The Love list. - Page 4

Queerasfck · 06-21-2011, 08:49 PM

I'm not single. But when I was I didn't really have a list. But when I saw her I knew I had to make her mine. Too bad she didn't want me. She threw me back. Alright, there may have been some things I had to take care of....

Once I heard "all relationships fail until you find one that doesn't". It might sound like an odd way to put it but it's totally true. You have to put yourself out there, you know in whatever way works for you and as mentioned in a previous post, be true to who you are. That way when you meet someone you are really interested in you are showing all sides of yourself to them and hopefully they are doing the same.

After several attempts to get Ms Pretty's attention-that she claims bordered on stalking--what's wrong with just "stopping by"???? (OK, it was a five and a half hour drive). I had almost given up. There was no list. I just knew I had to see her again. Sometimes you just know, you know?

Eternally grateful she didn't call the cops.

apretty · 06-22-2011, 01:30 PM

Let's just say *someone* sang my dog to sleep--This song:

And accepted all of me and is encouraging, loving and honest and had already had his therapy--plus, he's got a great pompadour! <3

Quote:

Originally Posted by EzeeTiger

After several attempts to get Ms Pretty's attention-that she claims bordered on stalking--what's wrong with just "stopping by"???? (OK, it was a five and a half hour drive). I had almost given up. There was no list. I just knew I had to see her again. Sometimes you just know, you know?

Eternally grateful she didn't call the cops.

Apocalipstic · 06-23-2011, 09:12 AM

Pretty! That sneaky Ezee singing to your dog!

that made me smile!!

I have had lists in the past and found special someones with everything on the list. Am I still with them? No. However, I don't have any exes (of over a month lol) I am not friends with since college.

None of my exes has ever done anything so horrible to me I can't be their friends, and I think that is important...and making a list made that possible...I knew what traits were important to me in someone close.

Maybe some of us are list makers and some not?

I make lists, spreadsheets or itineraries for everything and sometimes even notebooks with tabs, so it is a given that in search for a victim...oooopssss...I mean GF, I would make lists...and the same goes for listmakers everywhere. lol.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-25-2011, 10:51 AM

Ok people who like lists, keep them coming.

ScandalAndy · 06-25-2011, 12:35 PM

Honest
Romantic
Will always ask me to dance even though I"m not good at it
Cuddler
Secure in themselves
employed
has own transportation
Comes up with something other than "i don't know, what do YOU want to do"
music lover
thinks my terrible jokes are funny
Calm

That should pretty much do it. Here's hoping it isn't too long/strict a list!

Mr Nice Guy · 06-25-2011, 02:34 PM

Great lists!!!!

Apocalipstic · 06-27-2011, 12:06 PM

makes lists...lol

Mr Nice Guy · 06-30-2011, 04:00 AM

Bumping for all those looking for love and for those who love lists.

DapperButch · 06-30-2011, 05:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I have had lists in the past and found special someones with everything on the list. Am I still with them? No. However, I don't have any exes (of over a month lol) I am not friends with since college.

Good point.

I have been with more than one woman who matched my "list", but am no longer with them. The "list" may equal a good fit for you, but that doesn't mean that the chemistry follows.

Also, sometimes when you find love, the damn "list" goes out the window! One can find that something they didn't know they needed they do need, or what they thought they didn't want, they do want (like kids, for example). I think it is important to not be too strict when it comes to a "list", or you may miss out on something great!

clay · 06-30-2011, 06:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DapperButch

Good point.

I have been with more than one woman who matched my "list", but am no longer with them. The "list" may equal a good fit for you, but that doesn't mean that the chemistry follows.

Also, sometimes when you find love, the damn "list" goes out the window! One can find that something they didn't know they needed they do need, or what they thought they didn't want, they do want (like kids, for example). I think it is important to not be too strict when it comes to a "list", or you may miss out on something great!

Excellent thoughts and points Dapper!

Mr Nice Guy · 07-01-2011, 12:43 PM

Bumping for the newbies.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-01-2011, 01:11 PM

My list is carved onto his back

Apocalipstic · 07-04-2011, 09:31 AM

Lists...have been thinking of making a new one...but I really don't know what would even be on there any more.

Now that I have learned Integrity is not enough, what the hell would I put on a list?

bigbutchmistie · 07-04-2011, 09:52 AM

I'm gonna add to mine

She must love to cook cause I lobe to eat I wanna cook with her though sometimes lol

Mr Nice Guy · 07-04-2011, 11:38 AM

Hey Love listers. hope you all have a wonderful fourth. Keep the hope alive.

Janny · 07-04-2011, 12:43 PM

A very simple list:

1. Must...absolutely MUST get my sense of humour
2. Must not sneak raisins into my cinnamon buns.
3. Must have a penchant for pushing me up against the wall.

Really...not too much to ask for.

greeneyedgrrl · 07-04-2011, 01:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lillith

I have 1, as well:

Integrity

When a person has integrity all the traits of honesty, loyalty, honor, etc don't need to be stated, ya know? For me, they are all interrelated, and you cannot have one without the others. So it is just one. Well, maybe brown eyes too, but that is flexible.

agreed...cept for the eye color... i'm not picky bout that, more about how they look at me with those eyes than the color of em.

but i agree that integrity just about covers it. i don't think that my "ideal" partner has to agree with me all the time (in fact, how boring would that be??) or share the same beliefs (again...where's the fun in that?). i think it's more about being able to be true to themselves while allowing me to do the same. oh... and they must love kid... not all of em...just mine!

bigbutchmistie · 07-04-2011, 08:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

My List

Honest

Loyal

Trustworthy I can trust her with my life. This is VERY important

Extremely girly but aggressive

Is over 30.

Believes In God

Doesn't have children to raise

Romantic. Someone who doesn't expect me to just be romantic with her. Someone who loves treating her butch like a king as she will be treated as my queen.

Employed. Self sufficient

Non Smoker

No drugs social drinker is fine no drunks

Doesn't have cats. I'm highly allergic

Can handle me with ease

Has Common Sense

Tender

Patient

Affectionate

Nurturing

Understanding

Inuitive of my needs

Emotionally Supportive

Knows how to be on time

Someone who is highly sexual and isn't a pillow princess

Someone who puts relationships a priority and not an option

Someone is who is spontaneous. Who can and will drop everything at a moments notice to go a way together.

Someone who loves being femme but can be relaxed in just shorts and a t shirt.

Isn't materialistic. Enjoys the little things.

Has and uses manners

Protective of me as I am of her.

I added likes to cook

But oh loves to kiss.

Loves things girlie Bubble baths mani/pedi. Perfume lotion

Must be ok with the fact I have no family.

justkim · 07-04-2011, 08:24 PM

List's are for grocery shopping...

We are always changing and growing...

Why limit yourself?

Happy List making...

T4Texas · 07-04-2011, 09:25 PM

There are lots of things I could put on a list I suppose, but I sat and thought about this a lot and decided to condense it to the things I felt were really the most important to me.

1. Must be able to have intelligent conversation.

2. Must be willing to communicate

3. Must have a kind heart

4. Must love me for who I am, try to understand the flaws and embrace the positives, and I will do the same for you.

5. Must be more than just vanilla

06-21-2011, 08:49 PM	#61
Queerasfck Senior Member How Do You Identify?: still ballin' Relationship Status: Triple X Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west side Posts: 2,544 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,716 Thanked 6,488 Times in 1,638 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I'm not single. But when I was I didn't really have a list. But when I saw her I knew I had to make her mine. Too bad she didn't want me. She threw me back. Alright, there may have been some things I had to take care of.... Once I heard "all relationships fail until you find one that doesn't". It might sound like an odd way to put it but it's totally true. You have to put yourself out there, you know in whatever way works for you and as mentioned in a previous post, be true to who you are. That way when you meet someone you are really interested in you are showing all sides of yourself to them and hopefully they are doing the same. After several attempts to get Ms Pretty's attention-that she claims bordered on stalking--what's wrong with just "stopping by"???? (OK, it was a five and a half hour drive). I had almost given up. There was no list. I just knew I had to see her again. Sometimes you just know, you know? Eternally grateful she didn't call the cops. __________________ http://www.advertisingarchives.co.uk...28750fb328.jpg

06-23-2011, 09:12 AM	#63
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Pretty! That sneaky Ezee singing to your dog! that made me smile!! I have had lists in the past and found special someones with everything on the list. Am I still with them? No. However, I don't have any exes (of over a month lol) I am not friends with since college. None of my exes has ever done anything so horrible to me I can't be their friends, and I think that is important...and making a list made that possible...I knew what traits were important to me in someone close. Maybe some of us are list makers and some not? I make lists, spreadsheets or itineraries for everything and sometimes even notebooks with tabs, so it is a given that in search for a victim...oooopssss...I mean GF, I would make lists...and the same goes for listmakers everywhere. lol. __________________

06-25-2011, 12:35 PM	#65
ScandalAndy Member How Do You Identify?: human femme spitfire Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: it's official! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: east coast USA Posts: 1,167 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,758 Thanked 3,217 Times in 753 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Honest Romantic Will always ask me to dance even though I"m not good at it Cuddler Secure in themselves employed has own transportation Comes up with something other than "i don't know, what do YOU want to do" music lover thinks my terrible jokes are funny Calm That should pretty much do it. Here's hoping it isn't too long/strict a list! __________________ The joy of discovery is certainly the liveliest that the mind of man can ever feel. - Claude Bernard (1813-78)

06-27-2011, 12:06 PM	#67
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	makes lists...lol __________________

07-01-2011, 01:11 PM	#72
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,077 Times in 15,670 Posts Rep Power: 21474875	My list is carved onto his back __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

06-25-2011, 10:51 AM	#64
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok people who like lists, keep them coming.

06-25-2011, 02:34 PM	#66
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Great lists!!!!

06-30-2011, 04:00 AM	#68
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Bumping for all those looking for love and for those who love lists.

07-01-2011, 12:43 PM	#71
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Bumping for the newbies.

07-04-2011, 09:31 AM	#73
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Lists...have been thinking of making a new one...but I really don't know what would even be on there any more. Now that I have learned Integrity is not enough, what the hell would I put on a list? __________________

07-04-2011, 09:52 AM	#74
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I'm gonna add to mine She must love to cook cause I lobe to eat I wanna cook with her though sometimes lol

07-04-2011, 11:38 AM	#75
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hey Love listers. hope you all have a wonderful fourth. Keep the hope alive.

07-04-2011, 12:43 PM	#76
Janny Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: The glass slipper shattered and I can't stop staring at the shards. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 930 Thanked 223 Times in 92 Posts Rep Power: 6576866	A very simple list: 1. Must...absolutely MUST get my sense of humour 2. Must not sneak raisins into my cinnamon buns. 3. Must have a penchant for pushing me up against the wall. Really...not too much to ask for. __________________ All the diamonds in this world that mean anything to me are conjured up by wind and sunlight sparkling on the sea. -Bruce Cockburn-

07-04-2011, 08:24 PM	#79
justkim Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Relationship Status: <3 myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 2,023 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,062 Thanked 6,799 Times in 1,553 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	List's are for grocery shopping... We are always changing and growing... Why limit yourself? Happy List making... __________________ Kim "A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success." - Unknown -

07-04-2011, 09:25 PM	#80
T4Texas Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Ready to play again! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 233 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 436 Thanked 647 Times in 167 Posts Rep Power: 6739721	There are lots of things I could put on a list I suppose, but I sat and thought about this a lot and decided to condense it to the things I felt were really the most important to me. 1. Must be able to have intelligent conversation. 2. Must be willing to communicate 3. Must have a kind heart 4. Must love me for who I am, try to understand the flaws and embrace the positives, and I will do the same for you. 5. Must be more than just vanilla __________________ Chivalry is when you meet a woman you would rather die for, than live with.