The Little Things You Tell Yourself To Get You Through (A/The) Rough Spot

kittygrrl · 11-01-2012, 10:23 PM

Yesterday Today..Please share even if it seems silly, weird, ordinary, or even painful..it's could be the very thing needed by someone when they are facing a hump, bump, rough patch, or?????

Mine today was:

"No, you do not need that crunchy donut, it's not raw or vegan, and you will be so unhappy you gave in to "it" once you've had the last yummy bite" (I can't believe I am telling you this)

Be Brave! Thanks

Hollylane · 11-01-2012, 10:27 PM

From the movie, Point of No Return, and said with dripping sarcasm and a saccharin smile....

"I never did mind about the little things..."

Dance-with-me · 11-01-2012, 10:32 PM

Getting me through today - hitting a raccoon which tore up the front end of my car, for which I now have a $500 deductible at a time that's very tough for me financially, and while I'm in the middle of one of the most stressful times of my life overall:

Grant me
the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

That gets me through pretty much every day these days.

Can I change what happened? No.
Can I change the outcome? No.
Can I accept that it is what it is without falling into the Pit of Despair? Yes.
Can I look, with a head that isn't overwhelmed with stress and depression, at what I might be able to do to help get through this difficult time? Yes.

Elijah · 11-01-2012, 10:46 PM

"Feelings aren't facts", "This too shall pass" or "You are not tragically unique" or more softly put...you aren't alone or the first one to go this.

But what helps most of all is to pick up the phone and talk to a friend who will be compassionate balanced with a little side of truth and reality.

Cody0166 · 11-01-2012, 10:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

Mine today was:

"No, you do not need that crunchy donut, it's not raw or vegan, and you will be so unhappy you gave in to "it" once you've had the last yummy bite" (I can't believe I am telling you this)

Be Brave! Thanks

BUSTED
All crunchy donuts are mine!

LeftWriteFemme · 01-01-2013, 08:10 PM

RockOn · 01-01-2013, 08:32 PM

This is what I say to myself:

"I can stand it."

or

"Tighten up, you are not going to die from it."

or

"It's not that bad, get over it."

Then I do something to occupy my mind so I won't dwell on it.

And it does pass eventually ... or ... something worse comes up
and the original gets bumped to the back of the queue. (LOL! joking around)

TimilDeeps · 01-01-2013, 08:52 PM

All is well.

always2late · 01-01-2013, 08:59 PM

I've found that when I'm facing something daunting it helps me to tell myself "You WILL do this!" rather than "You can do this." For some reason, it just gives me more momentum and resolve.

MsTinkerbelly · 01-01-2013, 09:01 PM

I know it sounds hokey, but I really do "give it up to God"

MarquisdeShey · 01-01-2013, 09:06 PM

Sometimes I like to tell myself "you've done harder things than this" or "you will know what you're capable of when its finished"

Soft*Silver · 01-01-2013, 11:15 PM

I have survived so much in my life...things legends are made of. So I always tell myself I did all that..I can do (this) too.

I also am a firm believe in giving time time. Wait it out. Sometimes thats all I can do.

and if I am feeling particularly horsey at the time, my fall backs are...

"Just ride it like a good horse"

"Sit in the saddle until the ride is over..."

But then I also ask myself, whats my choice? To do this or die? Or lose a job? Or a friendship or? Just do it then.

And my last resort pep talk is "you know you wont survive prison"
and I mean it when I actually have to pull this one out!

Hollylane · 01-01-2013, 11:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by always2late

I've found that when I'm facing something daunting it helps me to tell myself "You WILL do this!" rather than "You can do this." For some reason, it just gives me more momentum and resolve.

Fatale · 01-01-2013, 11:39 PM

I go for long walks. Sometimes in the city so I can just absorb, other times on trails where I can release. While on them I like to focus on how strong I feel, how good my body feels doing what it's designed to do.

I also remind myself that most people are more concerned with what their own ass looks like.

Rockinonahigh · 01-02-2013, 12:50 AM

When I use to ride hoprses for a liveing there were times I knew I was probly
in way over my head in competition with some other trainers with the horses they rode.I use to tell myself this...I am as well mounted as anyone just do what you know how to do best and trust in your team mate(horse) or make a plan now ride the plan.Some said it was corney but heck it worked for me.

Prudence · 01-02-2013, 10:48 AM

I stomp, scream, growl, cuss, hell-- I blow a gasket. Then I take a vigorous walk which usually brings tears. By the time I return home, my heads clear, and my lil inner voice whispers--- "lean not upon your own understanding."

cinnamongrrl · 01-02-2013, 11:03 AM

Something my dad always told me...

No matter how bad things are in your life, someone out there has it worse...that keeps me from drowning in a pity pool. It makes me realize, other people have overcome greater obstacles, I really have no right to complain

skeeter_01 · 01-02-2013, 05:23 PM

I begin to thank my HP for giving me courage and strength to take care of what needs to be taken care of...even though I haven't felt the courage or strength yet...

I find my prayers work MUCH better for me when I say "thank you" instead of "please"...

Talon · 02-11-2013, 02:11 PM

These feelings will pass.

Or...

Don't be a pussy.

Amber2010 · 02-11-2013, 02:59 PM

When it gets really bad and I feel like I just can't take any more I tell my self, "This time next year this will just be a memory and I made it though another rough time" I know that sounds weird but that does help me through it knowing the things that hurt so bad a year ago even though they are there just are not as strong inside as they were that day.

11-01-2012, 10:23 PM	#1
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Dance-with-me Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: earth Posts: 419 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 264 Thanked 1,926 Times in 378 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Getting me through today - hitting a raccoon which tore up the front end of my car, for which I now have a $500 deductible at a time that's very tough for me financially, and while I'm in the middle of one of the most stressful times of my life overall: Grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. That gets me through pretty much every day these days. Can I change what happened? No. Can I change the outcome? No. Can I accept that it is what it is without falling into the Pit of Despair? Yes. Can I look, with a head that isn't overwhelmed with stress and depression, at what I might be able to do to help get through this difficult time? Yes. __________________ Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. ~Mahatma Gandhi

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RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	This is what I say to myself: "I can stand it." or "Tighten up, you are not going to die from it." or "It's not that bad, get over it." Then I do something to occupy my mind so I won't dwell on it. And it does pass eventually ... or ... something worse comes up and the original gets bumped to the back of the queue. (LOL! joking around)

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01-01-2013, 11:39 PM	#14
Fatale Member How Do You Identify?: Not your average babe in the woods. Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: The edge Posts: 210 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22 Thanked 896 Times in 166 Posts Rep Power: 12150548	I go for long walks. Sometimes in the city so I can just absorb, other times on trails where I can release. While on them I like to focus on how strong I feel, how good my body feels doing what it's designed to do. I also remind myself that most people are more concerned with what their own ass looks like.

01-02-2013, 12:50 AM	#15
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	When I use to ride hoprses for a liveing there were times I knew I was probly in way over my head in competition with some other trainers with the horses they rode.I use to tell myself this...I am as well mounted as anyone just do what you know how to do best and trust in your team mate(horse) or make a plan now ride the plan.Some said it was corney but heck it worked for me.

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cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,665 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,246 Thanked 27,604 Times in 6,959 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Something my dad always told me... No matter how bad things are in your life, someone out there has it worse...that keeps me from drowning in a pity pool. It makes me realize, other people have overcome greater obstacles, I really have no right to complain

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Talon Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Divine Feminine Preferred Pronoun?: . Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: . Posts: 4,921 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,246 Thanked 10,223 Times in 3,305 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	One of two things that I say to myself, depending on the circumstance... These feelings will pass. Or... Don't be a pussy.

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Amber2010 Member How Do You Identify?: Happy, Crazy, Bubbly, Funny, Strong, Outgoing, Friendly Preferred Pronoun?: Femme Relationship Status: Complicated Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 920 Thanked 594 Times in 154 Posts Rep Power: 3787185	When it gets really bad and I feel like I just can't take any more I tell my self, "This time next year this will just be a memory and I made it though another rough time" I know that sounds weird but that does help me through it knowing the things that hurt so bad a year ago even though they are there just are not as strong inside as they were that day.