RIP

[nycfem]

MODERATION

Tapu,

We're placing you on time-out for a month with the hope that this will give you some time to think about how you can contribute to the community in a positive way. The mod/admin team deems your post to be racist, incredibly insensitive, and not appropriate "humor."

Jennifer

[Mr Nice Guy]

I still cant believe she's gone. My friends and I all stunned.

[clay]

Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

I still cant believe she's gone. My friends and I all stunned.

it does seem so surreal, doesn't it? I smile and think what an awesome and incredibly happy time all those greats of the music industry must be having where they all are....Rock N Roll Heaven...can you just imagine how wonderful the music is? smiling...

[Martina]

i never got what was funny.

Whatever. Racist. i am glad that action was taken.

[CherylNYC]

Originally Posted by Martina

i never got what was funny.

Whatever. Racist. i am glad that action was taken.

It wasn't funny. Unless you're a racist.

[Ebon]

Calling someone racist is serious business. It was way too soon to be saying such a thing and I get what she was saying even if it was in bad taste and it wasn't funny but I don't think she is racist by a long shot. She's been dealt with now maybe let it rest in peace.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by tapu

Well, let me hear how you explain it.

Baiting people like this is not funny.

[Greyson]

Originally Posted by Ebon

Calling someone racist is serious business. It was way too soon to be saying such a thing and I get what she was saying even if it was in bad taste and it wasn't funny but I don't think she is racist by a long shot. She's been dealt with now maybe let it rest in peace.

Ebon, I agree with you that calling someone a racist is serious business. In the few exchanges I have had with Tapu via rep comments and/or posts, I did not think she was in anyway being offensive toward me in a racist way. I do think all of us can hold racist, homophobic, misogynist ideas, thoughts and actions. Sometimes we are unaware of our stuff because it is subtle or we had never been called on it, yet.

I think Tapu's post was in poor taste and I think Tapu is intelligent enough that at some point she may get it. I also think I did "get it" about the Syrian people being murdered today. Their life is not worthless and yes many of us are very aware of such things.

Sad as it may seem, the Syrian people, their history and astrocities are not imbedded in our conciousness yet, like our pop culture celebrities, and yes they can be our heros too.

[BullDog]

I didn't misunderstand what Tapu said. I got her humor all too well, and I don't say anything lightly. She thought she was "turning the tables" so to speak.

People are free to disagree with me or anyone else as to what is racist or not, but I certainly don't throw the term racist around lightly.

[SugarFemme]

Bully, Ive always respected you and what you post. I UNDERSTAND what you are saying. I get it. But the problem lies in how people "hear" things. What one person might have heard as a joke, offensive or not, another may not have "heard" that same joke. "Jokes" take many forms, but sometimes it is not a joke to someone else. It is just plain hurtful. We cannot always sidestep responsibility by saying, "fuck you it was a joke. Deal with it". People get hurt and get offended whether it was meant to hurt or not. This is just my take on it.

Originally Posted by BullDog

I didn't misunderstand what Tapu said. I got her humor all too well, and I don't say anything lightly. She thought she was "turning the tables" so to speak.

People are free to disagree with me or anyone else as to what is racist or not, but I certainly don't throw the term racist around lightly.

[Leigh]

I'm about to watch the Grammy's, and record it just to have the tribute to Whitney my PVR !!!!!!

[Martina]

[AtLast]

I remember watching Houston sing the Star Spangled Banner sitting on my sofa by myself and tears pouring down my face. Part of this was just the sheer depth of her voice and its power- and the timing after 9/11 and (a friend worked in Tower 1 and lost friends & co-workers- family of mine live in NYC). I was also struck by her wearing the red, white & blue running suit, not because it was those colors, but it really seemed to represent more everyday people in some way. Also, I thought about how her forceful rendition transcended a lot of how so many African Americans can certainly not always feel that our national anthem represents their true experience in this country (or Native Americans- all POC). But she seemed to draw us so close that day as a people hurting as one. Not to mention that it is perhaps the most difficult song for even the very best vocalists to sing and she not only nailed it vocally, but finally (for me, anyway) made it feel like it belonged to us all on a level that felt so much more open. Chilling in more ways than I ever knew. Brought feelings about national pride that actually felt
OK to me for once.

Something else I have been thinking about is her singing "I Will Always Love You"- her signature and written by (and sung by) Dolly Parton. Parton has said that even though she wrote it, it belongs to Whitney Houston.

[Kobi]

Whitney was a beautiful woman and a wonderful singer. Her death at 48 is just tragic.

My thoughts are with her young daughter who is reportedly experiencing significant difficulty in coping with the loss of her mother. I hope she has a strong network of family and friends to help her with this.

[Leigh]

The tribute last night by Jennifer Hudson almost had me in tears ~ it was beautiful and heartfelt, and Jennifer did a wonderful job

[Dominique]

Originally Posted by Leigh

The tribute last night by Jennifer Hudson almost had me in tears ~ it was beautiful and heartfelt, and Jennifer did a wonderful job

She sure did. She did not have much time to put that together and I thought she nailed it.

Considering how much domestic abuse Whitney was subjected to, over and over again. I thought Chris Brown need not have been there. That was disrespectful to Whitney, I thought. Again, my opinion. I didn't give it much thought until he showed up a second time. One less appearance may not have made me think this. If Jennifer Hudson could bring something so wonderful to the show, certainly someone else could have filled a Chris Brown slot. His singing wasn't all that.

[Rugged]

Still can't believe it, but not surprised by hearing it. I was working in Newark, her hometown, when I heard of her passing. I didn't believe it until I passed by the church she used to sing in as a child. I saw a line of people putting candles and flowers by the gate. On the radio, Whitney sang her heart out during a celebration of her life. Still can't understand it.... Finally, Whitney is at peace.

[Vlasta]

R.I.P. Whitney, I will always love you , I grew up on your music . I just wish that media would stop dissecting your life and stopped mulching from your death . You were the icon and you stand by your man no matter what . It's disgusting to me a comments on the Internet about you by people faceless behind a monitor . We all have our demons , but we are not public figures . Love you and I am wishing your daughter and family a privacy . God bless .

[DapperButch]

http://www.oprah.com/own/Oprah-Remem...ey-Houston?own


Oprah's 2010 interview with Whitney aired on OWN

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

http://www.oprah.com/own/Oprah-Remem...ey-Houston?own


Oprah's 2010 interview with Whitney aired on OWN

Ooops, sorry, it is tomorrow night.