The Fat Positive Lounge - Page 21

thedivahrrrself · 05-21-2013, 12:50 PM

From The Militant Baker

Her entire line of A&F re-imagined ads can be found here

LeftWriteFemme · 06-03-2013, 11:29 AM

LeftWriteFemme · 06-10-2013, 09:19 AM

Thought I would share this.

http://villainouslove.wordpress.com/...dy-is-amazing/

Soft*Silver · 06-10-2013, 01:14 PM

I have shared with all of you the wonderment of my shop for plus size women. Now I must share the sadness of its closing. I am unable to physically do the work required and cannot keep up with the demands of the shop. I cannot afford to hire help, as it is still a fledgling business. It is breaking my heart to do this but I have not been able to catch up ever since I had complete shoulder replacement surgery. Even three months later, I am still struggling to move clothes from one rack to another, let alone move racks themselves. I cannot reach to get mannequins down to change their outfits. Hanging new items on hangers is so repetitive that its straining my incision area.
I am announcing this to my public on July 1st. I will close August 1st.

I will offer the items back to the consignors. Those who do not want to come get them can agree for them to be donated to local charities.

Even this amount of work is daunting. How will i ever do this?

MsBluem · 06-20-2013, 08:16 PM

I love my body, every stretch mark, dimple and roll...but today it's been hard to remind myself of the fierce femme fatty that I am.

What do you folks do when you're in this situation?

nycfem · 06-20-2013, 08:37 PM

On my way to bed, but just throwin' some love to us all!

Soft*Silver · 06-20-2013, 10:09 PM

well, my friends are refusing to let me lock the door on the shop. We are looking for a smaller space, to downsize rather than close. If I can do less, until I can heal up the right way, I can keep the doors open. So we are scrambling to find a space.

I am also getting married in 24 days. I am losing my mind over that too! Why did I think I could put on a wedding??? LOL.

I have gained back some of the weight I lost after my stumach surgery. I am SO not worried about this. I remember when I had my eating disorder and a half a pound would make me so anxious! Shrug. Its so not an issue with me. I love being in my 50s. Better yet, I love accepting myself. You can do that at any age...

MsBluem · 06-20-2013, 10:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Miss_Tia

well, my friends are refusing to let me lock the door on the shop. We are looking for a smaller space, to downsize rather than close. If I can do less, until I can heal up the right way, I can keep the doors open. So we are scrambling to find a space.

I am also getting married in 24 days. I am losing my mind over that too! Why did I think I could put on a wedding??? LOL.

I have gained back some of the weight I lost after my stumach surgery. I am SO not worried about this. I remember when I had my eating disorder and a half a pound would make me so anxious! Shrug. Its so not an issue with me. I love being in my 50s. Better yet, I love accepting myself. You can do that at any age...

So happy to hear you don't have to close your doors!

Congrats on getting married, too! :-)

Soft*Silver · 06-22-2013, 08:00 PM

we found the cutest little shop! Its half the size of my first shop, but it comes with things we didnt have in the first one, like air conditioning! It was 90 degrees outside today so inside the shop was horrible! And it has a work area. We had no choice but to work on consignments behind the counter...but no more. Now we even have a separate entrance for consignors to use so we can keep them totally off the floor until they are ready to go out ticketed.. And it has PARKING! we only had on street parking before and now we have front, back and side parking. Oh boy am I glad we went looking!

I have someone who is painting it and repairing all the holes the last tenant made w their on the wall fixtures. We are moving in by July 15th...which is pretty amazing since I am getting married July 14th. Think I have enuf on my plate?

The :Pretties who are in the closest circle all knew how much I was struggling with the shoulder. Downsizing is by the better choice than closing all together. However I have to do it, I want to do it to stay open. I can go larger when my arm is better....

MsBluem · 06-23-2013, 08:19 PM

Going swimsuit shopping Wednesday. Might even try on a bikini or two!

@Miss Tia, I don't know you but I'm super psyched for all the stuff going on for you. Does/will your shop have a place to buy things online?

Soft*Silver · 06-23-2013, 10:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MsBluem

Going swimsuit shopping Wednesday. Might even try on a bikini or two!

@Miss Tia, I don't know you but I'm super psyched for all the stuff going on for you. Does/will your shop have a place to buy things online?

once we get moved and settled, we are starting an ebay store. Currently we have some purses on, under teahstreasures. I just brought in a box of stilleto heels in sizes 9, 10 and 11 and they will be added over the next few days. We will have a continual flow of merchandise offered on ebay, sorting by size and category of item. Like, one days postings will be all size 2x tops. Next day will be 3x tops. Etc. We have a work area that is conducive for us to do this now!

http://www.ebay.com/sch/teahstreasur...p2047675.l2562

nycfem · 07-04-2013, 07:06 PM

fun for summer!

SugarFemme · 07-04-2013, 07:51 PM

Gawd...I wish I had the balls (Ovaries LOL) to wear a bikini

Quote:

Originally Posted by nycfembbw

fun for summer!

nycfem · 07-08-2013, 09:11 PM

LeftWriteFemme · 07-09-2013, 07:19 PM

LeftWriteFemme · 07-19-2013, 02:27 PM

Here is a link to the Beautiful Body Book Project

I am posting it as a link due to nudity in the video and I don't want to transgress the TOS, but please if you have the time click the link and watch, it's a wonderful video of moms and kids and beauty. Hope you enjoy!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nolE35GHCE4

Soft*Silver · 07-19-2013, 06:44 PM

I know this is going to sound SO contradictory but the sight of a pregnant body is so repulsive to me. Its a gut reaction, and it stems from my two very difficult pregnancies. One ended in a horrible bloody miscarriage where I almost died, and the second was a live birth (thank GOD) that I lived every day for nine months in misery, physically and mentally. Pregnancy was SO revolting to me that I had my tubes tied as soon as my daughter was born.

In saying this, I could not finish watching that video. I had No problem with any of the photos where a woman was not pregnant. But oh boy....the pregnant photos brought me back...

its funny how some things are triggers for one person and joyous celebrations for others.

nycfem · 08-07-2013, 10:08 AM

Health at every size, dammit!

Here's a fun little piece on Slate (lots of photos with a few wise words!):

http://www.slate.com/blogs/behold/20...share_blogpost

Soft*Silver · 08-07-2013, 11:32 AM

I started a new thread called Fat Words because I need some help in writing an article. I didnt want to ask in here, because I am asking for words that hurt, and this is SUCH a positive thread and I want to maintain that. But if you would like to help me would you please meander over to the other thread? Caution: This could be triggery. If you can bear it, please help. If not, I totally understand and I am sorry for your pain...

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...593#post830593

LeftWriteFemme · 08-16-2013, 05:42 PM

05-21-2013, 12:50 PM	#401
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06-03-2013, 11:29 AM	#402
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,285 Times in 5,184 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	What a nice boy........ __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

06-10-2013, 09:19 AM	#403
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,285 Times in 5,184 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	Thought I would share this. http://villainouslove.wordpress.com/...dy-is-amazing/ __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

06-20-2013, 08:16 PM	#405
MsBluem Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones are fine Relationship Status: open Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Indiana Posts: 397 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 333 Thanked 1,845 Times in 372 Posts Rep Power: 16353569	I love my body, every stretch mark, dimple and roll...but today it's been hard to remind myself of the fierce femme fatty that I am. What do you folks do when you're in this situation? __________________ “Never forget who you are, for surely the world won’t. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.”

06-20-2013, 08:37 PM	#406
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,795 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,988 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	On my way to bed, but just throwin' some love to us all! __________________ *** How do I... ?** Check out the Members Helping Members thread: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...embers+Helping

06-10-2013, 01:14 PM	#404
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I have shared with all of you the wonderment of my shop for plus size women. Now I must share the sadness of its closing. I am unable to physically do the work required and cannot keep up with the demands of the shop. I cannot afford to hire help, as it is still a fledgling business. It is breaking my heart to do this but I have not been able to catch up ever since I had complete shoulder replacement surgery. Even three months later, I am still struggling to move clothes from one rack to another, let alone move racks themselves. I cannot reach to get mannequins down to change their outfits. Hanging new items on hangers is so repetitive that its straining my incision area. I am announcing this to my public on July 1st. I will close August 1st. I will offer the items back to the consignors. Those who do not want to come get them can agree for them to be donated to local charities. Even this amount of work is daunting. How will i ever do this?

06-20-2013, 10:09 PM	#407
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	well, my friends are refusing to let me lock the door on the shop. We are looking for a smaller space, to downsize rather than close. If I can do less, until I can heal up the right way, I can keep the doors open. So we are scrambling to find a space. I am also getting married in 24 days. I am losing my mind over that too! Why did I think I could put on a wedding??? LOL. I have gained back some of the weight I lost after my stumach surgery. I am SO not worried about this. I remember when I had my eating disorder and a half a pound would make me so anxious! Shrug. Its so not an issue with me. I love being in my 50s. Better yet, I love accepting myself. You can do that at any age...

06-22-2013, 08:00 PM	#409
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	we found the cutest little shop! Its half the size of my first shop, but it comes with things we didnt have in the first one, like air conditioning! It was 90 degrees outside today so inside the shop was horrible! And it has a work area. We had no choice but to work on consignments behind the counter...but no more. Now we even have a separate entrance for consignors to use so we can keep them totally off the floor until they are ready to go out ticketed.. And it has PARKING! we only had on street parking before and now we have front, back and side parking. Oh boy am I glad we went looking! I have someone who is painting it and repairing all the holes the last tenant made w their on the wall fixtures. We are moving in by July 15th...which is pretty amazing since I am getting married July 14th. Think I have enuf on my plate? The :Pretties who are in the closest circle all knew how much I was struggling with the shoulder. Downsizing is by the better choice than closing all together. However I have to do it, I want to do it to stay open. I can go larger when my arm is better....

06-23-2013, 08:19 PM	#410
MsBluem Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones are fine Relationship Status: open Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Indiana Posts: 397 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 333 Thanked 1,845 Times in 372 Posts Rep Power: 16353569	Going swimsuit shopping Wednesday. Might even try on a bikini or two! @Miss Tia, I don't know you but I'm super psyched for all the stuff going on for you. Does/will your shop have a place to buy things online? __________________ “Never forget who you are, for surely the world won’t. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.”

07-04-2013, 07:06 PM	#412
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,795 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,988 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	fun for summer! __________________ *** How do I... ?** Check out the Members Helping Members thread: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...embers+Helping

07-08-2013, 09:11 PM	#414
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,795 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,988 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	__________________ *** How do I... ?** Check out the Members Helping Members thread: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...embers+Helping

07-09-2013, 07:19 PM	#415
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,285 Times in 5,184 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	__________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

07-19-2013, 02:27 PM	#416
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,285 Times in 5,184 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	Here is a link to the Beautiful Body Book Project I am posting it as a link due to nudity in the video and I don't want to transgress the TOS, but please if you have the time click the link and watch, it's a wonderful video of moms and kids and beauty. Hope you enjoy! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nolE35GHCE4 __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

07-19-2013, 06:44 PM	#417
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I know this is going to sound SO contradictory but the sight of a pregnant body is so repulsive to me. Its a gut reaction, and it stems from my two very difficult pregnancies. One ended in a horrible bloody miscarriage where I almost died, and the second was a live birth (thank GOD) that I lived every day for nine months in misery, physically and mentally. Pregnancy was SO revolting to me that I had my tubes tied as soon as my daughter was born. In saying this, I could not finish watching that video. I had No problem with any of the photos where a woman was not pregnant. But oh boy....the pregnant photos brought me back... its funny how some things are triggers for one person and joyous celebrations for others. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

08-07-2013, 10:08 AM	#418
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,795 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,988 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Health at every size, dammit! Here's a fun little piece on Slate (lots of photos with a few wise words!): http://www.slate.com/blogs/behold/20...share_blogpost __________________ *** How do I... ?** Check out the Members Helping Members thread: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...embers+Helping

08-07-2013, 11:32 AM	#419
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I started a new thread called Fat Words because I need some help in writing an article. I didnt want to ask in here, because I am asking for words that hurt, and this is SUCH a positive thread and I want to maintain that. But if you would like to help me would you please meander over to the other thread? Caution: This could be triggery. If you can bear it, please help. If not, I totally understand and I am sorry for your pain... http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...593#post830593 __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

08-16-2013, 05:42 PM	#420
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,285 Times in 5,184 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	She has other videos to __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat