Gender Identity and Cancer...

Toph · 08-14-2012, 11:33 AM

i read recently of a struggle someone had had with her partners discovery of a lump. it is a sad thing that this fucking disease still exists!

but the simple fact is cancer invades, attacks and it is deadly.

it doesnt matter how you identify, who you identify with or how your insides or outsides appear.

genderqueers, genderfucks, androgynous, lesbian, dyke, gay, fag, top, bottom, daddy, baby girl, bearded non bearded, stone butch, concrete, marble, soft and semi butches, femmes of ALL maintenance levels, big people, little people, males and females, young and old, people of all sizes and shapes all colors all ethnicity all countries all islands...

it doesnt matter... none of it matters... cancer is a non-partisan, non-biased, non-discriminating disease that can and will easily kill!!! we as a community, as members of the human race, need to be proactive NOT reactive.

*****we are all targets*****

make a damned appointment for testing or just to talk to your doc about it. make arrangements to have your self examined. shallow any thing you need to swallow to help, go alone, take friends, make play dates, don't tell anyone, take your puppy who cares. Just Fucking Do It!

take it from me, if the disease doesn't kill you the fucking chemo/radiation/drugs just might. but stepping on the ladder and being on top of it will definately help in the stages of battle you are in.

freckledassal · 08-14-2012, 11:37 AM

This is an important reminder. Thank you for posting it. I know you are one bad M-Fckr..so if this happens to be what you have battled..I know you have won!

xoxoxoxo

firegal · 08-14-2012, 11:38 AM

Agrees wholeheartedly....CANCER SUCKS!

It doesnt discriminate. My thoughts go out to all affected by this disease.

nycfem · 08-14-2012, 11:53 AM

BB and I watched this movie Southern Comfort, a documentary following an FTM and his queer friends, all living in the conservative deep South, as they go through the experience of losing their dear mentor to ovarian cancer. The tremendous difficulty he and his friends had finding him treatment for a "female" cancer was heart breaking, yet the dedication in the community reminded me of the tightness in our own. Here's a link to the documentary:

http://www.nextwavefilms.com/southern/

Toughy · 08-14-2012, 12:26 PM

This is a great resource is you need to find a 'friendly' health care provider...

www.glma.org

Toph · 08-14-2012, 02:02 PM

BB and I watched this movie Southern Comfort, a documentary following an FTM and his queer friends, all living in the conservative deep South, as they go through the experience of losing their dear mentor to ovarian cancer. The tremendous difficulty he and his friends had finding him treatment for a "female" cancer was heart breaking, yet the dedication in the community reminded me of the tightness in our own. Here's a link to the documentary:

http://www.nextwavefilms.com/southern/

i saw that a few years ago, it is a sad reminder BUT a necessary one to show people the reality of the battle.

Medusa · 08-14-2012, 02:33 PM

I think it is super important for people to get their yearly screenings.

Jackhammer went on her Birthday do get a pap test and breast exam. The fact that NOBODY likes doing this is one thing but the fact that she is a Butch woman in the South who often presents as "Male" to people who don't know her is another.

I have dated Butches in the past who refused to get their medical screenings because they were so uncomfortable or they didn't want anyone looking at the parts of their body that they weren't necessarily crazy about or in touch with. I was sad when it happened.

Peeps - Do NOT put your health at risk. Get your checkups no matter your gender!

Jett · 08-15-2012, 01:21 PM

http://transitionnow.wordpress.com/2...-should-avoid/

An ounce of prevention... plz be aware of what you put on or in your body... research, research, research! You'd be amazed at what you are absorbing or digesting from the time you wake up till the time you sleep every single day.

TruTexan · 08-24-2013, 06:43 PM

I have been looking for a thread like this and I'm glad I found it. I was actually checking around to see if there was a specific thread to address the other than femme ID"S to see if they go and get regular checks like pelvic exams, pap smears , mammograms and breast exams , as well as colonoscopies done. I'm a butch that does all that. I believe that no matter what you ID , or how you like your body you are living in, please go get checked out regularly. It could prevent disease running amock and possibly save your life. I have had many thoughts about this over the years because I have had butch friends that REFUSE to get a pap smear/pelvic exam and refuse to do anything that even remotely resembles taking care of their female anatomy they were born with. It makes me sad that they choose to take such a risk like this. just sad. Thank you all for sharing. I appreciate your posts.

08-14-2012, 11:33 AM	#1
Toph Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch as fuck Relationship Status: alone until i heal Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: S W Ontario Posts: 34 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24 Thanked 124 Times in 26 Posts Rep Power: 977871	Gender Identity and Cancer... i read recently of a struggle someone had had with her partners discovery of a lump. it is a sad thing that this fucking disease still exists! but the simple fact is cancer invades, attacks and it is deadly. it doesnt matter how you identify, who you identify with or how your insides or outsides appear. genderqueers, genderfucks, androgynous, lesbian, dyke, gay, fag, top, bottom, daddy, baby girl, bearded non bearded, stone butch, concrete, marble, soft and semi butches, femmes of ALL maintenance levels, big people, little people, males and females, young and old, people of all sizes and shapes all colors all ethnicity all countries all islands... it doesnt matter... none of it matters... cancer is a non-partisan, non-biased, non-discriminating disease that can and will easily kill!!! we as a community, as members of the human race, need to be proactive NOT reactive. ***we are all targets*** make a damned appointment for testing or just to talk to your doc about it. make arrangements to have your self examined. shallow any thing you need to swallow to help, go alone, take friends, make play dates, don't tell anyone, take your puppy who cares. Just Fucking Do It! take it from me, if the disease doesn't kill you the fucking chemo/radiation/drugs just might. but stepping on the ladder and being on top of it will definately help in the stages of battle you are in.

08-14-2012, 11:37 AM	#2
freckledassal Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Land of Endless Sourdough Posts: 188 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 150 Thanked 114 Times in 46 Posts Rep Power: 2337731	Thank you Toph.. This is an important reminder. Thank you for posting it. I know you are one bad M-Fckr..so if this happens to be what you have battled..I know you have won! xoxoxoxo

08-14-2012, 12:26 PM	#5
Toughy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: pervert butch feminist woman Preferred Pronoun?: see above Relationship Status: independent entity Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Oakland Posts: 1,826 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,068 Thanked 7,652 Times in 1,522 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	This is a great resource is you need to find a 'friendly' health care provider... www.glma.org __________________ We are everywhere We are different I do not care if resistance is futile I will not assimilate www.butchfemmesocials.com/

08-14-2012, 02:33 PM	#7
Medusa Mentally Delicious How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme, thank you very much Preferred Pronoun?: Mme. Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 10,446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,995 Thanked 42,690 Times in 7,831 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I think it is super important for people to get their yearly screenings. Jackhammer went on her Birthday do get a pap test and breast exam. The fact that NOBODY likes doing this is one thing but the fact that she is a Butch woman in the South who often presents as "Male" to people who don't know her is another. I have dated Butches in the past who refused to get their medical screenings because they were so uncomfortable or they didn't want anyone looking at the parts of their body that they weren't necessarily crazy about or in touch with. I was sad when it happened. Peeps - Do NOT put your health at risk. Get your checkups no matter your gender! __________________ . . . Buy ButchFemmePlanet Merch Here: https://teespring.com/stores/butchfemmeplanetcom-merch

08-15-2012, 01:21 PM	#8
Jett Member How Do You Identify?: Hardcore bullheaded grown-ass Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: she loves my shaggy hair Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The backroom of a night cafe plotting world domination Posts: 1,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,054 Thanked 3,299 Times in 568 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	http://transitionnow.wordpress.com/2...-should-avoid/ An ounce of prevention... plz be aware of what you put on or in your body... research, research, research! You'd be amazed at what you are absorbing or digesting from the time you wake up till the time you sleep every single day. __________________ .......... In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer. ~Albert Camus

08-14-2012, 11:38 AM	#3
firegal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Don't let the gal part of my screen name fool ya I,m ALL butch! Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Tacoma,Washington Posts: 2,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,853 Thanked 11,706 Times in 2,469 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Agrees wholeheartedly....CANCER SUCKS! It doesnt discriminate. My thoughts go out to all affected by this disease.

08-14-2012, 11:53 AM	#4
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	BB and I watched this movie Southern Comfort, a documentary following an FTM and his queer friends, all living in the conservative deep South, as they go through the experience of losing their dear mentor to ovarian cancer. The tremendous difficulty he and his friends had finding him treatment for a "female" cancer was heart breaking, yet the dedication in the community reminded me of the tightness in our own. Here's a link to the documentary: http://www.nextwavefilms.com/southern/

08-14-2012, 02:02 PM	#6
Toph Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch as fuck Relationship Status: alone until i heal Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: S W Ontario Posts: 34 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24 Thanked 124 Times in 26 Posts Rep Power: 977871	BB and I watched this movie Southern Comfort, a documentary following an FTM and his queer friends, all living in the conservative deep South, as they go through the experience of losing their dear mentor to ovarian cancer. The tremendous difficulty he and his friends had finding him treatment for a "female" cancer was heart breaking, yet the dedication in the community reminded me of the tightness in our own. Here's a link to the documentary: http://www.nextwavefilms.com/southern/ i saw that a few years ago, it is a sad reminder BUT a necessary one to show people the reality of the battle.

08-24-2013, 06:43 PM	#9
TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,266 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Glad I found this thread!! I have been looking for a thread like this and I'm glad I found it. I was actually checking around to see if there was a specific thread to address the other than femme ID"S to see if they go and get regular checks like pelvic exams, pap smears , mammograms and breast exams , as well as colonoscopies done. I'm a butch that does all that. I believe that no matter what you ID , or how you like your body you are living in, please go get checked out regularly. It could prevent disease running amock and possibly save your life. I have had many thoughts about this over the years because I have had butch friends that REFUSE to get a pap smear/pelvic exam and refuse to do anything that even remotely resembles taking care of their female anatomy they were born with. It makes me sad that they choose to take such a risk like this. just sad. Thank you all for sharing. I appreciate your posts. __________________