SPIRIT DAY 10/20/10

Jess · 10-13-2010, 03:07 PM

A movement has started via Facebook and other sites to wear Purple on this date to honor the recent deaths by suicide of some of our gay youth.

You can find out more or show support at the following two links on facebook.

http://www.facebook.com/event.php?ei...0765437&ref=mf

http://www.facebook.com/event.php?ei...5982400&ref=mf

princessbelle · 10-13-2010, 04:16 PM

Thank you Jess....

It is hard to know what to do to help. At least by wearing purple on this day and walking through the mall.....well, you never know, it will at least show support.

It could be the door that is slightly opened and would help someone in trouble walk up and greet them with a smile and give you an opportunity to take their hand...

DomnNC · 10-16-2010, 12:23 AM

I'll have to make a lil run to the mall tomorrow cuz I don't think I own anything purple. It will be well worth it!

katsarecool · 10-16-2010, 12:46 AM

I have been wearing the It Gets Better purple logo on Facebook for about two weeks and have included the info and tel # for the Trevor Project under the avatar. I hope it reaches someone! I too am very saddened by all the youth in our community taking such drastic measures!

Jess · 10-19-2010, 04:28 PM

Just a reminder.... Thanks for viewing and supporting!

katsarecool · 10-19-2010, 09:47 PM

http://www.facebook.com/#!/event.php...083525&index=1

Tommi · 10-20-2010, 07:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DomnNC

I'll have to make a lil run to the mall tomorrow cuz I don't think I own anything purple. It will be well worth it!

Same here. Friend of mine suggested purple ribbon if nothing else, and making them in the design similar to those seen for Breast Cancer Awareness.

Spirit Dancer · 10-20-2010, 11:56 AM

Julie · 10-20-2010, 12:20 PM

StillettoDoll · 10-20-2010, 01:37 PM

This is such a great idea, I love it. Wish I knew about this earlier.

princessbelle · 10-20-2010, 05:26 PM

Walked around the mall today, went by the grocery store. Didn't have anyone approach me and I watched for someone that my have wanted to and been afraid. Nothing seen.

However, I did see quite a few people in purple. One group of young people maybe 8th or 9th grade had purple...course i guess it could have been school colors.

But, at least we are out there. I was proud to be a part of it.

Jess · 10-20-2010, 05:48 PM

When I picked up the boy from school today, he eagerly pointed out the big PURPLE X's sharpied onto his hands and said, " I got a ribbon too".

It seems a young girl had made hundreds of ribbons and armed herself with purple markers and put her ass on the line ( in this area, it IS a risk) to get the word out about cyber-bullying and gay bashing.

I asked him if he knew what it was all about and surprisingly, he had a clue. Mind you, he is a great kid, but he is also a young man trying to fit into a mainstream school for the first time in quite a few years and he is a senior. I was impressed that he knew anything about it, as I rather doubt that X-Box live has a game regarding gay bashing.

We ( his mother and I) had a discussion with him a few weeks ago about an off the cuff comment he had made ( in my presence) to a guy from school. While standing in line at Wally world, he eyed a "snuggie" box and chuckles stating to his friend " that is soooo gay". At which point my reaction was to turn to him and say "yes, that is why I am buying you one in every color for Christmas".

After settling down a bit and discussing it with "mom", we sat down and talked with him about the impact of such "slang". I am fully aware that it IS just something that kids are saying all the time, however, so is the N word, the S word, the J word, the M word. None of them are helpful to any conversation except promoting hate and othering. He seemed to get it and while defending the "but I didn't mean anything bad by it" position, his accepting of the purple told me he does kinda "get it".

He did mention also that he heard several guys calling the young woman ( my new hero) a "rug cruncher". Said, he didn't get it. I explained that they were calling her a dyke in reference to sexual activity. He seemed genuinely confused, as I think a couple of these guys were folks he considered "friends" and I commented that what they said is EXACTLY what the entire "purple" thing was about.

We allowed the conversation to lull itself away after that and his comment that some people are just idiots. I figured that he got it enough, at least for this moment i time.

Diva · 10-20-2010, 10:08 PM

There was a big news story on the evening news tonight...... and Austin ISD is changing their policy on bullying.

I saw lots of purple today....and when The Berry and I went for pedis this afternoon, I found purple nailpolish which wound up on my toes! So it'll be Spirit WEEK (or 2) for Diva! There's no reason we can't remember more than one day....in fact, we SHOULD!

The_Lady_Snow · 10-21-2010, 12:31 PM

Second gay teen this month takes his life — another case of anti-gay bullying

http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2010/10/s...-gay-bullying/

Jess · 10-28-2010, 03:37 PM

An HRC sponsored petition asking for the resignation of Clint McCance, from the Midland School District in Arkansas.

Clint McCance: Resign

Send a message today!

You won't believe this. Clint McCance is an elected school board member for the Midland School District in Arkansas. By definition, he is charged with the education of children in his community. On the heels of a number of suicides by teens across this country, some due to anti-gay bullying, Mr. McCance took to Facebook to share with people exactly what he thought about National Spirit Day on October 20.

Here's what a school board official, guiding the education of our children wrote: "Seriously they want me to wear purple because five queers committed suicide. The only way im wearin [sic] it for them is if they all commit suicide. I cant believe the people of this world have gotten this stupid. We are honoring the fact that they sinned and killed therselves because of their sin. REALLY PEOPLE."

McCance's anti-gay rant didn't stop there.

In response to a post critical of his vitriolic messages, Clint McCance responded: "No because being a fag doesnt give you the right to ruin the rest of our lives. If you get easily offended by being called a fag then dont tell anyone you are a fag. Keep that shit to yourself. I dont care how people decide to live their lives. They dont bother me if they keep it to thereselves. It pisses me off though that we make a special purple fag day for them. I like that fags cant procreate. I also enjoy the fact that they often give each other aids and die. If you arent against it, you might as well be for it."

These words come from a man who sits on a school board – someone who is supposed to serve as a trusted role model for all youth in his community.

Clint McCance's despicable words are unacceptable. Education officials in Arkansas have roundly condemned McCance's remarks, but that's not enough. Clint McCance must resign. Add your name to this call to action now.

To send message:
https://secure3.convio.net/hrc/site/...ion&id=959

10-13-2010, 03:07 PM	#1
Jess Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: decidedly indifferent Preferred Pronoun?: other Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Patrick Springs, VA Posts: 2,812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,247 Thanked 5,700 Times in 1,682 Posts Rep Power: 0	SPIRIT DAY 10/20/10 A movement has started via Facebook and other sites to wear Purple on this date to honor the recent deaths by suicide of some of our gay youth. You can find out more or show support at the following two links on facebook. http://www.facebook.com/event.php?ei...0765437&ref=mf http://www.facebook.com/event.php?ei...5982400&ref=mf

10-13-2010, 04:16 PM	#2
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Thank you Jess.... It is hard to know what to do to help. At least by wearing purple on this day and walking through the mall.....well, you never know, it will at least show support. It could be the door that is slightly opened and would help someone in trouble walk up and greet them with a smile and give you an opportunity to take their hand... __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou Last edited by princessbelle; 10-13-2010 at 04:19 PM.

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10-20-2010, 05:26 PM	#11
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Walked around the mall today, went by the grocery store. Didn't have anyone approach me and I watched for someone that my have wanted to and been afraid. Nothing seen. However, I did see quite a few people in purple. One group of young people maybe 8th or 9th grade had purple...course i guess it could have been school colors. But, at least we are out there. I was proud to be a part of it. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

10-20-2010, 05:48 PM	#12
Jess Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: decidedly indifferent Preferred Pronoun?: other Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Patrick Springs, VA Posts: 2,812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,247 Thanked 5,700 Times in 1,682 Posts Rep Power: 0	When I picked up the boy from school today, he eagerly pointed out the big PURPLE X's sharpied onto his hands and said, " I got a ribbon too". It seems a young girl had made hundreds of ribbons and armed herself with purple markers and put her ass on the line ( in this area, it IS a risk) to get the word out about cyber-bullying and gay bashing. I asked him if he knew what it was all about and surprisingly, he had a clue. Mind you, he is a great kid, but he is also a young man trying to fit into a mainstream school for the first time in quite a few years and he is a senior. I was impressed that he knew anything about it, as I rather doubt that X-Box live has a game regarding gay bashing. We ( his mother and I) had a discussion with him a few weeks ago about an off the cuff comment he had made ( in my presence) to a guy from school. While standing in line at Wally world, he eyed a "snuggie" box and chuckles stating to his friend " that is soooo gay". At which point my reaction was to turn to him and say "yes, that is why I am buying you one in every color for Christmas". After settling down a bit and discussing it with "mom", we sat down and talked with him about the impact of such "slang". I am fully aware that it IS just something that kids are saying all the time, however, so is the N word, the S word, the J word, the M word. None of them are helpful to any conversation except promoting hate and othering. He seemed to get it and while defending the "but I didn't mean anything bad by it" position, his accepting of the purple told me he does kinda "get it". He did mention also that he heard several guys calling the young woman ( my new hero) a "rug cruncher". Said, he didn't get it. I explained that they were calling her a dyke in reference to sexual activity. He seemed genuinely confused, as I think a couple of these guys were folks he considered "friends" and I commented that what they said is EXACTLY what the entire "purple" thing was about. We allowed the conversation to lull itself away after that and his comment that some people are just idiots. I figured that he got it enough, at least for this moment i time. Last edited by Jess; 10-20-2010 at 05:51 PM.

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Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	There was a big news story on the evening news tonight...... and Austin ISD is changing their policy on bullying. I saw lots of purple today....and when The Berry and I went for pedis this afternoon, I found purple nailpolish which wound up on my toes! So it'll be Spirit WEEK (or 2) for Diva! There's no reason we can't remember more than one day....in fact, we SHOULD!

10-21-2010, 12:31 PM	#14
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,079 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Second gay teen this month takes his life — another case of anti-gay bullying http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2010/10/s...-gay-bullying/ __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

10-28-2010, 03:37 PM	#15
Jess Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: decidedly indifferent Preferred Pronoun?: other Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Patrick Springs, VA Posts: 2,812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,247 Thanked 5,700 Times in 1,682 Posts Rep Power: 0	Arkansas school board members' hateful anti-gay tirade on Facebook An HRC sponsored petition asking for the resignation of Clint McCance, from the Midland School District in Arkansas. Clint McCance: Resign Send a message today! You won't believe this. Clint McCance is an elected school board member for the Midland School District in Arkansas. By definition, he is charged with the education of children in his community. On the heels of a number of suicides by teens across this country, some due to anti-gay bullying, Mr. McCance took to Facebook to share with people exactly what he thought about National Spirit Day on October 20. Here's what a school board official, guiding the education of our children wrote: "Seriously they want me to wear purple because five queers committed suicide. The only way im wearin [sic] it for them is if they all commit suicide. I cant believe the people of this world have gotten this stupid. We are honoring the fact that they sinned and killed therselves because of their sin. REALLY PEOPLE." McCance's anti-gay rant didn't stop there. In response to a post critical of his vitriolic messages, Clint McCance responded: "No because being a fag doesnt give you the right to ruin the rest of our lives. If you get easily offended by being called a fag then dont tell anyone you are a fag. Keep that shit to yourself. I dont care how people decide to live their lives. They dont bother me if they keep it to thereselves. It pisses me off though that we make a special purple fag day for them. I like that fags cant procreate. I also enjoy the fact that they often give each other aids and die. If you arent against it, you might as well be for it." These words come from a man who sits on a school board – someone who is supposed to serve as a trusted role model for all youth in his community. Clint McCance's despicable words are unacceptable. Education officials in Arkansas have roundly condemned McCance's remarks, but that's not enough. Clint McCance must resign. Add your name to this call to action now. To send message: https://secure3.convio.net/hrc/site/...ion&id=959