Bringing It Up: Describe The Butch You Are

Morgan · 01-11-2012, 12:27 PM

I had come across a thread "Describe the Femme that you are" but, when I searched to find a counter part for this thread I could not....I find it interesting and would enjoy hearing from other butches on how they see themselves as individuals.

As I have aged, my views of myself have not so much changed, but have developed and brought me to the place I am today. I look back 10, 20 and 30 years ago and it makes me laugh, I thought I was the toughest, baddest, fucking butch around....and as the years went by, I realized I am not that bad...tough yes, strong definitely and well although my wildest years are behind me, I am still pretty wild.

I am not afraid of the soft, sensitive side of me, I thought it was a weakness years before, but I can embrace it.....yes, I am a woman. I identify with female pronouns because that is how I feel....when I first came out in my teens, I did not like this, I wanted to identify as a male, but like I said I have come to be okay with who I am. I say this for myself and would never judge anyone, I am me, and I am learning it is okay to have my own opinion of me.

I am at times impulsive, but it is alright, I find myself growing daily....I learn from my mistakes, pick myself up and go on. I don't blame others for the things that happen to me, I don't like chaos and I hate drama....

Ok now for the good things about me....I am great with my hands, I can fix anything, design anything, create anything. I am a visual and sensual person, I love to gaze at the stars, walk along the beach, smell wild flowers, breathe in and take in all life has to offer. I love dancing, candle light dinners with a wonderful femme, and long nature walks....

I can be wild and aggresive, passionate and sensual, or playful and serious.... I sometimes wonder if I will ever grow up, but then again I wonder why I would want to....yes, I would want to take care of a femme in my life, but I know it is okay to have a playful side, a silly side that does not need to change.

I would want the femme in my life to feel safe, to feel protected and to know she has all the love and support possible... I would want her to feel she always has a safe place to land. There would be no question about her being treated special....I am very much a gentle wo(man), doors open, order first, sit first, etc, etc.....

I am sure I will think of more things, but for now, this is all I have to say...I would enjoy hearing from others.

Stud_puppy1991 · 01-13-2012, 01:02 PM

The butch I am...

For starters, I am a young butch, so there's still things in my young life that I have yet to discover and to learn. My journey to know has not been an easy one at all, for I have had a very hard life and had to grow up way too fast. At 20, that's not such an easy thing for me to do at all. Makes me wish that I could slow it all down at times. Still, through it, I've had some fun and crazy times to tie in with all the hard ones. I think the hardest thing for me was when I lost my father at 18. That experience there really opened up my eyes and made me gradually become stronger, and from it, I learned to cherish things in my life a lot more. The butch I am is also a fighter, and will stop at nothing to win over whatever struggle I may be facing. The butch I am, is simple, yet all one person. And I will stop at nothing to help someone, even if that means sacrificing my own happiness to do so. More than that, the butch I am..is human.

Tcountry · 01-14-2012, 03:20 AM

I am simple yet complicated ...
I have history, a past, a present, a future
goals... dreams... and a strong work ethic
I am almost always positive... everything happens for a reason
I am a spiritual Christian who doesn't judge others
I am strong & handy... stubborn & stern(at times)
I am gentle, loving, & kind... with a warm smile
I am versatile... hy, she, sis, mister...depending on occasion & company
I am constantly learning
I am a thinker/ problem solver
I am a trusted vault to my closest friends
I am respectable dependable honest & organized
I am Butch ....slacks & tie or work boots & jeans
I am a detail oriented cheezy romantic
I am a true Country Boi who can survive the city
I am lover of watching the earth rotate, water, & "feel good" movies

*tip hat*

Merlin · 01-17-2012, 03:32 PM

A walking emotional nightmare but like Marilyn Monroe famously said “I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”

Mr Nice Guy · 01-17-2012, 03:51 PM

I'm an old school butch who's sensitive, loving, loyal, kind, too sweet and always there for those in need. I have a big soft center that I hide from the world but share with those I care about. Sometimes I've been known as the mean looking lesbian. That's just my hard ass shell. But if you know me then you know the truth.

clay · 01-17-2012, 04:22 PM

Those 5 letters are just a "description of me...and in NO WAY makes who I am inside or in my heart!
I am a true southern gentlewomyn...with manners, courtesy, respect, and gentleness abounding.
I am of the old fashioned, old school breed...one who will open doors, pull out chairs, walk on outside of and offer arm to a lady, help her with her coat, even helping to get her hair out from under the collar and prettily displayed against her soft shoulders.
I will wait for her....patiently..never rushing her., as she gets dressed for our date. I will look at her with tears in my eyes when she emerges from her room...seeing how stunningly beautiful she looks!!!
I will shop with her for hours, carrying her parcels. I will rub her feet as we sit in the food court sipping an ice cold beverage while she regains her momentum to "shop til she drops" again!
I will order for her if I am acquainted with her likes and dislikes, OR if she tells me what she would want, and I will give the whole order.
I am attuned to her at all times.
I will always appreciate her...as she is an incredible gift...she has given of herself to me..and I can be entrusted with that awesome gift!
I "get", comprehend, and validate Her feminine mystique!
I wil always acknowledge her, validate her existence, and put her above all else.
I will watch chick flicks with her, wiping away tears at the sappy parts, and handing those same tears back to her as diamonds. I will be teary eyed and sensitive along with her.
I will cherish her like a true and priceless trasure she is.
I will never take her for granted!
I am a best friend...to many
I am a confidant, one that keeps those things sacred!
I will hold her sacred in all ways..sharing intimacy only between ourselves!
I will lay down my life for the woman I love and who owns my heart!
She will have my undying loyalty and committment should our hearts beat as one.
I will treat her like an equal, always..and we will walk side by side...never "owning" one another....yet connected by our hearts!
I can cook, clean, mow a lawn, fix a flat, iron a silk piece (steam it rather) mend a boo boo with a kiss and a bandaid, and I can fight fiercely for our lives. I have won many battles on the battlefield of life..and that is who I am today..a culmination of love past..love lost..and love remains a constant in my heart..never making me jaded, cynical, or bitter. I chose those pathways, and I walked them...I took lessons from them, and made changes from them..positive changes....
So I am many things....an incredibly devoted friend, a loyal companion, a soft hearted, sensitive, compassionate gentle womyn...and it is nye impossible to "describe" one's self..for in the end..what really matters is who you are when with another person...words are just descriptions..so I am a human being with an amazing heart and I have moral compass, and turpitude. I am old fashioned, and old schooled...as I will always, always put the ladies first..and when I meet HER..she will decide for herself what kind of a BUTCH I am..as she will see deeply inside and know my heart..that is where my "butch" lives.

Sachita · 05-18-2012, 05:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr Nice Guy

I'm an old school butch who's sensitive, loving, loyal, kind, too sweet and always there for those in need. I have a big soft center that I hide from the world but share with those I care about. Sometimes I've been known as the mean looking lesbian. That's just my hard ass shell. But if you know me then you know the truth.

You are an amazing person and because you can do soooo much makes you also an amazing butch my friend.

01-11-2012, 12:27 PM	#1
Morgan Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, hy, hym, does not matter Relationship Status: I am enjoying life.... Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Arizona Posts: 643 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,753 Thanked 1,604 Times in 411 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Bringing It Up: Describe The Butch You Are I had come across a thread "Describe the Femme that you are" but, when I searched to find a counter part for this thread I could not....I find it interesting and would enjoy hearing from other butches on how they see themselves as individuals. As I have aged, my views of myself have not so much changed, but have developed and brought me to the place I am today. I look back 10, 20 and 30 years ago and it makes me laugh, I thought I was the toughest, baddest, fucking butch around....and as the years went by, I realized I am not that bad...tough yes, strong definitely and well although my wildest years are behind me, I am still pretty wild. I am not afraid of the soft, sensitive side of me, I thought it was a weakness years before, but I can embrace it.....yes, I am a woman. I identify with female pronouns because that is how I feel....when I first came out in my teens, I did not like this, I wanted to identify as a male, but like I said I have come to be okay with who I am. I say this for myself and would never judge anyone, I am me, and I am learning it is okay to have my own opinion of me. I am at times impulsive, but it is alright, I find myself growing daily....I learn from my mistakes, pick myself up and go on. I don't blame others for the things that happen to me, I don't like chaos and I hate drama.... Ok now for the good things about me....I am great with my hands, I can fix anything, design anything, create anything. I am a visual and sensual person, I love to gaze at the stars, walk along the beach, smell wild flowers, breathe in and take in all life has to offer. I love dancing, candle light dinners with a wonderful femme, and long nature walks.... I can be wild and aggresive, passionate and sensual, or playful and serious.... I sometimes wonder if I will ever grow up, but then again I wonder why I would want to....yes, I would want to take care of a femme in my life, but I know it is okay to have a playful side, a silly side that does not need to change. I would want the femme in my life to feel safe, to feel protected and to know she has all the love and support possible... I would want her to feel she always has a safe place to land. There would be no question about her being treated special....I am very much a gentle wo(man), doors open, order first, sit first, etc, etc..... I am sure I will think of more things, but for now, this is all I have to say...I would enjoy hearing from others. __________________ “If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.” Robert Fritz

01-14-2012, 03:20 AM	#3
Tcountry Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Country Boi Preferred Pronoun?: call it as u see it Relationship Status: Completely...complete ;) Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Either at the beach or in the pool Posts: 1,665 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,929 Thanked 4,287 Times in 1,181 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	T defined... I am simple yet complicated ... I have history, a past, a present, a future goals... dreams... and a strong work ethic I am almost always positive... everything happens for a reason I am a spiritual Christian who doesn't judge others I am strong & handy... stubborn & stern(at times) I am gentle, loving, & kind... with a warm smile I am versatile... hy, she, sis, mister...depending on occasion & company I am constantly learning I am a thinker/ problem solver I am a trusted vault to my closest friends I am respectable dependable honest & organized I am Butch ....slacks & tie or work boots & jeans I am a detail oriented cheezy romantic I am a true Country Boi who can survive the city I am lover of watching the earth rotate, water, & "feel good" movies tip hat __________________ "You don't Find life worth living; You MAKE IT that way"

01-17-2012, 03:32 PM	#4
Merlin Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Knight in shining armour. Relationship Status: Spoken for Join Date: May 2011 Location: England Posts: 250 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 87 Thanked 547 Times in 170 Posts Rep Power: 6763777	A walking emotional nightmare but like Marilyn Monroe famously said “I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” __________________ https://youtu.be/IWvEXChflEE

01-17-2012, 04:22 PM	#6
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,104 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 96,130 Thanked 31,703 Times in 7,722 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	the Butch I am Those 5 letters are just a "description of me...and in NO WAY makes who I am inside or in my heart! I am a true southern gentlewomyn...with manners, courtesy, respect, and gentleness abounding. I am of the old fashioned, old school breed...one who will open doors, pull out chairs, walk on outside of and offer arm to a lady, help her with her coat, even helping to get her hair out from under the collar and prettily displayed against her soft shoulders. I will wait for her....patiently..never rushing her., as she gets dressed for our date. I will look at her with tears in my eyes when she emerges from her room...seeing how stunningly beautiful she looks!!! I will shop with her for hours, carrying her parcels. I will rub her feet as we sit in the food court sipping an ice cold beverage while she regains her momentum to "shop til she drops" again! I will order for her if I am acquainted with her likes and dislikes, OR if she tells me what she would want, and I will give the whole order. I am attuned to her at all times. I will always appreciate her...as she is an incredible gift...she has given of herself to me..and I can be entrusted with that awesome gift! I "get", comprehend, and validate Her feminine mystique! I wil always acknowledge her, validate her existence, and put her above all else. I will watch chick flicks with her, wiping away tears at the sappy parts, and handing those same tears back to her as diamonds. I will be teary eyed and sensitive along with her. I will cherish her like a true and priceless trasure she is. I will never take her for granted! I am a best friend...to many I am a confidant, one that keeps those things sacred! I will hold her sacred in all ways..sharing intimacy only between ourselves! I will lay down my life for the woman I love and who owns my heart! She will have my undying loyalty and committment should our hearts beat as one. I will treat her like an equal, always..and we will walk side by side...never "owning" one another....yet connected by our hearts! I can cook, clean, mow a lawn, fix a flat, iron a silk piece (steam it rather) mend a boo boo with a kiss and a bandaid, and I can fight fiercely for our lives. I have won many battles on the battlefield of life..and that is who I am today..a culmination of love past..love lost..and love remains a constant in my heart..never making me jaded, cynical, or bitter. I chose those pathways, and I walked them...I took lessons from them, and made changes from them..positive changes.... So I am many things....an incredibly devoted friend, a loyal companion, a soft hearted, sensitive, compassionate gentle womyn...and it is nye impossible to "describe" one's self..for in the end..what really matters is who you are when with another person...words are just descriptions..so I am a human being with an amazing heart and I have moral compass, and turpitude. I am old fashioned, and old schooled...as I will always, always put the ladies first..and when I meet HER..she will decide for herself what kind of a BUTCH I am..as she will see deeply inside and know my heart..that is where my "butch" lives. __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

01-13-2012, 01:02 PM	#2
Stud_puppy1991 Member How Do You Identify?: butch, gentleman Preferred Pronoun?: Hy, Hym, "Hey Handsome", and also throwing in a "Sup man" or a "You're sexy" will work Relationship Status: Back to Bachelorhood Join Date: May 2011 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Posts: 586 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 499 Thanked 995 Times in 361 Posts Rep Power: 7051415	The butch I am... For starters, I am a young butch, so there's still things in my young life that I have yet to discover and to learn. My journey to know has not been an easy one at all, for I have had a very hard life and had to grow up way too fast. At 20, that's not such an easy thing for me to do at all. Makes me wish that I could slow it all down at times. Still, through it, I've had some fun and crazy times to tie in with all the hard ones. I think the hardest thing for me was when I lost my father at 18. That experience there really opened up my eyes and made me gradually become stronger, and from it, I learned to cherish things in my life a lot more. The butch I am is also a fighter, and will stop at nothing to win over whatever struggle I may be facing. The butch I am, is simple, yet all one person. And I will stop at nothing to help someone, even if that means sacrificing my own happiness to do so. More than that, the butch I am..is human.

01-17-2012, 03:51 PM	#5
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm an old school butch who's sensitive, loving, loyal, kind, too sweet and always there for those in need. I have a big soft center that I hide from the world but share with those I care about. Sometimes I've been known as the mean looking lesbian. That's just my hard ass shell. But if you know me then you know the truth.