Would you date yourself? - Page 13

Deborah* · 10-03-2017, 08:04 PM

Yes absolutely.

Deborah

Blade · 10-03-2017, 08:21 PM

Yup, I'm a pretty decent person. I'd date me

akiza · 10-06-2017, 07:39 AM

seriously? no i wouldn't it'll be an hell worse than my dayly struggle

Tuff Stuff · 10-11-2017, 09:40 PM

Yes, I would definitely date myself.
It would feel like winning the lottery.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-12-2017, 12:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kobi

This was the topic of conversation at dinner tonight.

This has nothing to do with the labels you use i.e. I am a guy and I dont date guys or I am butch and dont date butches.

It is about you as a person. So take a look at your strengths, weaknesses, quirks/quirkiness, where you are in life, where you plan on going in life, how you prefer to live your life etc.

And decide....would you date you? Why? Why not?

Would I date a butch, sexually dominant version of myself?

No. Because I need someone that *compliments* my strengths and weaknesses, that interlinks with the way I work, no a carbon copy of my personality traits, that wouldn't work. That's like two puzzle pieces of the same shape.

I'm a quiet living extrovert that likes gregarious introverts. It works better than two extroverts. Two extroverts don't ever shut the fuck up.

I like people who have strong points where I suck.

Two people who are very chill about the same things don't ever make decisions, and stubborn about the same things, never make compromises.

Having similar values/needs/wants in a relationship would be great, yes. And similar interests would be fantastic. But that's about the only places I would find it beneficial.

too much similarity - we'd fight too much.

Esme nha Maire · 01-08-2018, 10:13 PM

I'd give it a go, but more with a view to making friends than finding a partner. I'd be concerned that with identical weaknesses, as a couple we'd screw up twice as bad on the things that I screw up on. I think I need that sense of occasional delightful surprise you get from an Other. But at least I'd know I'm completely trustworthy, and affectionate. Plus there'd be little sense of mystery to a relationship. Could be fun to double-date with, we'd likely cause minor havoc now and then with our respective dates!

(this is a fun thread - some of the responses here have had me in stitches!)

cathexis · 01-08-2018, 11:55 PM

Would be intrigued, but would rather hang out or else with.

Go out on a date, naw ... she's too boisterous and loud. You never know what she's going to say next.

Lovely · 01-22-2018, 11:31 PM

Yes, I would date myself. I'm kinda fun to date.

cathexis · 01-23-2018, 01:54 AM

Would definitely depend on the type of activity.
Gambling or Scrabble: yes
Chatterbox type activities: absolutely not - would lose some friends

Movies or any other activity not requiring conversation: absolutely
A party: not on my word

firecat242 · 05-01-2018, 09:52 AM

I had been dating myself...but had to break it off because I was in it just for the sex.

JDeere · 05-01-2018, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by firecat242

I had been dating myself...but had to break it off because I was in it just for the sex.

^ this is epic! Thanks for the laugh!

Bèsame* · 05-01-2018, 09:39 PM

sure...I'm a good kisser and I'm tall enough!

(Not that height really mattered, but it would be nice)

introverted1 · 05-15-2018, 03:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by firecat242

I had been dating myself...but had to break it off because I was in it just for the sex.

Brilliant, LOL!!!

WheatToast · 10-28-2018, 04:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by introverted1

Brilliant, LOL!!!

While I do like/love me and consider myself my closest ally, trouble is, I like femmes and I'm just not femme enough for me. Being single, me and I have a friends-with-benefits thing that'll do for now, but if the right femme comes along, I am breaking up with me.

"It's not you, it's me, Wheat."

Chad · 10-28-2018, 05:06 PM

Heck no!

I am butch and I like femmes. I am stubborn and a workaholic. I am never at ease.

Gráinne · 08-27-2024, 10:59 AM

I don't know how I missed this thread when it came out a decade (!) ago. I'm just now "coming back" and re-bumping things myself.

I read the whole thing, and among the laughs and deep thoughts (and pain from some), maybe a better question is: Do you like/love yourself?

For you can't hope to have a great relationship with anyone else until you have such a relationship with yourself.

As for myself, I think if I were to meet myself right now, I'd like my humor, strength, intelligence, and sure, nice looks

, but I'd recognize a troubled person going through a lot. Not that it makes me unavailable, but I'd be cautious about getting involved until a later time.

But I'd also see someone who wants to work hard and get to a great place and is hella smart enough to know how to do it. So yes, I'd date myself and go along for a bumpy but fun ride!

A. Spectre · 08-29-2024, 10:13 AM

Honeybee:

Girl, I been thinkin' 'bout us
And you know I ain't good at this stuff
But these feelings pilin' up won't give me no rest
This might come out a little crazy
A little sideways, yeah maybe
I don't know how long it'll take me
But I'll do my best

You'll be my soft and sweet
I'll be your strong and steady
You'll be my glass of wine
I'll be your shot of whiskey
You'll be my sunny day
I'll be your shade tree
You'll be my honeysuckle
I'll be your honey bee

If you'll be my Louisiana
I'll be your Mississippi
You'll be my Little Loretta
I'll be your Conway Twitty
You'll be my sugar, baby
I'll be your sweet iced tea
You'll be my honeysuckle
I'll be your honey bee

Complement, not compliment. Well okay, a little of both.

Kätzchen · 08-29-2024, 11:04 AM

Yes. Absolutely.

I date myself every day. I spoil myself everyday. I take wonderful care of me. I hold high regard for myself and do all I can to nurture my independence and to bolster my resilience.

Because I’m worthy of every good intentional act of love and care I give to myself. I honor my body and my existence in life.

<<<<<<<~~~ I save my kisses and use my lips for beautiful acts of love and kindness.

Stone-Butch · 08-29-2024, 02:11 PM

Being Stone I would have to say no. However if I were able to make a change I defintely would date myself as a Stone Femme. I have been told I am easy going, thoughtful, respectful and fun to be around. I had a 22 yr. relationship and a 12 yr. relationship so I must have been a good first date. lol.

Bèsame* · 08-29-2024, 04:16 PM

Sure I would! I'm fun and very spontaneous. I definitely am caring and would give 100%. It's not all about me. I'll listen and communicate on all levels.

And, I'm a good kisser!

10-03-2017, 08:21 PM	#242
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,499 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,853 Thanked 14,414 Times in 4,056 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Yup, I'm a pretty decent person. I'd date me __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

01-22-2018, 11:31 PM	#248
Lovely Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Jan 2018 Location: Canada Posts: 27 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 75 Thanked 73 Times in 21 Posts Rep Power: 429505	Absolutely! Yes, I would date myself. I'm kinda fun to date.

01-23-2018, 01:54 AM	#249
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,709 Times in 1,604 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Would definitely depend on the type of activity. Gambling or Scrabble: yes Chatterbox type activities: absolutely not - would lose some friends Movies or any other activity not requiring conversation: absolutely A party: not on my word __________________ Insurrection is an art, and like all arts has its own laws. -----Leon Trotsky

05-01-2018, 09:52 AM	#250
firecat242 Member How Do You Identify?: Woman first...anything after that is on a need to know basis. Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: I am in a committed relationship with myself. Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Right here. Right now. Posts: 162 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 415 Thanked 538 Times in 135 Posts Rep Power: 5753372	I had been dating myself...but had to break it off because I was in it just for the sex. __________________

05-01-2018, 09:39 PM	#252
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,092 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 28,685 Thanked 40,457 Times in 10,489 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	sure...I'm a good kisser and I'm tall enough! (Not that height really mattered, but it would be nice) __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

10-03-2017, 08:04 PM	#241
Deborah* Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: single and not looking Join Date: Sep 2017 Location: Texas Posts: 354 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 304 Thanked 420 Times in 180 Posts Rep Power: 2658954	Yes absolutely. Deborah

10-06-2017, 07:39 AM	#243
akiza Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: khaleessi lol ^-^ just go with aki,ana,kit or princess Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2017 Location: Congo-brazzaville Posts: 774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 318 Thanked 624 Times in 286 Posts Rep Power: 0	seriously? no i wouldn't it'll be an hell worse than my dayly struggle

10-11-2017, 09:40 PM	#244
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,319 Times in 506 Posts Rep Power: 9408453	Yes, I would definitely date myself. It would feel like winning the lottery.

01-08-2018, 10:13 PM	#246
Esme nha Maire Member How Do You Identify?: Tomboyish eccentric antique femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2017 Location: UK Posts: 642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,196 Thanked 2,085 Times in 541 Posts Rep Power: 19310769	I'd give it a go, but more with a view to making friends than finding a partner. I'd be concerned that with identical weaknesses, as a couple we'd screw up twice as bad on the things that I screw up on. I think I need that sense of occasional delightful surprise you get from an Other. But at least I'd know I'm completely trustworthy, and affectionate. Plus there'd be little sense of mystery to a relationship. Could be fun to double-date with, we'd likely cause minor havoc now and then with our respective dates! (this is a fun thread - some of the responses here have had me in stitches!)

01-08-2018, 11:55 PM	#247
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,709 Times in 1,604 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Would be intrigued, but would rather hang out or else with. Go out on a date, naw ... she's too boisterous and loud. You never know what she's going to say next.

10-28-2018, 05:06 PM	#255
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,317 Times in 5,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Heck no! I am butch and I like femmes. I am stubborn and a workaholic. I am never at ease.

08-27-2024, 10:59 AM	#256
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,848 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,075 Thanked 7,345 Times in 1,442 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I don't know how I missed this thread when it came out a decade (!) ago. I'm just now "coming back" and re-bumping things myself. I read the whole thing, and among the laughs and deep thoughts (and pain from some), maybe a better question is: Do you like/love yourself? For you can't hope to have a great relationship with anyone else until you have such a relationship with yourself. As for myself, I think if I were to meet myself right now, I'd like my humor, strength, intelligence, and sure, nice looks , but I'd recognize a troubled person going through a lot. Not that it makes me unavailable, but I'd be cautious about getting involved until a later time. But I'd also see someone who wants to work hard and get to a great place and is hella smart enough to know how to do it. So yes, I'd date myself and go along for a bumpy but fun ride! __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

08-29-2024, 10:13 AM	#257
A. Spectre Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch dominant lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She, Baby Boi Relationship Status: She is my sunrise and sunset. Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: North Shore Chicago Posts: 1,567 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,015 Thanked 11,038 Times in 1,492 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	I will answer this with a Blake Shelton song. Honeybee: Girl, I been thinkin' 'bout us And you know I ain't good at this stuff But these feelings pilin' up won't give me no rest This might come out a little crazy A little sideways, yeah maybe I don't know how long it'll take me But I'll do my best You'll be my soft and sweet I'll be your strong and steady You'll be my glass of wine I'll be your shot of whiskey You'll be my sunny day I'll be your shade tree You'll be my honeysuckle I'll be your honey bee If you'll be my Louisiana I'll be your Mississippi You'll be my Little Loretta I'll be your Conway Twitty You'll be my sugar, baby I'll be your sweet iced tea You'll be my honeysuckle I'll be your honey bee Complement, not compliment. Well okay, a little of both. __________________ * * *Joy and Sorrow are Inseparable

08-29-2024, 11:04 AM	#258
Kätzchen Senior Member How Do You Identify?: — Femme — Join Date: May 2010 Location: Trying to live a good life during the darkest of times. Posts: 15,540 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 33,300 Thanked 32,965 Times in 10,328 Posts Rep Power: 21474866	Yes. Absolutely. I date myself every day. I spoil myself everyday. I take wonderful care of me. I hold high regard for myself and do all I can to nurture my independence and to bolster my resilience. Because I’m worthy of every good intentional act of love and care I give to myself. I honor my body and my existence in life. <<<<<<<~~~ I save my kisses and use my lips for beautiful acts of love and kindness.

08-29-2024, 02:11 PM	#259
Stone-Butch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 3,500 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,886 Thanked 9,051 Times in 2,897 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Would You Date Yourself Being Stone I would have to say no. However if I were able to make a change I defintely would date myself as a Stone Femme. I have been told I am easy going, thoughtful, respectful and fun to be around. I had a 22 yr. relationship and a 12 yr. relationship so I must have been a good first date. lol.

08-29-2024, 04:16 PM	#260
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,092 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 28,685 Thanked 40,457 Times in 10,489 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Sure I would! I'm fun and very spontaneous. I definitely am caring and would give 100%. It's not all about me. I'll listen and communicate on all levels. And, I'm a good kisser! __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.