If the stone "melts," is it stone?

[cathexis]

Live with a stone butch who on rare occasion melts, but like volcanic lava becomes solid again. In no way do I have any concerns about Her status as stone. She identifies as stone, I accept it without question. Her own self identification is all I need. I have no right to question anyone else's identification as I expect no one to question mine. She is who She says She is, and I am who I say I am.

Haven't we had enough of others saying who we should be? As a community, we have had "who we should be" forced on us way too long from outsiders. Do we really need to do it to ourselves?

Being truly genderqueer, I feel very strong about this issue.