OFOS Butches & Femmes

girl_dee · 11-01-2017, 04:14 PM

i consider myself an old school femme. Maybe its my age, maybe its because i am scared of the next generation. i think our dynamic is become lost in with the battle for our rights. Gaining our rights is a great thing of course, but i think most couples just see themselves as gay, not BF. SO i am holding on to it!

What OFOS means to me is not being helped with my chair, or standing when i exit and enter the room, but simple manners. For me, sometimes those things cause me to feel like the *weaker* of the BF dynamic. If i get to the door first, i hold it open regardless of who is coming in. i can put myself in a car, i don’t like being tucked in there. i like when my butch asks me what i would like for dinner and there is soft conversation before the meal. i like to know my butch is present with me during that time.

i don’t really want to my butch to become comfortable losing good old fashioned manners after the first date. i would like my butch to have some pride in their appearance when taking me out.

i would like to feel special, and make them feel special.

Are these things really Old School?

11-01-2017, 04:14 PM	#11
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	i consider myself an old school femme. Maybe its my age, maybe its because i am scared of the next generation. i think our dynamic is become lost in with the battle for our rights. Gaining our rights is a great thing of course, but i think most couples just see themselves as gay, not BF. SO i am holding on to it! What OFOS means to me is not being helped with my chair, or standing when i exit and enter the room, but simple manners. For me, sometimes those things cause me to feel like the weaker of the BF dynamic. If i get to the door first, i hold it open regardless of who is coming in. i can put myself in a car, i don’t like being tucked in there. i like when my butch asks me what i would like for dinner and there is soft conversation before the meal. i like to know my butch is present with me during that time. i don’t really want to my butch to become comfortable losing good old fashioned manners after the first date. i would like my butch to have some pride in their appearance when taking me out. i would like to feel special, and make them feel special. Are these things really Old School?