Amongst us butches .. - Page 4

Dominique · 08-18-2011, 04:13 PM

if thats the case, I appologize. I did not read all 64 posts. I read alot, and it was mostly femmes postings.

Sorry, as sorrys are do!

ETA:...Yes, post two says femme please apply. my bad!

Red Dirt Girl · 08-18-2011, 05:31 PM

No bad. Perfectly reasonable comments/concerns actually.

To be honest, I find it's sometimes hard to know who is welcome in which posts, and when. I would not normally post in a thread entitled "For all things Butch", but I just felt so welcomed by Merlin's invitation.

Now I better go back to reading about girlie stuff!

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Originally Posted by Yellow band

if thats the case, I appologize. I did not read all 64 posts. I read alot, and it was mostly femmes postings.

Sorry, as sorrys are do!

ETA:...Yes, post two says femme please apply. my bad!

Starbuck · 08-18-2011, 05:35 PM

Okay, this may or may not be the place to post this, but I have a question that I think needs to be answered by someone in the butch zone. I consider myself a soft femme, I'm dating a lipstick lesbian...she is HOT! This is where my question comes in: I am attracted to other soft femmes (or so it seems) and soft butches. What the hell? I love looking at a femmes ass and then I love making eye contact with a butch thinking "man I really go for that". Am I confused or just a middle of the road type person?? Someone please answer me.

DCStone · 08-18-2011, 05:37 PM

I appreciate the thread and all of the comments. I know that as a Stone Butch, I like to feel appreciated. Also, being called sexy or hot is certainly fine by me. Sometimes I am in my head a bit too much and forget to say out loud what I am thinking when I see my girl. She is sexy and beautiful...and needs to hear that from me. Bottom-line...we could all probably use some stroking living in a world that can be very harsh towards those that look or seem different.

Red Dirt Girl · 08-18-2011, 05:41 PM

If you weren't a SB do you think you wouldn't still like to feel appreciated? I know I would!

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Originally Posted by DCStone

I appreciate the thread and all of the comments. I know that as a Stone Butch, I like to feel appreciated. Also, being called sexy or hot is certainly fine by me. Sometimes I am in my head a bit too much and forget to say out loud what I am thinking when I see my girl. She is sexy and beautiful...and needs to hear that from me. Bottom-line...we could all probably use some stroking living in a world that can be very harsh towards those that look or seem different.

DCStone · 08-18-2011, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Red Dirt Girl

If you weren't a SB do you think you wouldn't still like to feel appreciated? I know I would!

Of course, I would still want to be appreciated even if I wasn't a Stone Butch. I think I could have written it differently. Thanks!

DCStone · 08-18-2011, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Starbuck

Okay, this may or may not be the place to post this, but I have a question that I think needs to be answered by someone in the butch zone. I consider myself a soft femme, I'm dating a lipstick lesbian...she is HOT! This is where my question comes in: I am attracted to other soft femmes (or so it seems) and soft butches. What the hell? I love looking at a femmes ass and then I love making eye contact with a butch thinking "man I really go for that". Am I confused or just a middle of the road type person?? Someone please answer me.

I do not necessarily think you are confused. Nothing wrong with allowing yourself to enjoy all types of women.

The_Lady_Snow · 08-18-2011, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Starbuck

Okay, this may or may not be the place to post this, but I have a question that I think needs to be answered by someone in the butch zone. I consider myself a soft femme, I'm dating a lipstick lesbian...she is HOT! This is where my question comes in: I am attracted to other soft femmes (or so it seems) and soft butches. What the hell? I love looking at a femmes ass and then I love making eye contact with a butch thinking "man I really go for that". Am I confused or just a middle of the road type person?? Someone please answer me.

Well... You could always choose to date all over the gender spectrum till you find out what you like, a fine ass comes and goes a good person to share life with, that my friend is rare.

Tangle · 08-28-2011, 03:54 PM

This is my ideal answer to the big butt question:

"yes, baby, your ass looks big in that skirt. and oohhhhh, baby, you Know i sure do like it that way." ...as s/he grabs me for a kiss. *giggling*

lol- How bout that? Doesn't sound so bad to me! ...how does that song go? itty bitty waist and round thing in your face, you get sprung...

msW8ing · 08-28-2011, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Hack

When in a relationship, my girl is told she looks amazing/stunning/hot/beautiful/sexy/gorgeous in her favorite little black dress, jeans and a t-shirt, in her work wear, wearing one of my dress shirts, in her pajamas, in my pajamas, in shorts, in whatever. Clothes don't make the girl. Everything else does.

Jake

So well stated. Thank you!

intrigue_in916 · 10-03-2011, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Quintease

I don't understand gendered compliments or insults. To me, everyone is equally beautiful or a slut

OR ~~ Damn I'm beautifully slutty looking today

intrigue_in916 · 10-03-2011, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by NIGHTrambler

I happen to be of the opinion that all femme women are beautiful ---femmes are amazing - beautiful - intriquing- sexy - captivating women -which is why we butches love them - right? - So it is for us to compliment them before they should need to ask - unless they are asking in that playful teasing way - that only they know how to ask?

However like others have posted I don't just think it is across the board not just femmes - we seem to have a hard time accepting compliments sometimes or off put someone who does - a simple smile or thank you is all that is needed - to rebuff someones genuine compliment is to take away their (blessing) so to speak.

We all need to compliment each other more - butches and femmes alike - and not just about clothing - but the way perhaps she smiles or how her eyes twinkle when she sees you or the shy way she slowly takes your hand - or perhaps how boldly and passionately she kisses you in public - just because - or the way she tosses her head back and laughs - that is just so amazing - lots of ways to compliment ---my advice --take notice of them all!

WOW! Night that is well put. And if I might add HOTT

clay · 10-03-2011, 01:18 PM

agrees with intrigue...and yes night...very well put! I am one who loves to compliment "people" on something I may admire about them, or what they may have on..be it clothes..be it cologne..be it a smile...and am easily "bruised" when someone isn't able to accept it just for what it is..a COMPLIMENT. Caring and concern, being ones also...let it just be simply that...care and concern..and a compliment...thanks for the post! Clay

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Originally Posted by intrigue_in916

WOW! Night that is well put. And if I might add HOTT

intrigue_in916 · 10-03-2011, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Hack

When in a relationship, my girl is told she looks amazing/stunning/hot/beautiful/sexy/gorgeous in her favorite little black dress, jeans and a t-shirt, in her work wear, wearing one of my dress shirts, in her pajamas, in my pajamas, in shorts, in whatever. Clothes don't make the girl. Everything else does.

Jake

Question `~ Do play clothes make the woman, or just lend to the fantasy?

intrigue_in916 · 10-03-2011, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Tommi

Never. Because, in the eyes of the beholder, "femme" always looks amazing.

signing up, because...i've been on vacation and missed the funny's

Tommi, Those were key words, 'BEAUTY IS ALWAYS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER'

cuddlyfemme · 10-05-2011, 06:10 AM

I totally agree with Intergue...Tommi those are the key words "Beauty Is In The Eye of the Beholder" It doesn't matter what others think is beautiful, its only what you think

ruffryder · 10-05-2011, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Merlin

Why when a femme asks you how she looks in an outfit .. Does she think your lying when you tell her she looks amazing ?

I hope not, because I'm not!

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Originally Posted by Hack

When in a relationship, my girl is told she looks amazing/stunning/hot/beautiful/sexy/gorgeous in her favorite little black dress, jeans and a t-shirt, in her work wear, wearing one of my dress shirts, in her pajamas, in my pajamas, in shorts, in whatever. Clothes don't make the girl. Everything else does.

Jake

Definitely Jake, I agree. If you are with the girl, she looks good always! (:
I got accused of "staring" at my girl cause I kept looking at her cause she is damn amazing and beautiful and I was mesmerized. The clothes she wears, the way she acts, and her mannerisms are all a part of who she is and it's all beautiful to me!

LaneyDoll · 10-05-2011, 11:26 AM

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Originally Posted by ruffryder

Definitely Jake, I agree. If you are with the girl, she looks good always! (:
I got accused of "staring" at my girl cause I kept looking at her cause she is damn amazing and beautiful and I was mesmerized. The clothes she wears, the way she acts, and her mannerisms are all a part of who she is and it's all beautiful to me!

Awww, that is soooooo sweet!

AtLast · 10-05-2011, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Starbuck

Okay, this may or may not be the place to post this, but I have a question that I think needs to be answered by someone in the butch zone. I consider myself a soft femme, I'm dating a lipstick lesbian...she is HOT! This is where my question comes in: I am attracted to other soft femmes (or so it seems) and soft butches. What the hell? I love looking at a femmes ass and then I love making eye contact with a butch thinking "man I really go for that". Am I confused or just a middle of the road type person?? Someone please answer me.

I think you are who you are and that is just fine!

ruffryder · 10-05-2011, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by AtLastHome

I think you are who you are and that is just fine!

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Originally Posted by DCStone

I do not necessarily think you are confused. Nothing wrong with allowing yourself to enjoy all types of women.

TO STARBUCK: I agree. I think you will figure it out in time, no need to be confused darlin.

08-18-2011, 04:13 PM	#61
Dominique Member How Do You Identify?: Female/Lesbian/half the athlete I used to be Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: Dates Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: So proud to be a Pittsburgher Posts: 1,484 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,645 Thanked 3,730 Times in 1,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	if thats the case, I appologize. I did not read all 64 posts. I read alot, and it was mostly femmes postings. Sorry, as sorrys are do! ETA:...Yes, post two says femme please apply. my bad! __________________ As long as there was coffee in the world, how bad could things be??

08-18-2011, 05:35 PM	#63
Starbuck Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Soft Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Oklahoma City Posts: 2,436 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,378 Thanked 2,148 Times in 756 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Question... Okay, this may or may not be the place to post this, but I have a question that I think needs to be answered by someone in the butch zone. I consider myself a soft femme, I'm dating a lipstick lesbian...she is HOT! This is where my question comes in: I am attracted to other soft femmes (or so it seems) and soft butches. What the hell? I love looking at a femmes ass and then I love making eye contact with a butch thinking "man I really go for that". Am I confused or just a middle of the road type person?? Someone please answer me. __________________ To forgive is to set the prisoner free, And then discover the prisoner was you.

08-18-2011, 05:37 PM	#64
DCStone Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: DC metro Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 95 Thanked 26 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 27820	Just my opinion... I appreciate the thread and all of the comments. I know that as a Stone Butch, I like to feel appreciated. Also, being called sexy or hot is certainly fine by me. Sometimes I am in my head a bit too much and forget to say out loud what I am thinking when I see my girl. She is sexy and beautiful...and needs to hear that from me. Bottom-line...we could all probably use some stroking living in a world that can be very harsh towards those that look or seem different. __________________ DCStone

08-28-2011, 03:54 PM	#69
Tangle Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme w/o the high maintenance Preferred Pronoun?: Two guesses ;-) Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: mountain west Posts: 142 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 929 Thanked 319 Times in 101 Posts Rep Power: 7287900	i have a different take... This is my ideal answer to the big butt question: "yes, baby, your ass looks big in that skirt. and oohhhhh, baby, you Know i sure do like it that way." ...as s/he grabs me for a kiss. giggling lol- How bout that? Doesn't sound so bad to me! ...how does that song go? itty bitty waist and round thing in your face, you get sprung...

10-05-2011, 06:10 AM	#76
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	I totally agree with Intergue...Tommi those are the key words "Beauty Is In The Eye of the Beholder" It doesn't matter what others think is beautiful, its only what you think