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When you're down, what do you do to pick yourself up?
"When you're down and out, feeling small"
Enough song quoting... I can do that all day! When you're feeling low or blue or in a funk or sad...whatever, not quite yourself, what do you do to pick yourself up? It doesn't have to be huge. Sometimes it may redirect you for only a little while but it helps you to not continue to revolve in the doldrums. For myself, today I popped in Disney's version of Rodger's and Hammerstein's Cinderella and I played "The Sweetest Sounds" repeatedly until I decided it was enough. I love that song and it had been on my mind. The entire movie makes me smile. |
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I force myself into the shower, and then throw myself out of the house to go to the grocery, for example. Cleaning also helps. Sometimes watching a funny DVD, or listening to pick-me-up music.
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I go outdoors. I feel the sun on my back, or the wind on my cheek. I watch the clouds or the trees or the birds. Basically, I get out of my head.
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I have a few feel good songs that make me happy just in listening to them.
I play with make-up. I plan my next event at the club-details keep me entertained. I text/call my best butch friend. I take a short walk---or a long bath.
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I think complete and total distraction is the name of the game for me.
Having an involved conversation with someone (not just the uh huh and ok type conversation) this is even more effective if it involves leaving the house - even though I hate doing such. Playing a MMORPG - (I can't help it, I can't think about more than the game with 12 billion things going on at once) Reading a very interesting and high tempo book Adjusting my meds Doing some projects around the house treadmill! (with music blasting) and last but not least - making sure I am not avoiding an issue. Face it, acknowledge it, grieve it if need be, then start the process of moving on. |
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For so many, MANY years when i was married to a bio man i was so lost, went through such depression and felt there was no escape.
This song honestly saved my life, more times than i can count. I used to sing it in the shower and cry and cry. I would come out of my shower feeling strong again. Sometimes there is a song, a movie, a certain friend that can help pull you out of dark times. Hold on for one more day and things will go your way...that is how i deal with the down times.
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If a good cry is needed, I sit and have a good one. I do Yoga, go for a walk, dance to music - even when I'm on crutches, I'll do a Waltz or Foxtrot. For me, it's about releasing the energy making me feel down or irritated - if that makes sense?
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During a similar time for me, my song was Destiny Child's Survivor. (grammar aside, you have to make it work with the music sometimes). I'm a Survivor. I'm not gon' give up. I'm not gon' stop. I will work harder. I'm a Survivor. I'm gonna make it. I will survive. Keep on survivin'. Positive music or very expressive music is always very helpful. When I'm emotional, I like the music LOUD!!!! If I'm pissed (at self or others) and trying to shake it and calm myself, LOUD music in the car is the best! Something with either a lot of guitar or a lot of bass or excellent harmonies so I can sing along. Whatever it is, it has to be passionate! Bryan Adams is good for harmonies and guitar. I used to clear the furniture from the floor and dance. Usually something slow and expressive like Sarah McLachlan's Angel. I haven't done that in YEARS. I have the space for it now so I can take it back up. Singing is also very therapeutic for me especially if I can get something new and challenging and conquer it. I can blow off steam AND add a new song to my repertoire. |
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Have to agree with Liam, just getting out in the air usually gives me a lift. A walk with my pooch usually helps a lot. I start getting silly and focused on him and his cuteness and stress begins to decline.
When my spa was working, that was a way for me to kick back, relax and allow my muscles to let go. That helped, too. |
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I call a close friend or start texting her .. That almost always works she can get me laughing just by a few lines. "smiles"
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It sounds completely OCD, and I'm sure it could be classified as such...but when I'm down sometimes I will feel almost instantly better when I clean. I totally get into my head and get lost in a zone that helps me sort through what's at the root of my sadness. The same thing goes for working outside in the yard. I can have little conversations in my brain and simultaneously work stuff through that can get stuck on a cellular level. Generally though, a good talk with my partner, some snuggle time with her and my girls, sometimes a good cry...and I'm all set!
And if all else fails, I have a heart to heart with my mom. She wasn't always the best mom but now that she's gone she's a fantastic listener! |
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I go fishing then hopefully have a cold beer while I clean said fish that I caught. By the time I clean up the mess, I am usually over whatever had me down.
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Normally, I will stick my headphones on, grab my camera and tripod, and head out on a hike. The music plus the beauty of nature can really put things in perspective for me and cheer me up. |
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Watch Rocky Horror Call a friend Go for a walk Drive with my sun roof open and Paradise City playing really loud Go to accupuncture Get a mani/pedi Read something uplifting And yes, listen to Disney Music like Bed Knobs and Brooksticks, Mary Poppins or Aristocats Great thread idea, can't wait to see what suggestions appear.
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Talking with my gf usually helps, her voice is very soothing.
If she's not available, I'll talk with another friend of the "family". Music to me has always seemed to calm me, you know what they say about the savage beast? And I'm rather fond of retail therapy even if it's just to buy a new shirt to make me look nice, it makes me feel better. Going to church and singing praise and worship songs does wonders for me also!.
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I've been fighting the blues for a while lately ...
spend time with certain people I really enjoy and hearing their laughter has a healing touch..
I try to find some outside activity in a peaceful setting where I breathe fresh air and find "treasures" that make me smile ...from birds singing to tiny frogs to beautiful simple touches of mother nature .. I go through photos of special family members ...and favorite photos of my adventures in the past few years... I talk to my best friend from PA.. she's amazing! I go down memory lane of my times with Gramma D... I cuddle and play with the sweetest dog in the world .. I try hard not to focus on what's upsetting me so much...
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cry get tucked up in bed and read lesbian erotica (ahem) have a really really long shower play a running around game with my little girl at the park. Her laugh is infectious. Her beautiful beaming little face works pure magic on me.
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