What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)? - Page 12

MysticOceansFL · 01-09-2014, 05:41 AM

Principled and morals, compassion and passionate and having an opened mind and heart. for me its just not about being ready.

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Originally Posted by kittygrrl

principled
passionate
ready

Flynn · 01-09-2014, 05:41 AM

Honesty, faithfulness, committed.

01-09-2014, 05:56 AM

Honesty, open-mindedness and willingness.

fatallyblonde · 01-11-2014, 04:24 AM

I'm trying to decide which of my non negotiables are most important here...
...
1. have your shit together (be employed or otherwise able to support yourself)
2. don't be an abusive jerk (this includes no headgames or drama for the sake of it)
3. be committed, loyal and honest

puddin' · 01-11-2014, 08:19 AM

be real
be kind
be giving

*Anya* · 01-11-2014, 09:11 AM

No fear or defensiveness in hearing the authentic feelings of another.

In turn, talking from the heart, with depth, emotion and vulnerability;

regarding how you are feeling.

Both, without false selves, keeping each others' sharing as gifts and trusting that it was safe to open up.

LeatherBentOne · 01-12-2014, 12:17 PM

NO drugs, including marijuana
NO alcohol except social or very light drinking
NO infidelity
NO dishonesty, full disclosure expected

NO EXCUSES

GeeGina · 01-12-2014, 02:17 PM

For me, the non-negotiables are:

1. Honesty - no secrets, ever.
2. A sense of humor.
3. Communication.

Kinda simple, but at the same time if they're so damn simple why are they so hard to do?

01-12-2014, 03:52 PM

An IQ over 130
A wide vocabulary and the ability to use it with relish
Willingness to get downright filthy!

caffeinelover · 01-15-2014, 12:58 PM

1 -Healthy in body and mind =

In body: No self-inflicted diseases ( ex: lung cancer from smoking, obesity from overeating, lack of mobility from said obesity and lack of exercise, etc = I'm an ex-obese before you flame me!)

Zero addictions: including porn, videogames, internet, prescription drugs such as antidepressant (someone unable to function without their pills).
Alcohol socially o.k. Occasional marijuana negotiable.
Preferably non-smoker.

In mind: Psychologically- sound:with no unrecognized unhealthy patterns.
Negotiable: Someone working on themselves actively through therapy, meditation, whatever form of self-development is fine with me as long as there is action taken.

2- Not hurting animals or human beings.
No hunting or fishing, no working in the meat industry or any industry hurting animals, no restraining orders from abused spouses or family members in their past

3- Loyalty, faithfulness

Sweet Bliss · 01-16-2014, 12:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Daktari

An IQ over 130
A wide vocabulary and the ability to use it with relish
Willingness to get downright filthy!

*throws afghan over ya... gotcha covered!!!!!

Sweet Bliss · 01-17-2014, 07:08 AM

MysticOceansFL · 01-17-2014, 08:29 AM

Sweet Bliss ;
An IQ over 130
A wide vocabulary and the ability to use it with relish
Willingness to get downright filthy!

Well, everyone is smart in their own way so I wouldn't place a limit on someone's ability.

Having a wide range of vocabulary and the ability to use it with relish is nice but willingness to use it in a down right filthy way. I guess it would be great but anyone can use vocabulary well in that way but wouldn't that after a while getting a little redundant like reading fifty shades of grey eh? I mean that's just mhop, besides I prefer the real deal.

01-17-2014, 09:12 AM

Katniss · 01-17-2014, 09:24 AM

Hey now, some folks pay good money for mud.....

01-17-2014, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Katniss

Hey now, some folks pay good money for mud.....

Of course they do; how do you think I became an eccentric millionaire?

Redsunflower · 01-17-2014, 10:32 AM

My 3 non-negotiables are:

1. Above average intelligence

2. The attitude to handle a big cock

3. Zero enmeshment with previous partners

joyfulfemme · 01-17-2014, 11:04 AM

1. Honesty.
2. Fidelity.
3. Devotion.

These are reciprocal. Ask for nothing you arent willing to give.

Sweet Bliss · 01-17-2014, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by joyfulfemme

1. Honesty.
2. Fidelity.
3. Devotion.

These are reciprocal. Ask for nothing you arent willing to give.

AMEN love!

Sweet Bliss · 01-17-2014, 04:29 PM

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01-17-2014, 09:12 AM	#234
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fatallyblonde Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: earth Posts: 446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 389 Thanked 770 Times in 181 Posts Rep Power: 7054721	I'm trying to decide which of my non negotiables are most important here... ... 1. have your shit together (be employed or otherwise able to support yourself) 2. don't be an abusive jerk (this includes no headgames or drama for the sake of it) 3. be committed, loyal and honest

01-12-2014, 12:17 PM	#227
LeatherBentOne Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Grafton WI Posts: 1 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 3 Times in 1 Post Rep Power: 0	NO drugs, including marijuana NO alcohol except social or very light drinking NO infidelity NO dishonesty, full disclosure expected NO EXCUSES

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GeeGina Member How Do You Identify?: Femme, but flexible. Preferred Pronoun?: Miss Relationship Status: Single. Looking. Available. Open. Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 111 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10 Thanked 410 Times in 76 Posts Rep Power: 4115107	For me, the non-negotiables are: 1. Honesty - no secrets, ever. 2. A sense of humor. 3. Communication. Kinda simple, but at the same time if they're so damn simple why are they so hard to do?

01-12-2014, 03:52 PM	#229
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	An IQ over 130 A wide vocabulary and the ability to use it with relish Willingness to get downright filthy!

01-15-2014, 12:58 PM	#230
caffeinelover Junior Member How Do You Identify?: ------------------ Preferred Pronoun?: ------------------------- Relationship Status: -------------------------- Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: -------------------- Posts: 18 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 40 Thanked 65 Times in 15 Posts Rep Power: 429510	1 -Healthy in body and mind = In body: No self-inflicted diseases ( ex: lung cancer from smoking, obesity from overeating, lack of mobility from said obesity and lack of exercise, etc = I'm an ex-obese before you flame me!) Zero addictions: including porn, videogames, internet, prescription drugs such as antidepressant (someone unable to function without their pills). Alcohol socially o.k. Occasional marijuana negotiable. Preferably non-smoker. In mind: Psychologically- sound:with no unrecognized unhealthy patterns. Negotiable: Someone working on themselves actively through therapy, meditation, whatever form of self-development is fine with me as long as there is action taken. 2- Not hurting animals or human beings. No hunting or fishing, no working in the meat industry or any industry hurting animals, no restraining orders from abused spouses or family members in their past 3- Loyalty, faithfulness

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01-17-2014, 10:32 AM	#237
Redsunflower Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: UK Posts: 459 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 548 Thanked 564 Times in 138 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	My 3 non-negotiables are: 1. Above average intelligence 2. The attitude to handle a big cock 3. Zero enmeshment with previous partners

01-17-2014, 11:04 AM	#238
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