LGBTIQ Children

jelli · 07-11-2011, 10:11 PM

I would like to know if any of you have experienced your children exploring their own sexuality and choosing to date the same sex?

What age is the teen/young adult?
Did you suspect they were experimenting with same sex or did it catch you off guard?
What concerns do you have for them?
How did you go about talking to them?
What suggestions would you give to that young person?

jelli · 07-13-2011, 07:16 PM

Really? Nobody?

jelli · 07-17-2011, 05:47 AM

W have a daughter(almost 19) who has started dating a girl. I don't see my daughter as gay. When I see them together I don't see what I see with a lot of new relationships such as chemistry. There was no doubt when I met Cruel that we had chemistry. It was hot and it was intense. Years later, people still have no doubt about us.

Recently this girl let her male(married) boss buy her shoes(wifey doesn't know) and is making comments such as "I wasn't feeling good and one of the guys said, "too bad you're a lesbian because some penis-cillin would make you feel better".

When I spoke to the girl(perhaps it wasn't my place) she usually puts it off as if she's just super friendly. I brought up about sexual harassment, about boundaries, disrespect, etc. She responded how she knows these guys would never do anything and would always be there for her.

She's know them for just over a week.

Apparently our daughter was getting upset about a few things such as the boss texting her gf all the time, but supposedly that's supposed to stop, but we'll see.

uniquetobeme · 01-27-2012, 01:53 PM

My 21 year old son is either gay or bisexual. He and his boyfriend both live with me. I don't really worry too much about him because of his sexuality, but he is 'the butch' in the relationship. His boyfriend is so infeminate (spelling) that is almost like having another girl in the house. I consult him with all my fashion questions and he helps me cook and clean :-)
I do worry about my 14 year old son. He may not be gay, but he is also infeminate (sp?) and I worry about him if it turns out that he is gay because the more girlie guys are the ones that end up being beaten and have a rough road. I don't wan't to assume my 14 year old is gay, but there are such strong signs that is. My middle son is all about the ladies. LOL...he often talked with me and says things like, 'we're the only ones in the house that like girls'
Even though I am openly gay, and was married to a woman at the time, my 21 year old hid his sexuality from us. We found out the hard way...by finding pics he had sent to other guys.
When he was younger, he was embarrassed that I was a lesbian. If we went through a drive-thru he would cover the rainbow sticker I had in my van. LOL. Now he wears a rainbow bracelet.
His father isn't very accepting of him being gay. That bothers me.

genghisfawn · 01-27-2012, 02:27 PM

My friends are a straight-presenting queer couple (FTM and drag king) with two children. The eldest is 13 and a very self-aware young lady - religiously Pagan, takes her school through an Eco-Quest program, passionate about Scouts.

Her parents were teasing her one night about having a girlfriend on Facebook (she's open to crushes on all genders.)

Dad: Isn't she your girlfriend?
Her: Daaaad!
Mom: Well, you talk to her all the time.
Her: Mooooom!
Me: Are you even interested in dating right now?
Her: *pause* I don't even know what I LIKE!
Me: Is she cute?
Her: *pause* Yes?

It was great to see a young lady who wants to wait until she's comfortable with what she likes before pursuing it. If only so many others were as secure as she is.

Greyson · 01-27-2012, 02:31 PM

"too bad you're a lesbian because some penis-cillin would make you feel better".

Your kidding me, right? This is the best this joker has got, penis-cillin? And some wonder why lesbians seem to get all the women with looks and brains. Go figure.

MsTinkerbelly · 03-05-2012, 09:01 AM

For several years I have been convinced that my daughter (18) is bi-sexual...now I am not sure what to think. She asked me what I thought about her having a sex change operation; she doesn't feel really girly and she likes to wear pants and tops.

As always I reassured her that I love her no matter what, but I am thinking she needs someone more than me to talk to about all of this. I asked her if she felt like she was a male in a female body, and she really couldn't answer me. So if I suggest counciling will that come off as me thinking something is "wrong" with her? Will I do more harm...or how do I do no harm?

I know people here have transitioned, but have your children considered this?

I have to work now, but I'll be back later.

Blessings

07-11-2011, 10:11 PM	#1
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07-13-2011, 07:16 PM	#2
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07-17-2011, 05:47 AM	#3
jelli Member How Do You Identify?: Femmilicious Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: And you said I wasn’t your type!!! Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: SC Posts: 836 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,758 Thanked 1,079 Times in 377 Posts Rep Power: 16588549	W have a daughter(almost 19) who has started dating a girl. I don't see my daughter as gay. When I see them together I don't see what I see with a lot of new relationships such as chemistry. There was no doubt when I met Cruel that we had chemistry. It was hot and it was intense. Years later, people still have no doubt about us. Recently this girl let her male(married) boss buy her shoes(wifey doesn't know) and is making comments such as "I wasn't feeling good and one of the guys said, "too bad you're a lesbian because some penis-cillin would make you feel better". When I spoke to the girl(perhaps it wasn't my place) she usually puts it off as if she's just super friendly. I brought up about sexual harassment, about boundaries, disrespect, etc. She responded how she knows these guys would never do anything and would always be there for her. She's know them for just over a week. Apparently our daughter was getting upset about a few things such as the boss texting her gf all the time, but supposedly that's supposed to stop, but we'll see. __________________ “Sometimes we make the right decision; sometimes we make the decision right.” “Every conflict is a lesson in self-discovery for both of us. Sometimes it's only hindsight that makes it worth it. For you, I would do it all again.“

01-27-2012, 01:53 PM	#4
uniquetobeme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: In an awesome relationship Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 98 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 464 Thanked 306 Times in 85 Posts Rep Power: 2537685	My 21 year old son is either gay or bisexual. He and his boyfriend both live with me. I don't really worry too much about him because of his sexuality, but he is 'the butch' in the relationship. His boyfriend is so infeminate (spelling) that is almost like having another girl in the house. I consult him with all my fashion questions and he helps me cook and clean :-) I do worry about my 14 year old son. He may not be gay, but he is also infeminate (sp?) and I worry about him if it turns out that he is gay because the more girlie guys are the ones that end up being beaten and have a rough road. I don't wan't to assume my 14 year old is gay, but there are such strong signs that is. My middle son is all about the ladies. LOL...he often talked with me and says things like, 'we're the only ones in the house that like girls' Even though I am openly gay, and was married to a woman at the time, my 21 year old hid his sexuality from us. We found out the hard way...by finding pics he had sent to other guys. When he was younger, he was embarrassed that I was a lesbian. If we went through a drive-thru he would cover the rainbow sticker I had in my van. LOL. Now he wears a rainbow bracelet. His father isn't very accepting of him being gay. That bothers me. __________________ Unique

01-27-2012, 02:31 PM	#6
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01-27-2012, 02:27 PM	#5
genghisfawn Member How Do You Identify?: Femme/Gentlewoman Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: Happily married 05/17/14 Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Saskatchewan, Canada Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,056 Thanked 2,158 Times in 403 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	My friends are a straight-presenting queer couple (FTM and drag king) with two children. The eldest is 13 and a very self-aware young lady - religiously Pagan, takes her school through an Eco-Quest program, passionate about Scouts. Her parents were teasing her one night about having a girlfriend on Facebook (she's open to crushes on all genders.) Dad: Isn't she your girlfriend? Her: Daaaad! Mom: Well, you talk to her all the time. Her: Mooooom! Me: Are you even interested in dating right now? Her: pause I don't even know what I LIKE! Me: Is she cute? Her: pause Yes? It was great to see a young lady who wants to wait until she's comfortable with what she likes before pursuing it. If only so many others were as secure as she is.

03-05-2012, 09:01 AM	#7
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,908 Times in 5,019 Posts Rep Power: 0	For several years I have been convinced that my daughter (18) is bi-sexual...now I am not sure what to think. She asked me what I thought about her having a sex change operation; she doesn't feel really girly and she likes to wear pants and tops. As always I reassured her that I love her no matter what, but I am thinking she needs someone more than me to talk to about all of this. I asked her if she felt like she was a male in a female body, and she really couldn't answer me. So if I suggest counciling will that come off as me thinking something is "wrong" with her? Will I do more harm...or how do I do no harm? I know people here have transitioned, but have your children considered this? I have to work now, but I'll be back later. Blessings