else. And if my partner feels that for someone else, I don't want to hear about it. Sexual Satisfaction - Do you fake it or are you honest? Faking it seems a bit pointless so I don't bother. But looking back on relationships when I was much younger, I think there was probably a lot of faking it going on, on both sides, without realising it, probably because it can take a while to figure out exactly what you want, and also learn to then ask for it. Breath/Body Odor - Do you say something or live with it? This one's brilliant, I love a partner who smells strongly of sweat, mud, socks, whatever, it's a total turn-on for me, and I also enjoy being with that partner in a bed that hasn't had the sheets changed in weeks and weeks and weeks. The stinkier the better, I know it's odd, but god how I love it. I, on the other hand, prefer to smell like Armani She. Friends - Would you tell your partner if you didn't like one their friends or just grin and bear it? I don't believe I need to like my partner's friends but life is certainly much easier if I do. I only once had a partner whose friends were really awful, but it was mostly around not respecting our relationship, treating her as if she was still single, so yes I told my partner I didn't like it and she felt the same, so we dealt with it together and that was fine. Otherwise, I'm happy to respect my partner's friendships even if I don't care much for those people, as long as it doesn't impact on my relationship.