Platonic Poly

PoeticWitch · 04-18-2020, 04:36 PM

Some background
I am in a platonic relationship and it is poly. I hate going to dating sites as I get inundated with creepy guys wanting threesomes or people thinking I am looking to leave my current relationship, which I am not. I am a 45 year old bald(for medical reasons) BBW on the femme side but really I am rather fluid with my two sides. I am so not comfortable in social situations.. can I just say dating is a bitch for hetero women so adding in a fat bald middle age queer femme. I end up feeling like I am trying to compete in an Iron Man Triathlon! So this is an attempt to reach out. to see if anyone is like me in this way and or suggestions.

HoldMeSteady · 11-08-2020, 06:37 PM

Hi PW,

We may be in a similar kind of relationship. I live in the same house with my ex (2 apartments) and we think of each other as family. I think of myself as sexually monogamous and single but since our relationships seem similar I just thought I'd reach out. Also, I'm 56 and looking (turning 57 tomorrow!) which is not easy either.

Trinket_the_mouse2020 · 12-23-2020, 12:55 PM

OMG!!! This is real?! I'm not trying to be rude I promise. I just I need information...sort of... (I also don't have enough posts to make my own thread yet)

so here's the tea:
I met this amazing woman...and we started dating things are good. She has sworn to me that she is monogamous to me as I am her. Yet her bestie is Poly. Which is cool. My GF told me that she has a symbiotic relationship with bestie. Which I'm cool with. I found out that her bestie lives at her house 4 days a week. Ok. So one morning I woke early and I was talking to my GF's bestie. And she said 'you know I come along with her right?' I said yes...I don't want to ruin their friendship that is the last thing I want. Then she explained that a poly relationship is really four relationships me and my girl her and my girl and then me and her(bestie) and then ALL OF US and that we are a triad. Ok. I'm cool with this. Although I look up Polyamory as I don't know much about it. And I see the definition for Triad. Which in that def. it was one person dating two people separately. I don't how to make this work...I don't know where I fit. So I asked my GF a couple of times when we were alone. She said you are my girlfriend and the only one she is dating. Ok. After I asked my GF the second time wording between them changed to 'best friend'. Then my GF has nights she spends specifically with her bestie which is cool. I get it. Night with a friend. Yet my GF is also always texting her bestie...I mean they have a home life together... I'm just a little unsure yet I do believe my girlfriend truly. I'm just new to all of this

So I guess all in all I was wonder if If Platonic Poly really existed. And I guess get some more understanding ?

kittygrrl · 12-23-2020, 01:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trinket_the_mouse2020

OMG!!! This is real?! I'm not trying to be rude I promise. I just I need information...sort of... (I also don't have enough posts to make my own thread yet)

so here's the tea:
I met this amazing woman...and we started dating things are good. She has sworn to me that she is monogamous to me as I am her. Yet her bestie is Poly. Which is cool. My GF told me that she has a symbiotic relationship with bestie. Which I'm cool with. I found out that her bestie lives at her house 4 days a week. Ok. So one morning I woke early and I was talking to my GF's bestie. And she said 'you know I come along with her right?' I said yes...I don't want to ruin their friendship that is the last thing I want. Then she explained that a poly relationship is really four relationships me and my girl her and my girl and then me and her(bestie) and then ALL OF US and that we are a triad. Ok. I'm cool with this. Although I look up Polyamory as I don't know much about it. And I see the definition for Triad. Which in that def. it was one person dating two people separately. I don't how to make this work...I don't know where I fit. So I asked my GF a couple of times when we were alone. She said you are my girlfriend and the only one she is dating. Ok. After I asked my GF the second time wording between them changed to 'best friend'. Then my GF has nights she spends specifically with her bestie which is cool. I get it. Night with a friend. Yet my GF is also always texting her bestie...I mean they have a home life together... I'm just a little unsure yet I do believe my girlfriend truly. I'm just new to all of this

So I guess all in all I was wonder if If Platonic Poly really existed. And I guess get some more understanding ?

tbh, this sounds very complicated..i was poly a long while ago and it's just my inner witchy sense but personally, i don't think i would be satisfied with her answers..the present arrangement would appeal to me ONLY if it is a very casual relationship and not exclusive...it's too one sided (for my tastes) ..like her, enjoy the ride, but don't fall for her..have a great holiday!

Trinket_the_mouse2020 · 12-23-2020, 03:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

tbh, this sounds very complicated..i was poly a long while ago and it's just my inner witchy sense but personally, i don't think i would be satisfied with her answers..the present arrangement would appeal to me ONLY if it is a very casual relationship and not exclusive...it's too one sided (for my tastes) ..like her, enjoy the ride, but don't fall for her..have a great holiday!

Thank you

I'm trying truly. There are other dimensions to it I'm also not sure of but...it will all unfold in time I suppose. Thing is I'm sure my girlfriend is honest but I'm taking it all with a grain of salt if you know what I mean.

Trinket_the_mouse2020 · 12-23-2020, 04:09 PM

I am back....So what would a platonic poly relationship look like?

04-18-2020, 04:36 PM	#1
PoeticWitch Member How Do You Identify?: Queer... that is all you get Preferred Pronoun?: um... she.. I think... shrug call me anything that pleases ya Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Toledo, Ohio Posts: 562 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 172 Thanked 1,131 Times in 377 Posts Rep Power: 7056675	Platonic Poly Some background I am in a platonic relationship and it is poly. I hate going to dating sites as I get inundated with creepy guys wanting threesomes or people thinking I am looking to leave my current relationship, which I am not. I am a 45 year old bald(for medical reasons) BBW on the femme side but really I am rather fluid with my two sides. I am so not comfortable in social situations.. can I just say dating is a bitch for hetero women so adding in a fat bald middle age queer femme. I end up feeling like I am trying to compete in an Iron Man Triathlon! So this is an attempt to reach out. to see if anyone is like me in this way and or suggestions. __________________ Things happen, no rhyme or reason, either learn from it and grow. Or don't and fail this part of life.

11-08-2020, 06:37 PM	#2
HoldMeSteady Member How Do You Identify?: Wise old Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, hers Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: New York Posts: 113 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 162 Thanked 218 Times in 74 Posts Rep Power: 2120047	Hi PW, We may be in a similar kind of relationship. I live in the same house with my ex (2 apartments) and we think of each other as family. I think of myself as sexually monogamous and single but since our relationships seem similar I just thought I'd reach out. Also, I'm 56 and looking (turning 57 tomorrow!) which is not easy either.

12-23-2020, 12:55 PM	#3
Trinket_the_mouse2020 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Female ones Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2020 Location: Midwest Posts: 13 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 19 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 397910	OMG!!! This is real?! I'm not trying to be rude I promise. I just I need information...sort of... (I also don't have enough posts to make my own thread yet) so here's the tea: I met this amazing woman...and we started dating things are good. She has sworn to me that she is monogamous to me as I am her. Yet her bestie is Poly. Which is cool. My GF told me that she has a symbiotic relationship with bestie. Which I'm cool with. I found out that her bestie lives at her house 4 days a week. Ok. So one morning I woke early and I was talking to my GF's bestie. And she said 'you know I come along with her right?' I said yes...I don't want to ruin their friendship that is the last thing I want. Then she explained that a poly relationship is really four relationships me and my girl her and my girl and then me and her(bestie) and then ALL OF US and that we are a triad. Ok. I'm cool with this. Although I look up Polyamory as I don't know much about it. And I see the definition for Triad. Which in that def. it was one person dating two people separately. I don't how to make this work...I don't know where I fit. So I asked my GF a couple of times when we were alone. She said you are my girlfriend and the only one she is dating. Ok. After I asked my GF the second time wording between them changed to 'best friend'. Then my GF has nights she spends specifically with her bestie which is cool. I get it. Night with a friend. Yet my GF is also always texting her bestie...I mean they have a home life together... I'm just a little unsure yet I do believe my girlfriend truly. I'm just new to all of this So I guess all in all I was wonder if If Platonic Poly really existed. And I guess get some more understanding ?

12-23-2020, 04:09 PM	#6
Trinket_the_mouse2020 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Female ones Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2020 Location: Midwest Posts: 13 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 19 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 397910	I am back....So what would a platonic poly relationship look like?