How to tell if she's into you...

[Bad_boi]

If she touches you thats a sign. Like if she plays with your hair or fixes your collar.

[Paradox]

Nice thread!!

If this was a test I would fail miserably. I am friendly -(some mistake or assume flirtation) with the most people I meet. I'm generally pretty good a sensing and reading people - except in cases like this.

I rarely I mean rarely notice. My friends would be the ones who would ask me after 'How did so and so work out?', or 'What happened with ABC? She's likes you.' I would ask 'What makes you think she likes me?' - of course I get the 'Are you serious ? look -

For me to know if she likes me comes one of three ways;
1) My friends tell me
2) The person who is interested comes at me with a 2x4
3) We eventually figure it out.--- Needless to say this option is in the lowest rating.

Maybe if there was some kind of sensory - mood accessory or emotion bracelet that we can wear to help determine if we like each other.

Of course to be worn discretionarily - wouldn't want to give away signals 24/7

[cara]

She gets out of bed in the middle of the night to drive through the city to come snuggle with you.

[Nadeest]

I'm awfully dense, at this sort of thing, seems like. I do talk to my friends, though, and ask them for advice.

[homoe]

Originally Posted by morningstar55

if she says yes to a 2nd date.......... she is into you

Yup, I would have to agree!

[homoe]

Originally Posted by Bad_boi

If she touches you thats a sign. Like if she plays with your hair or fixes your collar.

Oh for sure............

[homoe]

Originally Posted by LeftWriteFemme

If you give her bottom a little spank and she starts following you around, she is into you; if she calls the cops she's not.......

..............

[homoe]

Originally Posted by justpjhere

id say when she shows up at in the morning on your day off with your favorite coffee and said i thought you might like coffee...lol

If this happens and you're not sure if she's into you, you're beyond a 2 x 4 !

[Bèsame*]

when she flies across many states to kiss you💋💋

[Esme nha Maire]

If anyone figures out how to tell if someone is really into you, please let me know! I am TERRIBLE at telling such things, unless a person is really obvious about it.. On one occasion, someone was trying to chat me up for a solid half hour before my then partner rescued me - she and her friend had been having bets as to how long it'd take before I twigged!

[Martina]

It's not always possible to tell. If they ask you out for coffee, it's a good bet. If you're still not sure, ask them. Say are you interested in dating or are you looking for new friends? Dating ain't for the meek.

[Chad]

Yes, this is hard especially when dealing with femmes not from this site. I have a lunch date planned with a young lady that I met out in the world. I am a little scared. There will be that uncomfortable discussion about sex that I am not looking forward to. It is so much easier with ladies from this site because we all know were we stand.

[Vincent]

Originally Posted by Martina

It's not always possible to tell. If they ask you out for coffee, it's a good bet. If you're still not sure, ask them. Say are you interested in dating or are you looking for new friends? Dating ain't for the meek.

Yep
I'm with you,I'm just up front,either way.
My main question these days is "am I into her?"
as Mama Cass said "unrequited loves a bore"

[WheatToast]

Originally Posted by Vincent

Yep
I'm with you,I'm just up front,either way.
My main question these days is "am I into her?
as Mama Cass said "unrequited loves a bore"

The longer I've been dating women, the less accurately I can read cues.
Sometimes I think I'm getting hit on, then she'll mention her wife or girlfriend. Other times someone may be sending me huge signals and I'm oblivious.
I was in an art supply store the other night and ran into a young salesclerk who usually only works weekends. She acted really glad to see me, and she even came from around the counter to hug me.
I always figured she was straight, so her enthusiasm for me didn't register at first. Then when she asked her male sales associate to take a pic of us, she sort of glued the side of her body up against mine. I said, "God, what's next, a boob grab?"
By the time the flash lit, her right hand was firmly attached to my left breast--and she held it there for a few more beats after the picture was taken.

I still didn't catch on!!

By the time she asked for my number and suggested we get together so we could "compare art," it dawned on me that she may have been dropping hints.

Too bad she's half my age.

[FireSignFemme]

Originally Posted by WheatToast

The longer I've been dating women, the less accurately I can read cues.
Sometimes I think I'm getting hit on, then she'll mention her wife or girlfriend. Other times someone may be sending me huge signals and I'm oblivious.
I was in an art supply store the other night and ran into a young salesclerk who usually only works weekends. She acted really glad to see me, and she even came from around the counter to hug me.
I always figured she was straight, so her enthusiasm for me didn't register at first. Then when she asked her male sales associate to take a pic of us, she sort of glued the side of her body up against mine. I said, "God, what's next, a boob grab?"
By the time the flash lit, her right hand was firmly attached to my left breast--and she held it there for a few more beats after the picture was taken.

I still didn't catch on!!

By the time she asked for my number and suggested we get together so we could "compare art," it dawned on me that she may have been dropping hints.

Too bad she's half my age.

Yep, sure sounds like she's asking you to come up and see her etchings.

[CherylNYC]

Originally Posted by WheatToast

The longer I've been dating women, the less accurately I can read cues.
Sometimes I think I'm getting hit on, then she'll mention her wife or girlfriend. Other times someone may be sending me huge signals and I'm oblivious.
I was in an art supply store the other night and ran into a young salesclerk who usually only works weekends. She acted really glad to see me, and she even came from around the counter to hug me.
I always figured she was straight, so her enthusiasm for me didn't register at first. Then when she asked her male sales associate to take a pic of us, she sort of glued the side of her body up against mine. I said, "God, what's next, a boob grab?"
By the time the flash lit, her right hand was firmly attached to my left breast--and she held it there for a few more beats after the picture was taken.

I still didn't catch on!!

By the time she asked for my number and suggested we get together so we could "compare art," it dawned on me that she may have been dropping hints.

Too bad she's half my age.

Boob grab? Someone you aren't dating grabbed your boob?!

Uhhhhh...

[ksrainbow]

Originally Posted by CherylNYC

Boob grab? Someone you aren't dating grabbed your boob?!

Uhhhhh...

IMHO...

How does this happen?

[CherylNYC]

Originally Posted by ksrainbow

IMHO...

How does this happen?

Well, nonconsensual boob grabs happen all the time. Men often try to get away with that sort of thing. I'm not accustomed to hearing about it as a mating ritual between women.

[ksrainbow]

Originally Posted by CherylNYC

Well, nonconsensual boob grabs happen all the time. Men often try to get away with that sort of thing. I'm not accustomed to hearing about it as a mating ritual between women.

Be it a male or female or both: the referenced action above is not acceptable. An action towards me or the one I love: will require bail money..IMHO.

Ks-

[Kobi]

Many thanks to Cheryl and ks for pointing this out.

If someone I only know because I frequent their place of employment suddenly wants a photo with me taken by a male co-worker and they grab my breast for the photo, then ask for my number saying maybe we can compare art, I would not take that as a clue of interest. I would take that as a clue they are young, immature, clumsy, and inappropriate.

Inappropriate touching is what sexual harassment and sexual assault are all about. It doesnt matter which gender or sexual orientation is engaging in the inappropriate behavior.

Personally, I have found over the decades, I dont miss clues, even when someone outright asks me if they need to use a 2x4. It means, I am ambivalent and being cautious or standoffish because I am ambivalent.