The Things You Wish You Had Not Done

Jesse · 10-23-2010, 11:19 PM

Are there things you did in your 20's that you wish you had not done now that you are older?

For me, I wish I had not wasted both money and time "experimenting" with drugs and alcohol.

I wish I had not wasted so much of my time here on earth without taking the time to really know me.

I wish I had not had a closed mind, thinking I knew more than I really did.

katsarecool · 10-23-2010, 11:26 PM

I wish I had spent a lot less time listening to others tell me how to live my life.
I wish I had taken the time to realize that I wasted many years not listening to my gut feelings about so many things rather than giving others the benefit of doubt.
I wish that I had been less generous in my life. Now that I am living on limited income and those folks are no longer around nor did they appreciate it; I could sure use that cash!!!
I wish I had spent more time with my mother.
Other than this I have no more real regrets. This is a great thread!

Rockinonahigh · 10-24-2010, 10:53 AM

I wish I had listened more and talked less.
I wish I had spent less on crazie ideas.
I wish I had taken better care of my health,now im paying for it.
I wish I had bought more land and less horses...would have worked out better.
I wish I had stoped trying to prove something cause I didnt need to,I was fine the way I was.
So much more ,but later.

Guy · 10-24-2010, 11:09 AM

I wish I wasn't sitting at that red light when the truck behind me plowed into me.

Jet · 10-24-2010, 11:49 AM

I don't regret anything when I was young. It was good a time.

Kobi · 10-24-2010, 12:07 PM

I wish I hadn't grown up. The 20's were an awesome time!

Blade · 10-24-2010, 12:10 PM

I wished I hadn't tried for so many years to make others proud of me when I know now I'm all that matters.

I wished I'd NEVER said I do, when I knew from the beginning I really didn't want to.

I wish I had not stopped in town the evening Cindy died.

Sure I wish I hadn't wasted some of the money I've spent over the years.

All in all I've learned much from my mistakes in my life and there are only a few things I can honestly say I wish I had not done.

Gemme · 10-24-2010, 12:24 PM

I wish I had not done a lot of things....marry to get out of an abusive home....spend money wastefully....make poor decisions regarding trust....as I am sure that I could get to where I am now without many of them. I'd be much better off, I dare say.

Greyson · 10-24-2010, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Tranzman

Are there things you did in your 20's that you wish you had not done now that you are older?

For me, I wish I had not wasted both money and time "experimenting" with drugs and alcohol.

I wish I had not wasted so much of my time here on earth without taking the time to really know me.

I wish I had not had a closed mind, thinking I knew more than I really did.

Ditto and what has helped me is to also realize the positive things that have come from some of my past choices. I had some life lessons to learn. I never stop learning. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.

bigbutchmistie · 10-24-2010, 01:14 PM

Buried My Mother

Chancie · 10-24-2010, 01:29 PM

I wish I had been bolder, experimented more, fooled around more, been braver about trying new things.

I wish I hadn't always worried about being a good girl, and that I had done more that was dangerous and a little risky.

I wish I taken a cross country road trip, and that I had slept with more unsuitable butches, and drunk more tequila.

cuddlyfemme · 10-24-2010, 01:36 PM

i wish i hadn't spent some of my money the way i did

Converse · 10-24-2010, 01:52 PM

I wished I hadn’t believed that time was running out and always rushed to find out what was behind every corner. Though I’m grateful that I have experienced more than many because of it, I often wonder if I missed making the most of what was around me because I was always too busy packing and planning for the next leg of my journey.

IrishGrrl · 10-24-2010, 02:01 PM

I rarely have regrets. I have learned that every action has shaped who I am as a person, and I like who I am today.

In my 20's

I wish I hadnt taken a bath in Lysol because I thought I had chiggers and read on the internet it was a home remedy.

Kenna · 10-25-2010, 04:35 PM

...wish I would have listened to my best friend and not have paid for a particular ticket.... she's very wise and knew I was wasting my money because there was no guarantee and it was sold "as/is".

....wish I wouldn't have left the Logistics field....I'd be an Operations Manager by now.

....wish I would not have wasted (spent so fast) the lump sum of money that I got last fall from my "retirement refund". Even if most of it went to bills and rent, I should have rolled it over into a Roth IRA (especially since I have no retirement fund after struggling as a single parent) and/or spent some to purchase my COBRA insurance. Yeah, I wish I woulda kept my insurance.

....after having insurance for 8 years, I wish I would not have waited so long to see a specialist about my Lupus...or left PA without talking to either of my doctors.

(dinner's almost ready, catch up with ya later...)

Random · 10-25-2010, 04:41 PM

I wish I had gone straight to college after high school..

but then again, if I did that, then I would have been on the wrong coast to get pregnant with my son...

hmmmm...

No... Every mistake I made, every regret I might have has led me to where I am and who I am now...

Nina · 10-25-2010, 04:51 PM

I've released myself from looking back...I can not turn back time...
it is counterproductive (for me) to live looking over my shoulder when I want to be moving forward with clarity of vision and strength of purpose...

I am not always able to achieve this goal, but I try...I wish to put my energy into meeting these goals rather than being sidetracked by hindsight and hindered by regrets...

Glenn · 10-25-2010, 05:09 PM

THE DAMN CIGGIES

vixenagogo · 10-25-2010, 06:16 PM

"There is nothing for you to go back and live over, or fix, or feel regret about now. Every part of your life has unfolded just right. And so - now - knowing all that you know from where you now stand, now what do you want? The answers are now coming forth to you. Go forth in joy, and get on with it."

-abraham-hicks

bright_arrow · 10-25-2010, 08:55 PM

I'd say I am sorry I screwed up my credit so bad, but it's taught me to be more careful of my finances and don't impulse buy (in big amounts, at least.. and okay maybe I still wish I hadn't a little, but that was 3-5 years ago and I have paid off every account - with documentation to prove so - and pay my bills on time if not ahead now)

I'd say I am sorry I dropped out of college, but I did so to take care of my partner

I'd say I am sorry I ignored the red flags, but it showed me that was a path and type of person I didn't want to follow

I'd say I am sorry I didn't meet you sooner, but I had to learn to love myself and more importantly, stand up for myself

So really, the only thing I wish I hadn't done was starting smoking a long time ago - but I have given it up again and doing my damnedest to stick to it.

10-23-2010, 11:19 PM	#1
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,781 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	The Things You Wish You Had Not Done Are there things you did in your 20's that you wish you had not done now that you are older? For me, I wish I had not wasted both money and time "experimenting" with drugs and alcohol. I wish I had not wasted so much of my time here on earth without taking the time to really know me. I wish I had not had a closed mind, thinking I knew more than I really did. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

10-23-2010, 11:26 PM	#2
katsarecool Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Woman Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Between Athens and Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,849 Thanked 1,765 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 323366	I wish I had spent a lot less time listening to others tell me how to live my life. I wish I had taken the time to realize that I wasted many years not listening to my gut feelings about so many things rather than giving others the benefit of doubt. I wish that I had been less generous in my life. Now that I am living on limited income and those folks are no longer around nor did they appreciate it; I could sure use that cash!!! I wish I had spent more time with my mother. Other than this I have no more real regrets. This is a great thread! __________________

10-24-2010, 12:07 PM	#6
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Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,415 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I wished I hadn't tried for so many years to make others proud of me when I know now I'm all that matters. I wished I'd NEVER said I do, when I knew from the beginning I really didn't want to. I wish I had not stopped in town the evening Cindy died. Sure I wish I hadn't wasted some of the money I've spent over the years. All in all I've learned much from my mistakes in my life and there are only a few things I can honestly say I wish I had not done. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

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10-24-2010, 10:53 AM	#3
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10-24-2010, 11:09 AM	#4
Guy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 1,858 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,258 Thanked 2,574 Times in 889 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I wish I wasn't sitting at that red light when the truck behind me plowed into me.

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Converse Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hy Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Vancouver Posts: 147 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 323 Thanked 685 Times in 105 Posts Rep Power: 2551406	I wished I hadn’t believed that time was running out and always rushed to find out what was behind every corner. Though I’m grateful that I have experienced more than many because of it, I often wonder if I missed making the most of what was around me because I was always too busy packing and planning for the next leg of my journey. __________________ I don't act this way to change the world. I act this way so that the goddamn world won't change me! -Desert Hearts

10-24-2010, 02:01 PM	#14
IrishGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Leatherdyke Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: In a relationship/non-monogamous Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 877 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 276 Thanked 1,209 Times in 366 Posts Rep Power: 2427288	I rarely have regrets. I have learned that every action has shaped who I am as a person, and I like who I am today. In my 20's I wish I hadnt taken a bath in Lysol because I thought I had chiggers and read on the internet it was a home remedy.

10-25-2010, 04:35 PM	#15
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,196 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	...wish I would have listened to my best friend and not have paid for a particular ticket.... she's very wise and knew I was wasting my money because there was no guarantee and it was sold "as/is". ....wish I wouldn't have left the Logistics field....I'd be an Operations Manager by now. ....wish I would not have wasted (spent so fast) the lump sum of money that I got last fall from my "retirement refund". Even if most of it went to bills and rent, I should have rolled it over into a Roth IRA (especially since I have no retirement fund after struggling as a single parent) and/or spent some to purchase my COBRA insurance. Yeah, I wish I woulda kept my insurance. ....after having insurance for 8 years, I wish I would not have waited so long to see a specialist about my Lupus...or left PA without talking to either of my doctors. (dinner's almost ready, catch up with ya later...)

10-25-2010, 04:41 PM	#16
Random Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: back in the land of trees and snow Posts: 2,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,017 Thanked 5,327 Times in 1,378 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I wish I had gone straight to college after high school.. but then again, if I did that, then I would have been on the wrong coast to get pregnant with my son... hmmmm... No... Every mistake I made, every regret I might have has led me to where I am and who I am now... __________________ ~Volunteer~ "It gets in your blood"

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10-25-2010, 05:09 PM	#18
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10-25-2010, 08:55 PM	#20
bright_arrow ☆ the stars are aligned ☆ How Do You Identify?: one queer mama Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: married to my Boo Daddy <3 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: nor cal Posts: 2,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,644 Thanked 9,363 Times in 2,296 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I'd say I am sorry I screwed up my credit so bad, but it's taught me to be more careful of my finances and don't impulse buy (in big amounts, at least.. and okay maybe I still wish I hadn't a little, but that was 3-5 years ago and I have paid off every account - with documentation to prove so - and pay my bills on time if not ahead now) I'd say I am sorry I dropped out of college, but I did so to take care of my partner I'd say I am sorry I ignored the red flags, but it showed me that was a path and type of person I didn't want to follow I'd say I am sorry I didn't meet you sooner, but I had to learn to love myself and more importantly, stand up for myself So really, the only thing I wish I hadn't done was starting smoking a long time ago - but I have given it up again and doing my damnedest to stick to it.