What have you learned? - Page 18

homoe · 09-15-2016, 08:24 PM

It APPEARS that I've learned a lot about chicken and eggs

JDeere · 09-15-2016, 08:37 PM

Trust is very important and hard to come by these days.

Blade · 09-19-2016, 02:12 PM

I've learned if it don't feel right don't do it. If it feels right go for it!

CherryWine · 09-19-2016, 05:18 PM

I've learned that facing your fears is never an easy thing to do. However, when you find the courage to face them, and then you win....well, that's truly one of the best feelings in the world.

Gayandgray · 09-19-2016, 05:34 PM

I have learned that you can't help people that aren't willing to help themselves.

Degotoga · 09-19-2016, 06:09 PM

Just about the time I think I'm ready to jump out there and start dating again, I see someone (or several someone's, as the case may be) do some dishonorable, self-serving shit to someone they supposedly love and it baffles the hell out of me. I've learned that apparently my views on dating and relationships are too old-fashioned for today's dating game. What ever happened to protecting the people you love and defending their honor, especially in their absence?

The JD · 12-17-2016, 01:02 PM

I just learned that the sound of (Medusa playing) bagpipes makes tiny dogs cry.

Orema · 12-17-2016, 02:58 PM

I've learned if I hang around with people who don't believe in me, soon enough I'll stop believing in myself.

I've also learned that people who don't believe in themselves can't believe in me either.

FireSignFemme · 12-17-2016, 06:38 PM

I’ve learned some people aren’t really asking for help, what they actually want is a chance to shoot down all suggestions.

I’ve learned people looking for perfection in a partner, rarely make good partners themselves.

I’ve learned those who blame child abuse for mistakes they continue to make as adults really need to grow up.

I’ve learned the more I avoid abusive people the less often I find myself having to ask myself – Am I forgiving enough?

Blade · 12-18-2016, 10:10 AM

Never turn your back on a chicken. Believe me this does require thinking harder and not being complacent with the idea that chickens are "bird brains" lol

legally_b10nde · 12-18-2016, 07:46 PM

I have learned that a banana and Nutella is YUM!

JDeere · 12-18-2016, 11:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by legally_b10nde

I have learned that a banana and Nutella is YUM!

Great minds think alike! I love nutella and bananas.

JDeere · 12-18-2016, 11:22 PM

I have learned to trust my gut instincts in certain cases.

I over think way too much as well.

Gayandgray · 01-05-2017, 08:41 PM

I have learned that I deserve to be happy.

Chad · 01-06-2017, 12:30 PM

Drinking wine in the evening gives me weird dreams and I wake up a lot. Yucky.

BullDog · 01-14-2017, 12:54 AM

I ran across an article today that really got me thinking. I have learned that romantic love and passion are beautiful and necessary for a good relationship but that liking and respecting the person you are with is just as important as being madly in love and passionate. Passion and romance are important but not sufficient. I did already know that but have learned along the way some important lessons regarding this. I used to think communication was the key, but actually respect is even more important. And of course true commitment.

I've had what I thought was great communication with past partners only to realize later that they totally don't get me at all. I am always exactly myself, so if someone doesn't get me and what my intentions and love for them is after a lot of communication and spending time with me where that person and our relationship is my top priority at all times and I am doing everything I can for them, then I don't get that. I've also had relationships where the communication wasn't good, and that definitely doesn't work either. All I know is it is better to find someone who really likes as well as loves me for the person I really am and not some idealized version. The person respects that I have to work and do many other practical things as part of my every day routine and I am still thinking of her every single second that I am doing that and it is out of love as well as necessity. Life is not all hearts and roses and sometimes I express my love for someone in "practical" ways as well as "romantic" ways. It really helps to have a partner who understands this.

This article is awesome:

https://qz.com/884448/every-successf...exact-reasons/

Like the article says, you really want to be with someone where you both genuinely enjoy being with one another and respect one another. It's something I think that is easy to agree with and feel you do know, but sometimes you have to go through some things to really see and understand this on a practical as well as romantic level.

"True love—that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy—is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances."

Clyde · 01-14-2017, 02:07 AM

Not to mix plaid and stripes.

Kätzchen · 01-15-2017, 12:09 AM

That my youngest son is willing to divorce himself from one of his really bad habits (Alcohol Addiction). I think that half his battle in addressing his addictions was his inability to see how his choices were harming his life. He's ready to divorce himself from alcohol. I couldn't be happier for him.

JDeere · 01-17-2017, 02:13 PM

Being mature about situations always makes things go smoother.

Chad · 01-28-2017, 09:37 PM

Everyone can be replaced.

This is not new I learned this in the 70's I just ponder it sometimes.

I know that I have been replaced in jobs and other life situations. It is interesting to ponder this because as humans we think we are unique but we are not.

It is not a sad or a feeling thing it is just reality.

09-15-2016, 08:37 PM	#342
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Trust is very important and hard to come by these days. __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

09-19-2016, 02:12 PM	#343
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I've learned if it don't feel right don't do it. If it feels right go for it! __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

09-19-2016, 05:34 PM	#345
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,862 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,584 Thanked 12,885 Times in 3,081 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I have learned that you can't help people that aren't willing to help themselves. __________________

09-19-2016, 06:09 PM	#346
Degotoga Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Respectful and situational appropriate ones Relationship Status: Enjoying butchelorhood Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Texas Posts: 3,301 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,390 Thanked 4,380 Times in 1,233 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Just about the time I think I'm ready to jump out there and start dating again, I see someone (or several someone's, as the case may be) do some dishonorable, self-serving shit to someone they supposedly love and it baffles the hell out of me. I've learned that apparently my views on dating and relationships are too old-fashioned for today's dating game. What ever happened to protecting the people you love and defending their honor, especially in their absence? __________________ Don't try to explain yourself to stupid people. You're not the jackass whisperer.

12-17-2016, 01:02 PM	#347
The JD Be the Fearless Bunny How Do You Identify?: Hers. Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: Medusa’s Snake Charmer Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: This must be the place. Posts: 649 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,740 Thanked 2,676 Times in 540 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I just learned that the sound of (Medusa playing) bagpipes makes tiny dogs cry. __________________ I don't deserve any credit for turning the other cheek as my tongue is always in it. ~Flannery O'Connor

09-15-2016, 08:24 PM	#341
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09-19-2016, 05:18 PM	#344
CherryWine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: The Deep South Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,060 Thanked 10,006 Times in 2,182 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	I've learned that facing your fears is never an easy thing to do. However, when you find the courage to face them, and then you win....well, that's truly one of the best feelings in the world.

12-17-2016, 02:58 PM	#348
Orema Superlative Soul Sister How Do You Identify?: Lesbian stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Moving in a single file and sometimes a sinner. Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Cottage of Content Posts: 13,683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 41,474 Thanked 34,733 Times in 8,961 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Beliefs I've learned if I hang around with people who don't believe in me, soon enough I'll stop believing in myself. I've also learned that people who don't believe in themselves can't believe in me either.

12-17-2016, 06:38 PM	#349
FireSignFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: N/A Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: WA Posts: 4,434 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37,962 Thanked 10,280 Times in 3,146 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	I’ve learned some people aren’t really asking for help, what they actually want is a chance to shoot down all suggestions. I’ve learned people looking for perfection in a partner, rarely make good partners themselves. I’ve learned those who blame child abuse for mistakes they continue to make as adults really need to grow up. I’ve learned the more I avoid abusive people the less often I find myself having to ask myself – Am I forgiving enough?

12-18-2016, 10:10 AM	#350
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Never turn your back on a chicken. Believe me this does require thinking harder and not being complacent with the idea that chickens are "bird brains" lol __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

12-18-2016, 07:46 PM	#351
legally_b10nde Member How Do You Identify?: femme woman - Hello Daddy, hello mom. I'm your ch-ch-ch cherry bomb! Preferred Pronoun?: female/she/her Relationship Status: Single by choice Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: the earth Posts: 433 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 127 Thanked 636 Times in 234 Posts Rep Power: 5404778	I have learned that a banana and Nutella is YUM! __________________

12-18-2016, 11:22 PM	#353
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	I have learned to trust my gut instincts in certain cases. I over think way too much as well.

01-05-2017, 08:41 PM	#354
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,862 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,584 Thanked 12,885 Times in 3,081 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I have learned that I deserve to be happy. __________________

01-06-2017, 12:30 PM	#355
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,312 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Learned Drinking wine in the evening gives me weird dreams and I wake up a lot. Yucky.

01-14-2017, 12:54 AM	#356
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,640 Times in 4,463 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I ran across an article today that really got me thinking. I have learned that romantic love and passion are beautiful and necessary for a good relationship but that liking and respecting the person you are with is just as important as being madly in love and passionate. Passion and romance are important but not sufficient. I did already know that but have learned along the way some important lessons regarding this. I used to think communication was the key, but actually respect is even more important. And of course true commitment. I've had what I thought was great communication with past partners only to realize later that they totally don't get me at all. I am always exactly myself, so if someone doesn't get me and what my intentions and love for them is after a lot of communication and spending time with me where that person and our relationship is my top priority at all times and I am doing everything I can for them, then I don't get that. I've also had relationships where the communication wasn't good, and that definitely doesn't work either. All I know is it is better to find someone who really likes as well as loves me for the person I really am and not some idealized version. The person respects that I have to work and do many other practical things as part of my every day routine and I am still thinking of her every single second that I am doing that and it is out of love as well as necessity. Life is not all hearts and roses and sometimes I express my love for someone in "practical" ways as well as "romantic" ways. It really helps to have a partner who understands this. This article is awesome: https://qz.com/884448/every-successf...exact-reasons/ Like the article says, you really want to be with someone where you both genuinely enjoy being with one another and respect one another. It's something I think that is easy to agree with and feel you do know, but sometimes you have to go through some things to really see and understand this on a practical as well as romantic level. "True love—that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy—is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances." __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

01-14-2017, 02:07 AM	#357
Clyde Member How Do You Identify?: Mr. Queer Butch. Preferred Pronoun?: He/They. Relationship Status: Butchelor. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland. Posts: 256 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 320 Thanked 700 Times in 195 Posts Rep Power: 11912190	Not to mix plaid and stripes. __________________ Find a reason to be happy right now.

01-15-2017, 12:09 AM	#358
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: As a very feminine woman. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Near smoke signals in the sky. Posts: 16,209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,450 Thanked 33,610 Times in 10,707 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	That my youngest son is willing to divorce himself from one of his really bad habits (Alcohol Addiction). I think that half his battle in addressing his addictions was his inability to see how his choices were harming his life. He's ready to divorce himself from alcohol. I couldn't be happier for him.

01-17-2017, 02:13 PM	#359
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Being mature about situations always makes things go smoother. __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

01-28-2017, 09:37 PM	#360
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,312 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Learned Everyone can be replaced. This is not new I learned this in the 70's I just ponder it sometimes. I know that I have been replaced in jobs and other life situations. It is interesting to ponder this because as humans we think we are unique but we are not. It is not a sad or a feeling thing it is just reality.