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Originally Posted by kannon

It really depends on a lot of different factors.

For my personal situation, I'm not going out of my way to hide and I'm not going out of my way to reveal it. I'm being me. I don't think I need to tell strangers that I'm trans just like I don't feel compelled to tell them that I'm of Scottish decent or any thing else that's not relevant to the moment. The "moment" being the early stages of a relationship. I choose to introduce acquaintances to my sense of humor and my laid back nature. I reveal more as I develop trust and feel more comfortable around them.

I guess I'm putting this in the framework of dating members of the queer community. If I'm dating a femme, she's probably going to know quickly that I'm trans, not because I've announced it through a loud speaker or tattooed it on my forehead, but because queer dating usually comes with the assumption that the other person is also somehow queer. Especially if we met in a queer environment, which is most likely. That's what I'm talking about when I'm talking about it depending on whether you're living stealth or not. I would understand if a guy is living stealth and dating non-queer women why the subject wouldn't come up. But in a queer atmosphere where someone isn't stealth, then "queer" is still going to be an unspoken factor unlike in the hetero world where the assumption is that you're straight.

Hopefully that makes more sense.