Are butches really a dying breed?

[NitroChrys_Butch]

Originally Posted by SaltyButch

Paradox, I couldn't agree with you more, I am in Mississauga and struggle with finding a community that embraces the butch/femme dynamic let alone Old School in Toronto or the GTA in general. If you are interested in making a new friend I would welcome the opportunity.

As to "butch" a dying breed, I think the rigid definition perhaps is fading out, however, in this day and age there is a new label almost everyday to try and include everyone within our community. I'm not one for labels, but within the b/f community it's a necessity if only to wean out potential partners.

I've been known for years as a "soft butch", because I wasn't clad in the clothes deemed to be what "hard butch"....I prefer to be me, I don't wear heels, makeup or dresses, but on occassion wear silk shirts does that make me less butch. I don't think so, it makes me comfortable with me and who I am, and I'm pretty sure a certain someone has no question that I'm butch.

We need to stop letting people define "us", and embrace and be confident with who we think we are, whether it be soft butch, female Id'd, male id'd, cock id'd, stone, andro, Old School or whatever we choose. The point is "we" are Butch and we bring something different and definitive to the table.

I agree that maybe some of the rigidity is softening around the edges but for Me being younger, the "old school" is comforting. I like structure. I like that rigidness. It is a foundation to take what is there and build on it. Take the model and cast it anew... if you will.

ANYONE who tells someone else they are not "enough" of something needs to take a step (or 5) back and rethink that statement. I know as humans we judge. It is what we "do" .. but we are not judge and jury over what anyone else "is" or "does".

Everyone brings their own style to a "label". Like I said before. TWIST the label until it fits. *G

I do some things that some might consider a little feminine... I am careful with My grooming and My choice of clothes. Every butch I know is the same way. Are we cookie-cutter models. No. It is a matter of pride. Some days I am a slouch but I don't go out in public like that. I wear pink. Sometimes silk. AND, I wear it well.

Call me "less than". Go on. Your opinion of Me is not My business.