Butches Cruel Joke?? *The Change*

[Chazz]

Masculine folk, aboard.

Originally Posted by Strappie

I am not hear to debate whether or not you know how one feels towards this issue. I am merely trying to ask other masculine folks whether or not they too have issues with the fact that we have to once again go through this sort of thing.

perhaps nobody else has these mental feelings towards "the change" perhaps it is just me?

Yet, here is a compilation of you doing just that - debating how it feels for masculine folks to go through menopause....

Originally Posted by Strappie

Mentally it it screws with me. I am butch I am masculine yet I have to go through this the same way as a g/f or a partner. And to hear those words say after you tell someone you can't sleep or you cry at the drop of a hat and they say... Oh you are going through menopause... uggghhh that's hard to hear!

It's a mental game being played... it's as if I have started puberty all over again in a butches body.


Mentally it it screws with me. I am butch I am masculine yet I have to go through this the same way as a g/f or a partner. And to hear those words say after you tell someone you can't sleep or you cry at the drop of a hat and they say... Oh you are going through menopause... uggghhh that's hard to hear!

It's a mental game being played... it's as if I have started puberty all over again in a butches body.


Physically... I say yes... we all go through it basically the same...

Mentally... Hell NO

As a tres masculine butch (albeit a woman IDed one), I feel my experience with menopause is probably no different than any other woman's experience with menopause.

To the extent that it feels different psychologically - and allowing for the fact that every women experiences menopause somewhat differently - it's me severing my mind from my body.

Not that I don't know that this is a reality for some, I'm just suggesting it may make the experience worse that it might otherwise be.

The good news is that reliable research indicates that menopause has an upside, too. Studies show that it alleviates, even resolves, intractable depression.

I guess I'm saying all this to say, NO, not all masculine butches experience menopause as dissonant from our experience of ourselves as butches.