Being perceived as ditzy, flaky or shallow for being femme

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I find I run into that alot. Admittedly, mine is somewhat exacerbated by the fact I'm very upfront about being a submissive babygirl, but it's all the same problem - people seeing stereotypes instead of actual people.

I love makeup and smelling good and being soft. My hands haven't seen a callus in decades probably (especially since I type everything and barely even write anymore...lmao). I get fascinated by the silliest of things. I just powerpuff girled myself yesterday - not even kidding. I have no sense of space, time or direction. I hate math. I prefer my butch to make decisions for me. I like it when she tells me not to stay up too late and makes me eat the vegetables I hate. I have roughly zero common sense. My self-esteem is often non-existant. Some very obvious things are completely over my head. I have a very feminine voice and am generally very quiet.

I also have an actual genius level IQ. The workings of the human mind and philosophic topics are among my favorite things to study and learn about. There are certain things I can figure out very quickly. I'm a high level manager at my job and control the majority of the day to day staff and their tasks. I am not quiet when someone is threatening someone I love or when I feel the need to stand up for someone being discriminated against. I have no issue with confrontation. I can be an arrogant bitch about certain things.

People look at me and instantly check off all the things in the second paragraph. Yep. Ditzy, slow, and weak. If they even bother to find out any of the things in the third paragraph, they're completely shocked, like how dare I mess up the perfect little box I was in...lol Ugh, people make me nuts.

But just like everyone else has said. You are so much more than what people think of you. They look at you through eyes full of their own pre-concieved notions and prejudices. It's really really hard sometimes, I know. Sometimes I even forget the things in the third paragraph are true. It's a struggle.

Above all else: You do you. No one else will ever do you better.