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|  02-06-2013, 10:48 PM | #1 | 
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	Rep Power: 21474855            |  Valentines Day how do you celebrate it?? 
			
			ok i wasn't quite sure how to word the title for this thread.... but here is some thoughts...... Dutch and I are going to be heading out for a nice dinner outing for Valentines day .... tomorrow ( Thursday) . a week early I know due to my job and all. so I brought up , that a lot of restaurants have Valentines dinner deals. Dutch thinks that sounds all fine and all.. BUT .... wonder's if we will have a problem being eligible to get a Valentines special , in what ever public restaurant. I would like to think we shouldnt have a problem. Dutch is reminding me .... we are in Iowa.... but we will be in des monies. i think most likely we are just going to order what we want with out any Valentines special thing...... any thoughts on this ???  
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			Well, Riley and I live four hours apart.  Add to that, he does not really celebrate holidays. So, I will send him a gift (because that is what I like to do) and I will spend the day with my kids  In the past, I have always attended a masked, erotic art exhibit that is a fundraiser for Rape Response. It is really cool. Lots of lovely artwork, people dressed in everything from jeans to tuxedos, tarot readers, jazz musicians, belly dancers-all under one roof. But, it is held on the Sunday before Valentine's Day so it is not really a "day of" celebration.   
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			sooo no one has had any problems/ experiences good or bad in a public restaurant to celebrate Valentines or what ever ???  
		 
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|  02-07-2013, 03:10 PM | #4 | 
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	Rep Power: 21474854            |   Hey Morningstar ...  I live in the Austin area, which is super gay friendly. I can say that I never had a problem using or doing a "couples" thing. A couple is a couple ... A date is a date ... It's never treated as something different. Most times we've just said, "'We're going to have the Valentine's special" and nothing more. I'm so happy you are going to be able to celebrate. This is one of my favorite holidays. I tend to go all out. It breaks my heart that it's going to be a solo run this year. Have a blast ... Be a couple ... Be who you are ... Make it a night you will always remember!!!! 
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			What kind of Problems are you looking to find ?? If your coupon or special deal is for Valentines day then NO you're Probably not going to have it honored ...If you're talking about the Gay Couple thing ... again you said it your self ... You're in Iowa ... where it's legal to marry your same sex partner ... So again No your probably not going to have any trouble  
		 
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			I know if Valentines Day falls mid-week as it does this year, restaurants will usually run the special for three days after the holiday since it is the weekend.  I doubt they would be prepared to honor it the week before. | 
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			We went to an Indian restaurant that had a special Valentine's Day dinner one year.  Usually places just want the money, I believe (at least in NYC!).  We were considered amusing, I'd guess, lots of smiles at us, which was fine.  I kind of had to specify at the beginning that we were a Valentine's couple because they tried to seat us as a non-Valentine's Day dining guests (in a different section of the restaurant that didn't have heart decorations on the table).  A little awkwardness and then "ohhhh"   . This year we are going to another Indian restaurant, the one we went to on our very first date ever, and I think they get the deal with us. We get sly smiles and general kindness whenever we go there, usually for special occasions, which is all good. I requested seating for us at the table we sat at on that first date. What's embarrassing about that is that it happens to be the table closest to the bathroom, so I think it causes some questions when I say, "Please reserve us the table closest to the bathroom." I think that's more embarrassing than the gay issue! We could choose a gayer restaurant, but we can't help loving Indian food, so we join a mainly straight crowd for Valentine's Day  . 
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			I went all out one V day with dinner (Bubba Gump's not a Valentines dinner per se), hotel (got the vday's day special suite with champagne and choc covered strawberries, rose petals), and tickets to the opera of romantic music other than that I've never done the "Valentine's day special"  The one time I must say was special and should be experienced.    Most times I/We do the traditional chocolates, flowers and out to dinner.  This year I believe we opted to do our dinner on Saturday due to work and we'll more than likely just go to one of our fav restaurants and I'll be attempting to put together a gift that includes some type of flowers. .   I think you two will enjoy your dinner no matter what and the company as long as you both know it's your Valentine's day. Have fun!   | 
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			with cake...   
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			This is the first time SS   & I will get to spend Valentine's together (we have been together almost 4 years but long distance relationship). I have been thinking of all kinds of things I would love to do for her. I think I have it planned and I hope it is great day *hope no snowstorm, no freezing temps, no ice/sleet*  Won't say what I have thought of or have planned just in case she pops in in the next week   SS  I want you to know that every day since we met, you have given me reasons to love with all my heart and I know I want to be with you forever.....( at least 65+ years  ) I love you xo 
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|  02-09-2014, 09:38 AM | #11 | 
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			Casa de Snow celebrates "Single Awareness Day" where we all treat ourselves to a nice supper and a drink if needed.    In Mexican culture this day is referred to as "El Dia de Amistad" where we take a day and show our appreciation to our friends and those close to us. So no big money dropping going on here as far as flowers, cheap candy, marketed jewelry etc. I'll make the kids a Valentine's with some construction paper, glitter, sharpies and my vivid lack of arts and that is about it. I prefer when the 14th lands on a Sunday because then NASCAR is on and it makes it WAYYYYYY better as far as celebrating anything...   
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 I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you. I'm head over heels in love with you. You make my world go round and my heart beat fast. Each day brings us closer to the goal..... Ok so I relinquish Valentine's day control to you BUT I get to start the morning off right. I feel a NEW tradition coming on.... | |
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|  02-07-2013, 07:47 PM | #13 | |
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 I don't think they are going to want to honor a holiday the week before because the specials are a set menu, if you guys are celebrating early you could always call wherever you are going make a reservation, have them set it up with flowers and balloons and go ahead make it your special time a week before everyone else. Maybe if you call ahead and inquire they would oblige. Good luck! 
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|  02-11-2013, 03:49 PM | #14 | |
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 I think Lady Snow is right. Call ahead and ask for a Valentine's special. Most restaurants just want business.... Even if you kids went out on Valentine's Day in a big city, I don't think either one of our will have eyebrows lifted because of the strong butch-femme ID you both have. Just make sure the reservation is in Dutch's name as Dutch. In a place like Santa Fe, no one bats an eye here. Good luck and have a blast! | |
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			I've been single for some years now and not dating. So, Valentine's Day is just another day for me. I don't celebrate it unless I am with a partner. I just call my mom that day and let her know how much I love her. That's about it.
		 
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			So many lovely ways to express a day of just loving your sweet  heart... for me? no cards or candy. no flowers or dinner out on the town. no sweet lil notes in pocket with chocolate kisses. no drive along coast, stopping for hot drinks along the ocean's edge...watching the sun set. no gathering seashells, looking for buried treasure. No soulful declaration of love looking deep into my soul. the same this day as any other... It's my daughter's birthday. I celebrate her. Honestly I don't want my feelings hurt anymore . After over 50 years of being treated like a non person, i have concluded I truely mean very little to other human beings. perhaps this is the year i finally get it. .... there is no soul mate for me... just dogs and cats. beats being used as a live in maid and cook / nurse, gardener. | 
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