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			Since my Instant Turn-Ons thread seems to still be running along happily, I thought I would start one about instant turn-offs as well.  
		
		
		
		
		
		
			You see hym/her across a crowded room. You strike up a conversation. There's a spark and then...BAM...something ruins the mood so quickly you can't even believe you thought you were attracted to this person. Is it their breath? A rude comment to the waiter? What are your instant turn-offs? 
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 I would have to say a huge turn off is negativity ~ I can't handle ppl w/ constant negativity , moody , unsatisfied behavior . 
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			poor hygiene, rudeness, ignorance, rudeness and lacking compassion and rudeness
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
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			arrogance, mainly. also sometimes i am just instinctively/physically turned off to folks for no reason whatsoever...they could be the nicest potential date in the world or whatevs and something just makes my skin crawl and i can't get over it.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
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			Bad breath, dirty hair and nails, b.o...  any stink!  Hairy pits and legs on a woman.  Big bush.  Hearing about the exes.  Foul language used in regular conversation.  Cheesy lines you KNOW they've used on others.  Dishonesty most of all.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
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			An aversion to reading and learning The inability to sit still and be silent Boorishness Soulless chameleons 
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			harsh demeanor, harsh talking ... BOOM it's over 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	more later ... must shower for work Girl_On_Fire, great idea for a topic!  
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			-Sexist language 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			-Policing my behaviour with the idea that X, Y, Z isn't very "ladylike" (barf) -Calling their exes psycho, crazy, a "total bitch", etc -Someone who says they don't want "any drama" or "drama queens" (HUGE red flag - run!) ... When typing this my phone autocorrected "bitch" to "butch" seven times in a row... Apparently my phone knows me better than I do.  
		
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			Bad grooming in general, but greasy hair is another bad one for me. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
		
		
		
		
	Also, chewing loudly. Cracking knuckles. Biting nails. Being inconsiderate and/or selfish, worse off if a person is downright mean. Someone who never reads and is proud of that fact. I find it interesting that I am able to much more specifically name what turns me off as opposed to what turns me on. o.0  | 
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			Overly negative...we all have bad days but if there are only bad days buh bye. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	Overly needy... Poor personal hygiene... Insensitive to others... Dislikes animals... Overly harsh about exes... Frequently catty or harsh gossiping... I agree that turn offs are easier to define than turn-ons. There is a lot that doesn't work for me, but the stuff that does work is only a turn on when some people do it.  | 
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