Beyond the blues...The Mean Reds.

cinderella · 05-11-2010, 01:18 PM

Depression...not the clinical kind, but the kind that springs up every now and then, but in full raging force - The Mean Reds (a catch-phrase culled from Holly Golightly in Breakfast At Tiffany's).

I think some of you may understand...it's a desperate kind of feeling. You feel all alone with on one to turn to. You wonder what the hell you have done with your life to end up friendless and alone in what some would call 'the twilight years'. I am basically a happy person most times. I have been told by some that I am wise, comforting, give good advice, and am a great motivator. So why can't I do it for myself? It is an empty and colorless life I lead - not seeking sympathy here - my life is what I've made it. I just don't understand how I got to this place...

I started this thread, not to seek sympathy or empathy, but just wondering if anyone else has these feelings of quiet desperation, and how you handle them...I would love folks to come here and comment, purge, share experiences. Share you feelings - maybe we can help each other.

Andrew, Jr. · 05-11-2010, 01:24 PM

Yes, I have that depression. I suffered from several clinical depressions, and then once I got thru them I have discovered that I get into this state. It is worse than Hell itself. I know how you feel. It is a black hole that just sets me off. I want nothing to do with others, and lack motivation to even function in life itself.

cinderella · 05-11-2010, 02:38 PM

Andrew, I have known you for many years, and have been witness to your ups and downs. I know how especially hard it is for you, and heaven knows, you have more legitimate reasons to be depressed then I. But each one's measure of unhappiness and depression is different. The old adage of "I cried because I had no shoes, until I saw the man who had no feet." works for some, but not for all.

I am not saying that means one is insensitive to other's pain, or lacks understanding - I do understand, and I do feel the hurt of others', but that doesn't lessen mine. Everyone carries their own cross. But on the journey, we can help each other when the burden gets too heavy. Sometimes helping others lessens the weight of our own cross...

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Yes, I have that depression. I suffered from several clinical depressions, and then once I got thru them I have discovered that I get into this state. It is worse than Hell itself. I know how you feel. It is a black hole that just sets me off. I want nothing to do with others, and lack motivation to even function in life itself.

Andrew, Jr. · 05-11-2010, 03:17 PM

Yes it does. I do quite a bit of volunteer work and that has helped me a tremendous amount.

cinderella · 05-11-2010, 03:31 PM

Hmmm...food for thought. Maybe I should do the same, instead of focusing on my troubles - which I'm sure no one is interested in knowing - we all have those. It's that old axiom again: "Laugh, and the world laughs with you. Cry, and you cry alone."

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Yes it does. I do quite a bit of volunteer work and that has helped me a tremendous amount.

Apocalipstic · 05-11-2010, 03:48 PM

I also have clinical depression, so I am not sure how much I can help other than I do have ups and downs depending on life.

I have to agree with Andrew, I was very sad about the Nashville Flood and how many friends were without homes and all the devastation. We got out and helped and I feel way better now.

Good luck Cinderella, I know how sad the blues can make one! Maybe take a couple of days for you, do things you enjoy as a special treat. A fresh manicure and pedicure always pep me up and does new hair color.

I also find ironing and organizing my closet helps.

and well....Lexapro.

Andrew, Jr. · 05-11-2010, 03:50 PM

Cinderella,

One thing that I think you may find helpful is to meditate. I meditate every single day. It has helped with my anxiety, and with learning to forgive others. And I mean true, down to earth forgiveness. I still struggle with forgiveness, mind you. But I have come a long way.

Plus I have the tendency of being an empath. I can walk thru a crowd and pick up on others emotions. And I carry them on my sleeve. Or if I see a tradegy unfold on tv...it sticks with me, and I have to go to Church to pray for them. Like 9-11, it devistated me. Then came the OK Federal Building, and so on. Like Jen said with the flooding, I have found myself in Church and meditating quite a bit.

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Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Cinderella, One thing that I think you may find helpful is to meditate. I meditate every single day. It has helped with my anxiety, and with learning to forgive others. And I mean true, down to earth forgiveness. I still struggle with forgiveness, mind you. But I have come a long way. Plus I have the tendency of being an empath. I can walk thru a crowd and pick up on others emotions. And I carry them on my sleeve. Or if I see a tradegy unfold on tv...it sticks with me, and I have to go to Church to pray for them. Like 9-11, it devistated me. Then came the OK Federal Building, and so on. Like Jen said with the flooding, I have found myself in Church and meditating quite a bit.