Sexual Orientation......Who does or does not have one?

[kix4funchick]

I was just curious about the whole sexual orientation thing. I have been going back and forth between pansexual and polysexual. Then I found out about Pomosexual. I like Pomosexual a whole lot better because it basically means that I do not have a sexual orientation at all. I don't feel like I should have to label myself as anything because I know what I like and that's that. I mean I'm like 10000000% attracted to female bodied people and like 0.000001/4% attracted to male bodied people. So therefore I do not feel comfortable with any of the sexual orientation labels that are out there.

What about you? Do you have a sexual orientation? If so, what is it?

[Kobi]

Just when I catch up with the vernacular, I find there is even more!

I like this concept and it seems fitting for a new generation that has far more options, opportunities, and freedoms.
With fluid sexuality, fluid gender etc. becoming so popular, it makes sense for there to be a
new label for something continuing to develop and expand.

And it makes sense to be able to explore sexuality without having to label oneself as this or that.

I'm not too thrilled with the name tho. Postmodern sounds too clinical.
And Pomosexual makes me think of someone who like sex with pomeranians.

There must be a better thing to call it.

[Soft*Silver]

I am a heterosexual. I happen to have sex with male ID'd people, whether they are male or female. I do not date femmes. I do not like to date femininzed people. Male or female. When I am in a relationship I am definitely heterosexual. The genitals have nothing to do with it. The lifestyle does.

phooey. I am just so sick of labels and what I am. You wanna know what I am? All I can definitely say is I am a femme. Everything else is subject to contemporary cultural clash. Frankly, I fuck everyone. I fall in love with special ones. I relate heterosexually from the 1950s.

Pomeranian sex made me snort my coca cola out my nose...lol...

[swagger]

I made some tshirts saying "pomosexual - because labels suck and not in a good way"

Mostly I'm something of a pomophobe though. To me, labels are language and language is labels..

I define my sexual orientation as any and all of the following: gay, queer, lesbian, dyke

[kix4funchick]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Just when I catch up with the vernacular, I find there is even more!

I like this concept and it seems fitting for a new generation that has far more options, opportunities, and freedoms.
With fluid sexuality, fluid gender etc. becoming so popular, it makes sense for there to be a
new label for something continuing to develop and expand.

And it makes sense to be able to explore sexuality without having to label oneself as this or that.

I'm not too thrilled with the name tho. Postmodern sounds too clinical.
And Pomosexual makes me think of someone who like sex with pomeranians.

There must be a better thing to call it.

Yeah, that's true. Haha, sex with pomeranians. I said the word out loud to myself and I too hate the way it sounds. We should make up a different word for it. I just like what it means. I don't like labels, but I'm mostly a lesbian although there is a very slight chance that I would even consider being with a guy again (like under 1/4 chance of it happening). But yeah, there has to be a better word for somebody who doesn't feel like they should have to label themselves.

[LipstickLola]

Originally Posted by June

How about "Human". Radical, I know.

Thank you

[atomiczombie]

I have an orientation. It's femmesensual and queer. Femmesensual means my primary attraction is to femmes. Not straight women. I claim queer because I have little in common with straight people. I just can't relate to them, and I can relate very much to queer-idenitfied folks.

[Soft*Silver]

I am glad you explained femmesensual because I thought you had been femme and were transitioning to masculine. No, I am not kidding. And I am not being derogatory. I kept silent because I didnt want to offend and I have this disdain about labels so I didnt want to ask because I was not going to ever use it in my every day life even if I knew what it was. I thought it had to do with your transitioning FtM ...that you also had to transition from femme to masculine. One of the FtMs I dated had presented as a femme lesbian for years before transitioning. I thought thats what this meant...am I explaining myself?

[Chazz]

Originally Posted by atomiczombie

I have an orientation. It's femmesensual and queer. Femmesensual means my primary attraction is to femmes. Not straight women. I claim queer because I have little in common with straight people. I just can't relate to them, and I can relate very much to queer-idenitfied folks.

Love the term "femme-sensual". Guess that makes me a "femme-sensual", butch.

I don't date straight women, either; I have little in common with them, too. It's been interesting trying to convey that to straight women (at dating sites) who contact me for a walk on the down-low.

Being a lesbian is NOT just about who I desire sexually, it's also a world view born of a lived experience as not straight, bi, trans~, etc.. A shared world view/commonality of experience is what adds to the intimacy for me.